Couple Therapy: When Do We Need It?

"At Rochefocauld: love is like fever; we cannot control any of them, nor can we limit their duration or intensity. "

I believe in this column. It is suitable for all ages. Part of it comes from my own experience, complemented by readings and discussions with younger, more mature people who love, are loved, have happy or less happy life experiences, but who deserve to live beautiful love stories and not give up hope.

If until 20 years ago you rarely heard the expression "couple therapy", today things are different. The lifestyle, the way we evolve and manifest in the couple's relationship pushes more and more couples to resort to this type of therapy.

The moment when one reaches the threshold of the breakup of the relationship or when something has changed so much between the partners that their relationship "squeaks" is the culminating moment.

Problems in the couple are not a shame!

Unfortunately, in the couple's relationship, things are not always "dream" and, when we notice this, it is neither shameful nor in vain to resort to specialized couple therapy. In any relationship, there are moments when tensions, conflicts, various problems are born that can turn in the second state of sadness into a scandal.

At some point, we may notice certain signs that quickly lead to dangerous situations: brutal reactions of one of the partners, discussions that degenerate into quarrels, infidelity, lack of sexual attraction between partners, tense atmosphere in the house, unwanted pregnancy, and many others.

Both partners need to realize the situation and the deadline that should not be allowed to increase in time, hoping that "something" will solve the situation between them. It is also very important that both partners want to get over this moment, to understand and fight to save the relationship.

Couple therapy, the must-have of today

Since, in recent years, in society we notice an increased number of divorces or tensions and aggression in the couple's relationship, couple therapy has become a must-have. You are probably wondering: what or what does this type of therapy help with? And to answer your question, I will just tell you that this type of therapy helps you to see the person from different angles and react differently than you have done so far because you are beginning to become aware of the "load" of situations.

Couple therapy improves your communication relationship and, why not, the sentimental one, being able to reach a rebalancing of the sexual relationship. All these elements "treated" in the couple's therapy can lead to saving the love relationship or marriage.

Who helps you?

Couple therapy is performed by a psychologist who specializes in this type of therapy. A psychologist knows how to discover a couple's problems. In the beginning, through therapy, we want to understand as deeply as possible everything that means the relationship between the two partners, the way of life, the behavior, so that, later, both partners realize that both communication and behavior will change that they will do well.

Both partners must agree and have an open mind when going to therapy. It is good to discuss from the beginning what are the expectations of the couple who resort to therapy. In fact, at the first meeting, knowledge and evaluation discussions take place. We should not expect a psychologist to hold the "key" to our problems and solve them.

Both partners must follow the therapist's recommendations, otherwise, the results will not be as expected. It is the same as any other type of therapy. Follow the doctor's recommendations, you're fine. Otherwise, there is no point in lying to yourself.

There are also situations in which couple therapy helps both partners to discover that, indeed, they have nothing in common and that the best thing for both of them is separation. A psychologist will never have sympathy for any of the partners who come to the meetings but will have a completely neutral and realistic attitude.