How Do You Feel About Your Partner: Love or Affection?

Sounds like a silly question, because you can't tell the difference between love and affection? You are wrong: of course, in a couple who love each other, the affection is implicit, but there may be couples who rely only on affection!

The difference? Love is that complete feeling that you felt the first time you were with your partner, while the affection is based on the habit of being with your partner, on all the things that you have in common, or that you like to partner! You feel the affection for your friends and your relatives… But you only feel true love for him/her!

How can you distinguish between love and affection? How do you know if your relationship is supported by true love or emotional attachment? First of all, answer the question quickly: do you love your partner? If you answered with a clear YES, then you probably told the truth! But if you answered: of course, how can I not love him, we have only been together for n years, then maybe you should think again!

Why? Love does not require justification and motivation! It's stupid to ask someone why they love another person: they simply love them! Another thing is with affection, emotional attachment to a person; for example, you have to justify your friendship with someone: we are friends. We have a lot in common. We have fun together because we can talk about anything, and so on.

But it doesn't apply to love! When it comes to love, these justifications may exist, but you don't have to need them to explain your love!

So how do you know what you're going through love or affection? For the first time, close your eyes and just think of your partner! What words, images, feelings come to mind? Do you think how sexy he is, how you can't wait to kiss him/her and hold him/her, how do you want to be alone all day with him/her? Classic symptoms of love!

Do you think about what to do tonight, do you remember that you had to tell him something, do you think about what to do with food or something like that? Symptoms of the condition! How do you distinguish? If it's love, you think about the person and how much you want them, if it's affection, you think about what you do together!

Another way to find out if it's love or affection: think about a sex game. What emotions, images come to mind? Can you imagine your partner in a sexy pose, you can't wait to get home to have him/her, are you making plans to buy a tube of whipped cream, are you excited just thinking?

Probably love! But do you think about how long it's been since you had sex, how it was last time when you won't be too tired to try again? Probably affection! Of course, it is not a rule: there are couples in which there is love, but who go through a more difficult period of their sex life, but that period passes, and the passion is reborn! But in couples who rely solely on affection and attachment from years spent together, the passion is like death!

Is it love or affection? Think about the perfect evening: can you imagine spending it with your partner at home, just the two of you and a bottle of wine, or maybe in a small restaurant and then at home? The perfect scenario for lovers!

But can you imagine having a fun evening with your close friends, eating, drinking glasses, and playing a game? The perfect scenario for… friends! Yes, you can wake up one day and realize that your partner has become a good friend of yours! It's not a tragedy, if love ever existed, you can try to save it! But if you realize that from the first time you met you always preferred to spend time with other people, then maybe you bypassed your destiny and ended up with the wrong person!

A method close to the last to distinguish between love or affection: imagine the perfect vacation! Can you imagine a vacation on the beach or on the top of the mountain where only the two of you live, do you spend your time lazily, eating delicacies and making love? Or, on the contrary, do you imagine a noisy vacation, in a big city or a crowded resort, with your dear friends, having fun and wasting nights in clubs? You see for yourself what this means…

Of course, there are sociable couples who like to feel surrounded by friends and acquaintances and who spend some of their free time locked in the house. But when two people love each other, no matter how sociable, they will feel the need to be isolated from the rest of the world from time to time, to belong only to each other!

Whether you feel love or affection for your partner, you need to ask yourself: how does he/she feel? People forget to look at things from the other's perspective, they come to believe that what they see and believe is the only reality! But there is much more than reality! What is the reality of the other?

You may find that while you believe in a loving relationship, your partner considers you more of a friend, or you may find that while you think you are living together out of habit and attachment, the other person is crazy about you!

Look at the other person's reality, try to understand it, and, especially, try to live it! If he/she still loves you, and you have simply capped yourself, you have a chance to rediscover your relationship together! And if the situation is the other way around, it is better to know and act: to do something, anything is better than doing nothing!