Complaining: A Path to Nowhere

A long time ago, I had a friend. Every time we met, after a few words of greeting, she would fall into a familiar rhythm.

"Our boss is really bad. The salary is low, the benefits are poor, and he is particularly partial to those who only flatter him."

"I don't want to work at this kind of company anymore!"

She complained angrily, adding, "But it's too troublesome to change jobs now. It's the same everywhere anyway."

Then, naturally, we turned to emotions.

"My boyfriend is the same. He has no ambition, a low salary, and never understands how tired I am."

“I feel really wronged.”

I tried to ask her: "Have you ever thought about changing jobs? Or having a good talk with your boyfriend?"

She always shrugged and sighed: "Oh, forget it, it's no use talking about it."

Every time we met, I felt like I was thrown into an endless storm of negative energy.

Later, I chose to slowly distance myself from her, not because I hated her, but because I saw it too clearly—she never intended to change. She just wanted to keep complaining, putting all the blame on others, and then complaining while having unrealistic expectations: I hope the company will get better, I hope my boyfriend will suddenly become considerate and motivated, and I hope the world will change itself.

A few years later, I heard from a mutual friend that she was still working at that company, still with that boyfriend, and still copied and pasted her complaint script at every new party.

At that moment, I truly understood—whether in love or in the workplace, you cannot complain and expect to get more.

Change never starts with complaining; it only starts with action. Those who are unwilling to take action are destined to stay in circles and watch the life they want get further and further away.

Protect Your Energy

Stay away from such people and protect your energy. Save time and energy for yourself and for those people and things that you are truly willing to change.

Complaining cannot solve problems; it only amplifies the feeling of powerlessness. Every time you complain, you are actually reinforcing the mentality of "I am pitiful and I can't do anything."

To change the status quo, we must start with action. The world will not get better because of your complaints; it will only change because of your choices and actions.

If you spend a long time with people who love to complain, you will just be dragged around in circles. If they stagnate, you will be slowly dragged down, and your will and ambition will be worn away.

Spend time with people who are willing to change. People who really want to change will find their own way without any persuasion.

Use your energy on people and things that are truly worth it. "Energy flows where attention goes."

Action Over Apathy

There are two kinds of people in the world:

There is a type of person who spends their time complaining, feeling tired, paralyzing themselves, and waiting for a miracle to happen. Another type of person uses time to take action. Even if they are slow or fall, they always take one step forward and then another.

Don't let people who complain drag you into an emotional black hole. Don't harbor any fantasies of saving people who never plan to change. Every minute and every bit of energy should be used to manage your own future, rather than just wandering around in circles with others.

The life you want will not grow from complaining. It will only begin to sprout from the moment you "stop complaining and start taking action."

Stay away from those who only complain and never change, and you will find that life suddenly becomes lighter.

Embracing Imperfection

I have learned a very important lesson in the past few years. It is easy to feel anxious if everything is perfect; it may be an ideal state, but in real life, it often makes people feel breathless. It is true that no one can maintain a perfect state. It should be said that no one is perfect at all. And it is precisely because everyone has imperfections that we are able to fit in with the right person.

Please embrace your imperfections and thank those who have always been with you. There is a quote in my favorite movie, Good Will Hunting: "She's not perfect, and neither are you. People often think imperfection is bad, but in fact, imperfection is a good thing. It allows you to decide who you let into your world. And the combination of two imperfect things is perfect."

It is because of regrets that we know what happiness is. No one is perfect, including you. Just do your best. Only by tolerating each other's imperfections can we understand the perfection in imperfection.

Thank you for reading!