If She Cheats, Is It Your Fault as a Man?

To find out the answer to the question: why is the woman cheating, read this little story: Sarah and Mike have been in a relationship for four years (or as many as you want). Everything is fine, their couple looks solid, all their friends and acquaintances admire them, they have serious common plans for the future: they want to move to the same apartment next year, make installments for a car, have two children later…

He thinks nothing and no one can intervene between them, only she was so in love with him, she told him at first that he was the only one who aroused such emotions and feelings in her… But she? She also considers herself happy, but there is something, something small in her that does not give her peace, an unpleasant sensation that she cannot define.

What about me? Why am I not fully satisfied? She has everything she ever wanted: the man she loves, a job, a future relationship. What is missing?

Why is the woman cheating? Because, like Sarah, she feels that something is missing… But what is that something? After many troubled nights analyzing her life and relationship, Sarah comes to an answer: she lacks the feeling of communion, of partnership with her boyfriend! Of course, they see each other almost daily, they know each other well, they have no problem talking; but something is gone, he no longer feels that intimacy between two people who love each other.

He doesn't come home anymore and he doesn't kiss and hug her anymore, he doesn't hold her hand for minutes looking into her eyes, he doesn't talk about his feelings… Everything I do now is a routine: they see each other, they kiss, they talk about their day, and watch a movie. And if all goes well, I have sex, then sleep.

And that was the day! But where is the intimacy, where is that feeling that that man is a part of you that you found?

Why is the woman cheating? Because, like Sarah, she finds herself in a relationship that got stuck somewhere along the way. Intimacy has disappeared, replaced by habit and routine.

Worse, the appreciation has disappeared, his partner no longer tells him how much he loves her, no more compliments, no more minutes left admiring her naked body… Sarah tries to remember when Mike last told her how beautiful he is… and can't remember.

And one day when she had gone out with her friends, an attractive stranger looked at her insistently and fascinated. Why does he look at her like that, as if she recognizes that look… And he approaches and tells her that she is the most beautiful woman he has ever seen. Sarah blushes, although she doesn't like being so naive, she says thank you.

Since he hasn't heard that! Ever since she felt beautiful and worthy of men's attention! And the stranger invites her to a coffee. She then tells him that she has a boyfriend, he tells her that coffee didn't kill anyone and so she wakes up accepting!

After much remorse, she decides not to go, but when she sees Mike distracted by a kiss and offers to watch a movie again, she sits and thinks… what harm can coffee do? So go and discover again how pleasant you feel when someone is so interested in you when someone not only admires you for your physique but also your mind and soul…

He remembers how good you feel when you are looked at with so much adoration ⁇

Why does the woman cheat, because, many times without wanting to, she finds outside the relationship what her partner has not offered her for a long time: admiration, attention, and communication. And so, a coffee turns into two, three… Then a kiss, then… Sarah cheated on Mike!

What's next? Many times, confession and separation follow, many times lies and falsehood follow and he never finds out… You decide how guilty Sarah is!

Why is the woman cheating? Like the man, for lack of intimacy with his partner! But while sexual intimacy is essential for a man - an important reason why he seeks out fulfillment in the relationship is lack of quality of sex, emotional intimacy is essential for a woman.

This means communication, understanding, appreciation of the partner. When someone is too confident in their relationship and does not make efforts in this regard, the other partner may feel neglected, unimportant, ignored. And if another person appears willing to offer him everything that his partner no longer offers him, often the offer is accepted!

This article does not want to defend the unfaithful woman, the reality remains that she is making a mistake! But nothing is white or black, in no case is it just the fault of one or the other of the two.

The partner has his share of guilt because he was distracted, he was blind, he didn't make the effort to see that not everything is so beautiful in his relationship.

Every woman tries to talk about what her partner is doing when she feels neglected, but if he does not receive what she is trying to convey and nothing changes, the woman will do exactly what she should not do! He's looking for you