Equality is a Lie

Does anyone really know what equality means or are we just running around saying this word with no meaning to it? The dictionary definition of equality: “the state of being equal, especially in status, rights, and opportunities.” Equality among men and women will never exist, we should all accept that and move on. You don’t believe me? That’s okay.

Picture this: America in the 1950’s. You have a beautiful house with a porch and an American flag hanging off the front. Your husband goes to work every day from 9-5 there’s no working overtime. So, he is home every night at the same time. You know exactly what time he is home, and you can plan out the whole day. You have two small children and you're at home taking care of them. That’s it. That is your whole job staying home with children and making home cooked meals for your husband. Your husband comes home and greets you with a kiss, he rustles the hair on Michael’s head and does the same with little Cindy.

“Have a good day did you?” He asks.

“Yes, we colored some pictures!” Says little Cindy and she runs into bedroom and pulls it out and it’s a drawing of her brother, your husband, you and herself with a house.

“Beautiful picture!” Your husband says and he looks at Michael.

“What did you draw Michael?” He says.

“A beach!” He says excitedly and shows your husband the drawing.

Then, everyone sits down at the table and has dinner.

Fast forward to today: you are up at 6:00 am, you get ready in the washroom was quietly as possible to not wake up the children. It’s now seven they’re up and ready to go to daycare. You pile them into the car, which is a struggle because Griffon has a hard time putting on his shoes and Chelsey had to find her gloves this morning. You’re running late for work, but you drop off the children. You finally get to work, and you exhale in your car because you're so tired, you get out of your car and finally get to your office. You have the office coffee which tastes like sewage, but you need something to keep you going. You get home and your husband had picked them up on your way home. First thing when you walk in is “mom! Griffon took my toy”.

“I didn’t take it!” Argued Griffon.

"Griffon, did you take Chelsey's toy?" you ask him, and he squirms and finally gives in.

"She was the one throwing it at me!" Griffon complained.

"Hey sweetie!" says your husband as he gives you a quick peck on the cheek. "I'm defrosting the chicken, the kids won't stop fighting each other," he tells you. You take off your boots, wash your hands and start making dinner while the children as still screaming at each other.

"Enough!" you snap at them, and they scurry into their rooms. You finish making dinner and then you serve them, and you all sit down and eat. after dinner you start cleaning the dishes, your husband helps you out by cleaning the stove. You grab the vacuum and go throughout the house; you pick up the laundry and put it in the hamper and you do the first load of laundry.

Then, tomorrow is a new day, and you have to do it all over again.

Wasn't life in the 1950's nice where women were never forced to work. now, because of the expenses, the housing, the groceries, the gas bill prices have gone up so dramatically that it is unrealistic to be a stay-at-home wife. women now have two full time jobs, and it never stops. Where is the equality in that? There isn't because it does not exist.

Women and men are different. They have different body types and different thresh holds for pain. A woman has a period every month and men have no equivalent of that. A woman can grow another human life and push it out into the world while letting them tear their bodies apart. Look at sports a women's 98-mile race versus just under 170 miles for men's race why? because men are naturally built differently.

"Body composition differs between men and women. Men have more lean mass, and women have more fat mass than men. Men are more likely to accumulate adipose tissue around the trunk and abdomen, whereas women usually accumulate adipose tissue around the hips and thighs." (Bredella MA. Sex Differences in Body Composition. Adv Exp Med Biol. 2017;1043:9-27. doi: 10.1007/978-3-319-70178-3_2. PMID: 29224088. web)

We know that we are built differently so why are we pushing for equality so hard? The argument can be made that women are paid less than men in the workplace when some women have the same position title. What about maternity leave? men don't have that; they get a couple weeks off at best. However, the pay gap is still there, which is one thing I can agree with as being a problem. But Where are these statistics coming from is this taken into account on how long each person was at the company? or was that dismissed when research was being done?

Another point to bring up is that men get cancelled wherever they go. A man opens the door for a woman and the woman says, "I can open the door myself" and then she wonders why a man has never lets her enter a restaurant first. When at the gym a man is hitting on a woman and she says immediately "I have a boyfriend" or threatens "I will call security and say you are harassing me" and then wonders why she is still at home with her cats watching true crime documentaries. True some men do treat us like bait and those are guys you need to watch out for. Others are just genuinely nice guys just trying to make a relationship work. Where is the fairness in that? Men are put in positions making them powerless. In divorces women are put above the men when it comes to custody of the child unless the women are a complete wreck. That's not fair. Look at gender inmate ratios: 6.9 are women and 93 percent are men. There's a difference between men and women. Equality is a word that is spread too widely, and we need to know that no matter how to tip the scales men and women will always be different.