Is Communication That Hard?

So I'm starting to notice something about this century that really makes living a whole lot more difficult: Communication. That being that a lot of people lack the ability to properly communicate their intentions. Whether it involves love, friendship, or indifference, people cannot seem to say how they really feel on any subject. Then, they have the audacity to be angry when you react different than expected. I am no going to react the way you expect if you didn't have the balls to explain your expectations out of whatever it is we were trying to do.

I have this problem with people all the time! Every time, I feel the need to point out that I am not a mind reader. Why? What exactly is so hard about manning (or womaning) up? Is it the frightening thought that every one will know what you want them to do? Or is it that some people just cannot fathom that life would be infinitely easier this way? It always never fails to baffle me either way.

I just ran into this issue, a dude lied to me and then copped an attitude when I pointed out the lie. Why not just be honest from the get go? Then, feelings maybe hurt but people won't be led on. So he decided to pretend he liked me, then stopped the chat we had going on. After he matched with me on a different site, I asked him what was up. He said he deleted his account and that was all that happened. Now, you can see that type of thing on Bumble, when people delete their accounts. He lied, for no reason might I add. Then when the conversation wasn't going as smoothly as he expected, he acted like I was in the wrong. (Y'all, I am patient, but not that patient.) I proceeded to ask what he wanted, which was when he decided to come clean. All of which could have been avoided had he just communicated what he wanted from the start.

I don't want to say this is primarily a dude thing, but it does seem to happen with men more so then women. I've had the same issue with females, so I know it isn't just women, but it always seems like men have a harder time grasping that if they told us how they felt or what they wanted, then we wouldn't get quite so angry. Male, female, everyone in between; we all get mad at being led on and lied to straight to our faces.

Communication seems like it is the ultimate trial to people of all ages. Is it because we live in a time of phones and computers? We are so used to using emoticons and slang, we default to that type of thing in real life. We can send exactly what we mean in a text, but in real life, it seems like we automatically assume we know what each others thought process is, even when it is not possible. I could say something and it'd mean something completely different to someone else that it did to me. Thats just the way life is, especially when you start throwing in cultural differences.

People have entirely different cultures of communication. We truly are a monkey see, monkey do type of animal. If our parents do it one way, a large quantity of us do it the way they did. (Not all of us obviously, but a decent amount.) Kids need to learn how to effectively communicate at young age, or else we end up with people who lie or freeze when they have to explain themselves.