How to Become Stronger Emotionally

The material from which we are "made" also depends on how we overcome daily obstacles. It can be fragile glass, plastic, or maybe real steel. The ability to resist determines what we actually "make up."

There is a decisive factor when it comes to mental and emotional health. This is our understanding of what mechanism we use to overcome the obstacles of life. The two most popular tactics are "run" (avoidance) and "stop" ("non-resistance").

This story is constantly repeated: we encounter obstacles in life, we suffer terribly, we suffer and we blame ourselves for not being able to understand how to overcome everything… Every time, it seems to us that it will never end, that the light at the end of the tunnel will never light up.

Why do some people have a stress-resistant brain while others do not?

Most of us have often thought about these issues. Why do we perceive misfortunes and problems differently? Some people simply miraculously withstand all obstacles. We admire their resilience, optimism, and ability to perceive obstacles as opportunities, not walls and fences.

As you may have guessed, the key to endurance is in the human brain. Strange, but some real people have a more stress-resistant brain. They also have stronger resources that can quench anxiety and irrational thoughts in extreme situations.

Scientists at Vail Cornell College of Medicine in New York conducted an interesting study, which found a direct link between raising a child in a healthy and happy relationship, and his ability to cope better. stress and anxiety in the future.

It's true: we are all the result of our childhood.

When a child receives too little attention, parents do not find time for facts and words to praise or say words of encouragement, this does not go unnoticed. All of this affects his brain a lot.

Therefore, a child without attention and security will not cope well with the control of his feelings and emotions in the future. In other words, he simply will not be able to control them.

Are you made of plastic, glass, or steel?

As mentioned above, it doesn't matter what kind of mechanism we use when responding to difficulties, stress, or problems. It doesn't matter if we run or prefer not to move at all when we suffer for some reason.

After all, these "factory settings" can always be improved. We can all learn and apply new strategies because of the plasticity of the human brain. Applying new approaches and updated strategies transforms the brain into a more stable, skillful, and complex machine.

Therefore, we give you a description of the three most common types of reactions to the stress and resistance mechanisms used:

How steel reacts

Stress greets people "made" of steel. Such an approach is extremely harmful and destructive. It has more risks than you might expect.

When we are completely separated from stress, we miss the opportunity to learn the necessary life lessons. That is, we do not gain new experience, which may help us not to repeat the mistake in the future.

No one in the world can be completely like a bulletproof vest. No one is made entirely of steel because the stone mask on our faces is purely emotional.

How does plastic react?

Interestingly, most of us apply this particular strategy.

It is manifested in the following:

You already have more than one "scratch" caused by stress and misery

 You are flexible and resilient at the same time. Therefore, not once did you feel that you were about to break up. It's very difficult: it's like walking on a rope over a high peak…

How the glass reacts

We do not need to explain: the reaction of the bottle is inefficient. This is the worst option for everyone. It means that in the end, a person breaks into small pieces, no matter how much we help and support them.

The key to healthy endurance

So how do you become strong and resilient?

How not break under the blows of fate?

The key to healthy endurance is to find a middle ground between strength and flexibility, to reach that level of maturity to control your emotions, prioritize, and change your mindset. If we allow the innate mechanism of psychological defense to prevail, then we will become like a bottle and "crush" at the slightest blow.

"If none of the strategies are correct, then what should we do? How to respond to troubles and misfortunes? "- you ask reasonably.

The answer to this question exists.

The key to healthy endurance is to believe in yourself and to deserve something better.

Let's "turn" into a material that is a cross between durable plastic and bamboo. This is a flexible but at the same time durable material that allows you to overcome difficulties and learn from them. Even if it bends, it will return to its original position. So start working on this vital strategy today.