GIVING MYSELF CLOSURE

Inspired by my journey and a motivational talk by Denzel Washington.

After my breakup, I felt completely lost. The person I deeply cared about was no longer in my life, and yet I spent days and months waiting for them to give me answers. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't focus, and every thought seemed to circle back to them. I kept asking myself: what did I do wrong? was I not enough? I replayed our moments together over and over, searching for a reason, something to make me understoond why it ended.

That morning while listening to Denzel Washington s' motivational talk, I suddenly realized how much I had been holding myself back. I had been relying on someone else to make me feel whole, believing that only their explanations could bring me peace. But in that moment I understood the truth: I didn't need them to grant me closure. I didn't need their words to move farward. The power to feel at peace had always been inside me.

It wasn't easy but I learned that closure is something that I give to myself. Waiting for someone else to provide it just keeps you trapped in pain, confusion and doubt. Giving myself closure meant accepting the end, forgiving myself, and trust that my life could be full of joy and meaning. It means taking responsibility for my own peace instead of depending on another person.

I began to realize that heartbreak, while painful, could also be a turning point _ a space where I could finally meet myself fully. I asked myself what I truly wanted, outside of anyone else's expectations. I thought about the dreams I had put on hold and the parts of myself I had silenced to keep the peace. Slowly, I started to reconnect with those lost pieces. I discovered passions I had forgotten and strengths I didn't know I had. It wasn't about becoming someone new_ it was about coming home to myself.

I allowed myself to feel sadness , to grieve, and then slowly to release it. I stopped questioning my worth and started to focusing on my self, my growth, my dreams, and the lessons I could carry forward. Every day, I reminded myself that I was enough and that my happiness doesn't depend on someone else's choices.

Healing is not a straight line _ some days I felt strong, and other days I felt like I was starting over. but each time I chose to show up for myself, I was building resilience. I began reading more, journaling my feelings, and surrounding myself with people who uplifted me. I created space for new dreams to grow. I stopped looking back with regret and started looking ahead with purpose. This journey reminded me that pain is not the end of the story _ it's just a part of the path that shapes who we are becoming.

This experience changed me. I realized that self-closure Is not just a lesson _It's empowerment. While relationship can bring love and meaning, my peace is mine to claim. I'm capable of finding clarity, forgiveness and love for myself even without explanations or apologies from anyone else.

Now, even years later. I feel proud, I see how strong I am and how far I've come. I gave myself what I was waiting for, and in doing so, I discovered that my heart could heal on its own, and that I can keep moving forward with confidence, courage and hope.

Words by Solange_inspired by pain,reborn through purpose