Dating Life of an Asexual

I just want to start this off by saying I am no were near the type to just go off and date people. I literally take so long to feel anything for someone, I long ago just said Fuck It. Now a days, I have friends who care about my dating life and the fact that I could be seen as lonely. I find it terribly odd, as I am 26, and I've been alone just as long. Long story short, to soothe them, and entertain myself, I have signed up for Bumble and Tinder.

Y'all, my view on both of those sites has always been along the lines of the fact that they are dating sites for people who are horny and looking for a quick night out or a friends with benifits situation. Thus far I have not been wrong, and let me tell you what, it has been a whirl wind! I dont lie about my sexuality, or lack there of, so my profiles or myself inform people that I am an asexual panromantic. This makes it a little harder to date on sites that the main goal is sex instead of dating you see.

So I have indeed matched with people. I like to think I am not the ugliest or dullest flower in the pot. Merely the middle dullest. I have gotten everything ranging from do you want a threesome to we should go out sometime. One dude gave his friends number saying he was looking for friendship. I texted the dude so he knew that it was being handed out and when I refused to give my picture, the dude had his friend show him my profile. This unattractive man, whose double my age, had the adacity to thank me for not sharing my picture, because no thank you. I'm just glad he knew I was out of his league. One dude asked for pictures of my ass and when I said no, asked me why. Why do you think dude? Because I can say no as is my right, despite your entitlement. The dude deleted his account. One dude talked to me for a week or so saying we should go out on a date, leading me on before very abruptly ending the chat. How do you lead someone on like that just because you want something? Then one lady talked to me and wanted to hang out, before asking me if I wanted a threesome with her husband. When I explained myself she ended the chat and deleted her account. After which I found her in my list of people again, I liked her to see what would happen and she had matched me again! Y'all, Bumble has been a wild and crazy ride. I feel like I could keep this as a series for how this is going.

Tinder hasn't disappointed me just yet, so we will see. A lot of the people I've talked to have been cool, and open with what they want. At least they got that going for them in the long run! Who knows if this lonely ace will find love everlasting or not. Her friends may just have to be content with the fact she's used to the lonliness and not ashamed to enjoy being with people she loves.