Realizing What Matters!

How many ways can I say this? "Live in your truth!' To many times we live in someone else's truth! The crazy part is we don't realize it while it's happening but, notice it after it took place. I'm sure this sounds familiar... How many times have you been caught up doing something that you really don't feel like doing but, you allow yourself to get wrapped up in it! That feeling sucks! That is when you start realizing what really matters to you but, you don't notice at that exact moment. We go places, we meet people, we commit to situations that we ask ourselves later "What in the world am I doing here and why? This is that point of the title "Realizing what matters". Always be honest with yourself, make sure you are paying attention to what you are paying attention to! Let me explain because I'm pretty sure that sentence almost didn't make sense but, it does... In your mind, heart & core you know what you truly want. You know what you feel like doing and when you want to do. Not only that, but you also know 100% what you do not want to do. So why are you involved doing something you don't feel like doing?

If I had a buck for every time this kind of situation has occurred, I would be rich! LOL Well I don't know about rich but, I would have a few dollars in my pocket due to it. Why do we allow it, how does this happen? It is part of a superpower that works against us at times. That superpower is called "Kindness" Being kind is a awesome trait, a awesome habit and a great way to carry yourself. Honestly speaking it's needed more in todays time if you ask me. But, at the same time it kind of jams us up time to time. People would come to you and ask if you want to do a certain thing like go to the club, or attend an event or even just something simple like help them with something. The problem that take place at that moment is our superpower kicks in! LOL Here comes "Kindness" We agree to hang out because we don't want to hurt that persons feelings, we agree to chill or ride along on this annoying journey out of kindness. You know deep inside you should of said "No" I don't want to do that. If the person asking you is a true friend then they should flat out understand. At times people who are asking you honestly don't even want to do what they are asking for alone. They want to go out but, not alone. Isn't that crazy? Like how do you want to go some where and do a certain activity but, you need a tag along to do it? So many times out of kindness my peace has been disturb. So many times I have allowed to be caught in a annoying situation that I do not want to be in. So how do we fix this?

Simple solution... Live in your truth! Be honest and eliminate the unnecessary. We as people are always trying to tip toe around other people's feeling and emotions. But, the issue here is when are they going to not only tip toe be even acknowledge ours? Pay attention to what you are paying attention to! Be honest with you! If you do not want to do something just say "No, Nah, I don't want to" Simple... What are you afraid of? You think they going to fight you? LOL Please understand as you read this article I tend to repeat myself due to the fac that "repeating ourselves is something that needs to be done more often in the right format and situation. As someone is speaking to you and presenting a situation that you know deep in your heart you don't want to be part of or feel like attending... Listen to your inner thoughts, your idea of a good time, your peace.... Pay attention to what you are paying attention to! Pay attention to you. The more mature I got in this life I realized the hard way that people 9 out of 10 times put their feeing ahead of yours. Now that is totally understandable but, it's wild that they come 1st but, to us we come 2nd? That is where the problem sits. It has nothing to do with being tough, aggressive or straight forward. It all has to do with being honest with yourself. What matters to you? Surround yourself with people who make you happy, sometimes that's the key.... The key at times isn't even people. If you are anything like me, you enjoy your alone time. You are the person who makes you happy, you are the company.