It's not a "era", it's just life

Hello, hello

Look, I was lucky enough to go to The Eras Tour, so trust me, I know one thing or two about eras. But now it's getting ridiculous. Everything, is "an era", everything is "a moment". No, it's not.

I don't mean to be annoying, or a buzzkiller. But today I want to talk about the need for labels, and I'm not talking about the self identity ones, you go. But the ones for just normal aspects of life.

Where it all started

There is this tiktoker that I follow (and enjoy her content, I really do!) she does some vlogs about food that she makes, trips, her dog and college life. And, because I'm only two years older than her (give or take), I relate to some of the thing she talks about. But, something that I noticed, first with her, and then with other tiktokres is that everyone is in a era??

Why do you care?

I don't. Probably doesn't look like it, because, well, I'm writing atlest 600 words about it. But you guys are my virtual besties so... hi. I want to, discuss the consequence of being in a era. The pressure. This tiktoker was talking about being in her "de-centring men era". Fair. But she has also going on a date, and couldn't let anything happen because of being in said era. First, I'm a bit confused on you can de-center man but then go on a date, but a digress. What if the guy is actually decent? Is her era going to let this possibly good guy go? And, with the internet being the internet I'm sure that if she started dating while in this era her public would call her a hypocritical for not sticking with the era.

Marketing and final statements

From a marketing point of view I understand why putting "lover girl era"; "cooking era"; "man-eater era" or "gym girl era" in the title is a good move. With three words your public, and potencial public understands what you are talking about.

But, are you in your gym girl era, or did you just decided to start exercising? Are in your lover girl era, or did you decided to let your defenses down and try dating to see if you like it?

My main problem with the eras is how limiting they feel. And, I'm probably exagerating but bear with me. You can be more than two things, hell, you can be three or four. You can be in your "lover girl era" and in your "gym era" at the same time. We has humans are complex, and I feel like starting to name moments of our life as era's is not helping the on-going raise of labels. Don't get me started with the "how to be a clean girl" (babes justa take a shower and brush your teeth), or "how to be a coquett girl", " how to dress like a pilate princess" (I did fall a bit fot this aesthetic, I confess). You can be all this at the same time.

Especially with young kids that are still learning how to express themselves all this "boxes" that can be confusing. And it can grow a mentality of "whero do I fit the best?" and not a mentality of "I dress/act like this because it makes me feel good". And not make me start how almost all of this is aimend to girls/woman, let us be what we want without having someone trying to put a label in the way I dress.

Hope I didn't sound like a hater. What are your opinions on this?

See ya,

JP