Please don't manipulate people's hearts through expectation management, please!

It is said that I was going to go out for work today, but at two o'clock in the morning last night, I received a notification from a client that he was ill and asked if the meeting could be postponed to the day after tomorrow. I had to go out to work today and tomorrow, and I had an appointment with a friend for dinner after work. I feel that the full schedule makes me a little strenuous. Now because of the temporary transfer, the time has loosened again, and the whole person is about to overflow in an instant. Because of the opening of a seam, his soup pot returned to peace. There was a feeling of soothing inside and out of the body, and even the illusion of earning. There was a feeling of happiness similar to the sudden realization that I would wake up early and be able to sleep again.

I often think that human feelings are amazing.

If there was nothing to do this day, I wouldn't be particularly happy because of my free time. But the things that were going to be busy suddenly disappeared, and the feeling of comfort is stronger than the original. It’s no wonder that surprises are always the first to surprise and then to delight, because with contrast, the feeling is more vivid.

But I am a person who would rather give up "happiness" because I hate "surprise". I am instinctively disgusted with the joy of manipulating people's expectations, and even feel nauseous. I prefer simple happiness. The icing on the cake is great, but I don’t have to make a dilemma for me.

There was a math teacher in middle school, likes and dislikes.

It’s so bad that every time you transfer, the students in the next class will ask the classmates and teachers in the previous class how they feel today? It’s so bad that everyone will pay attention to what the teacher’s hairstyle is today? (If you have a braid, you will be in a little mood.) It is so bad that everyone will inform the teacher that he took a taxi to work today, that is, he is almost late and everyone is about to wake up. It is so bad that at the end of the corridor, you will hear her cursing at the end of the corridor (no exaggeration, it is my personal experience.)

I am very scared of her, especially my math is a bit poor.

But many classmates like her, especially the naughty class. After the teacher has finished scolding someone harshly, he will gently ask after class where he doesn't understand; when the teacher asks the students to stay in class, they will also joke and gossiping with them in private. They said that she is actually a caring teacher, a teacher who loves her students, "in fact, she is just acting evil." And I dare not agree with this way of teaching, a life of eating sugar and shit, you might as well just don't give me anything, mathematics is not my life, so I don't need you to persecute us so much.

I still see this teacher when I have nightmares occasionally. After eight years of graduation, I still remember the tension and anxiety in her class.

When I returned to church, I met some friends who were teachers.

They said that after being a teacher for a long time, in fact, they gradually won’t be really angry, because it hurts the body to have real fire. Those intonations and voice lines are basically just lie to the students and scare them, hoping to make them cultivate their hearts. Nourishment.

Although I understand what they mean, I have always felt sorrowful.

In the face of your kind "false feelings", those students are sincere.

Sincerely regret and apologize for irritating you, and sincerely be afraid and fearful because of your anger.

Whenever I think of this, I feel sore or aggrieved.

Maybe because I was a student from this point to the end, and I didn't become a teacher.

Or maybe, I still can't use my emotions as well as others.

For me, emotions can only reflect real feelings (so playing big beer is so bad, I XD).

To become better above good, to become happier in the tone of happiness, is indeed more difficult than in sadness.

But if you love each other and yourself, challenge the difficulty.

Compared to the happiness of returning to sleep, trying your best to get enough sleep is the best way.

I will also take control of the schedule, so that I can live for a long time without overflow.

There are always times when you can't help yourself in life, but if you take a step back and think about it, if you figure out what is the point, maybe we will find that everything is just a choice.

I hope that everyone will not be too greedy, nor too crazy. It is good to have plain happiness, and it is not necessary to pursue a state of ecstasy.