I asked out 100 girls on a date to get over my fear of rejection... this is what I learned

In middle school, this was somewhat acceptable, and even tolerated in high school. But now that I’m in college, I realize I've never been on a date. If only there were a way to change that. To break the cycle, I’ve decided to ask out 100 girls. My mantra? “Beggars can't be choosers.” I just need to find girls who are 18 and up.

So, where do I start? College is the perfect place to find potential dates. But when I began asking around, I faced immediate rejection.

“Would you go on a date with me?” I asked one girl.

“No, why not?” she replied, “I’m a lesbian.”

Okay, fair enough. I tried again. “Would you go on a date with me?”

“Well, um, we don’t really know each other.”

After a few attempts, I found my confidence slipping. I figured rejection would get easier with practice, but each "no" felt heavier than the last. I was on the verge of giving up when I remembered the saying, “eighth time’s the charm.” So, I mustered the courage to ask one more girl.

“Would you go on a date with me?”

“Yeah, you seem straightforward. I’d be down.”

In that moment, I was over the moon! I couldn’t believe it—someone actually said yes! My inner dialogue was a mess: “Holy crap, why did she say yes? I’m not worthy!”

Fueled by this newfound confidence, I asked the girl next to her.

“Would you go on a date with me?”

“Yes! I like how you approached me.”

Suddenly, I had options! I could either go out with one of these girls or both. Instead, I panicked and walked away to find girl number 10.

But the cycle continued. I faced a string of rejections again. “Would you go on a date with me?”

“Uh, I have a boyfriend.”

Each rejection felt more crushing, but I pressed on. After hitting what felt like a wall, I took a breath and tried again.

“Would you go on a date with me?”

“Sure, but I have a girlfriend,” she said, laughing.

“Would you go on a date with me?”

“Honestly, I’m just not interested in dating right now.”

After 14 straight rejections, I was beginning to doubt myself again. It was hard not to feel defeated. But, just as I was about to throw in the towel, I realized something important: the rejection itself was teaching me resilience.

“Would you go on a date with me?”

“I need to know if you’ll pay for my food,” she replied.

“Sure!”

With that, I shifted my mindset. Rejection was still tough, but the adrenaline rush I felt every time someone said yes kept me going.

As I continued asking, I got a few more positive responses. Each time I heard “yes,” it built my confidence a little more. I learned that approaching someone directly was rare, and the bravery in that sometimes earned respect, even if it didn’t lead to a date.

Then came a pivotal moment when I finally hit a hot streak. “Would you go on a date with me?” I asked a girl who seemed approachable.

“Yeah, I think it would be nice to get to know you,” she said.

“Alright, where should we go?”

I’d finally broken through the barrier! With each interaction, I noticed a subtle shift in how I viewed myself. I realized that each rejection wasn’t a reflection of my worth but merely a part of the journey.

By the end of the day, I had managed to get about 19% of the girls I asked to say yes. Initially, that felt disheartening, but then I reflected on how many of them weren’t interested in dating anyone at all.

When I tallied it all up, I was surprised: I had connected with more people in one day than I had in my entire life. And despite the 19% acceptance rate, I had learned an invaluable lesson about self-acceptance and the courage to face rejection head-on.

As I wrap up this experience, I realize that this isn’t just about finding dates. It’s about overcoming my fears and embracing who I am. If you're someone like me, who struggles with confidence, remember that rejection is part of the journey. Go out there, shoot your shot, and you never know what might happen.

So, which girl will I take on a date? Well, I guess you’ll have to stay tuned!

Would you go on a date with me?