Humility Is The Only Emotion That Affects Your Brain
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
Humility is extremely destructive to your brain. In other words, the brain "does not like to be humiliated."
It should be noted that we often feel completely humiliated for no good reason. If you are told that you are wrong, this does not necessarily mean that you have been humiliated.
For example, family members and loved ones may tactfully point out a mistake, usually when no one is around, or close friends or colleagues. In this case, you should not feel offended and revealed.
Humility is an emotion you feel when your personality is attacked in the presence of others.
You may be annoyed or upset if you make a mistake, but if no one noticed, then you have no reason to feel bad. Humility usually requires the involvement of another person. That's how it works.
As we all know from our experience, being humiliated is very painful and unpleasant. This emotional state is extremely harmful.
Therefore, it is extremely surprising that humiliation is very little studied in psychology. While other negative emotions such as anger, anxiety, jealousy, and fear - have been targeted in thousands of scientific studies.
For example, anger causes disorders in the activity of various vital organs of the human body, anxiety prevents us from living a full life and doing our job, jealousy destroys love and other relationships, and fear contributes to the development of various phobias.
Everyone thinks that humiliation is an unpleasant emotion, which, at first glance, does not have such serious consequences. But it's not like that.
First of all, humiliation turns you into a victim, which is a potential threat to every person.
Psychologists March Shade and Kai Yonas performed a series of experiments, trying to "look inside the human brain" in the experiment. , happiness or even humility.
The scenario of humiliation was made in the following form: "You meet someone on the internet. Set a possible meeting on a certain day, at a certain time, in a certain place. However, your new acquaintance glances at you from a distance turns away, and leaves.
Such a scenario would humiliate any person, no matter what psychological resistance the person in question has.
The two psychologists recorded the brain activity of the participants in an electroencephalogram that simulated various situations to feel anger, happiness, or humiliation. Trying to answer the question, "How does the brain react?"
The results of the study were astonishing: the participant's reaction to the humiliation was more harmful than anger and much more intense than happiness.
This suggests that humiliation is extremely destructive to the human brain. In other words, the brain "does not like to be humiliated." The reaction to humiliation is so violent and far outweighs the reactions to other emotions.
Humiliation harms not only the victim but also the humiliator. There is no doubt that when you are devalued in the eyes of other people, it will be painful and unpleasant for you. But if you intend to humiliate someone, you are hurting them even more.
If your goal is to humiliate, then the method will work without problems. However, if you think that you are "helping" your friends or family members by showing them their mistakes and humiliating them in public, you are wrong. Most likely, you will get the exact opposite result.
There are many more accurate and gentle ways to tell your loved ones certain things. To make sure that you do not humiliate anyone, make sure that your criticism or observation is presented in a way that does not affect the person's self-esteem.
How to cope when you are humiliated? How to redirect the situation in your favor?
The answer is simple: react as you would any other criticism. To deal with them, you need to know how to control your anger and negative emotions.
In any case, if you feel offended, there is always a peaceful solution to overcome the situation.
When a friend humiliates you, remember the best moments together and then try to talk to him in private. It is very possible to resolve the situation peacefully, even in the end he will apologize. There are a lot of options, there are no hopeless situations.
Humility manifests itself in a variety of ways, from outright ignorance to public ridicule. However, knowing the nature of humiliation and the mechanisms by which it works - you can have control over the situation.


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