Choices

You ever look back and wonder what your life would have been like if you made different choices? Better boyfriends, no children or having children, stayed in school or left for a bigger calling?

Sitting down with a friend of mine years ago made me wonder why people aren't doing what they want to do. I had a friend that wanted to be a truck driver and just never did. This makes me question everything. Was there something that I wanted to do that was fully capable of being done all that was needed was for me to make the choice to do it. I simply said to him that he had all of the resources that he needed to do what was needed to be done and asked him why he hadn't done it yet. This sparked and idea in the man and he then started talking to companies that do driving and eventually because an awesome driver for one of the main driving companies.

Here are my questions to you much like what I told my friend. What have you wanted to do that you haven't done yet? Why is the decision to make that usually simple choice so difficult and why are people afraid of making them? Being strong in mind and body I have had this issue myself and it took some reflection and thought. Find the reason why you have always wanted to do something (I currently died my hair purple). The last few years I wouldn't have had the guts to do something like this for fear of upsetting my husband, being picked on by my friends, and my family thinking I'm crazy!

After knowing all of these people as well as I do, I have come to the conclusions that I look awesome in purple. My fear of upsetting my husband wore off after conversations with him about changing up my style and knowing now that the man loves me for who I am and not what I look like so no fear of rejection there. My friends were excited by the idea of a color change and some I was unaware of were my biggest supporters. My friends are just that, friends. Yes, I like and have respect for them however if they are the type to turn on a dime and suddenly hate you or your hair color what kind of friends are they in the first place? My friends had mixed reactions and all of them still talk to me and respect me as a person because that is who I am to them.

So, what is it you are wanting to do? Is it life changing or something little that might just make your day? Your life is yours and no one else's! Do what you want to do without being afraid of thinking what others may think or feel. If it is lifechanging for more than one person in your life discussions need to be had. If it is something that you wanted forever like getting a haircut knowing your other half likes your hair long, he'll get over it and if he dumps you over a hair style time to find a new one or be better off without one. I jump quite frequently before thinking about it and feel held back when people try to talk some sense into me because that is the way I was raised. I have chosen my other half and friends carefully to make sure that all decisions are mine and if it affects them, they let me know.

Nitty Gritty:

Why aren't you happy? What have you wanted to do for a while now that you haven't done because of some fear or lack of understating of the process? I thought escape rooms were a scary thought being locked in a room for an hour with strangers and having to find a way to escape sounds like being kidnapped. I did my research though, talked to a guy that owned a local escape room and got some clear ideas on what it is supposed to be like and why people feel certain ways. Remember there is always a panic button in every room so if one feels claustrophobic one is allowed to immediately escape. It is only one hour. I wish it ran longer but that's because I am so busy trying to figure out what's going on an hour feels like a minute. Strangers? I don't think so. I asked the manager because I don't do well with strangers right off the bat if I could just have a two-person room and he was understanding and managed to give me discounts off because they are so in need of business right now. I took my mother, and we had the best time because like myself, my mother is afraid of nothing!

If you are a logical thinker, research is your best friend. Look into it, call people, ask questions. Business are struggling now more than ever and no smart manager is going to be like, "No I'm not interested in bringing new people to my company or making more money".

If they are that is not a business that you want to be a part of. Managers are struggling to make ends meet just like the rest of us. I talked to the manager of the escape room, and he was so courteous and friendly I thought we had met before. He was understanding and let us play three person games with two people because it was business that he didn't want to miss out on. Now my mother and I go every time I am in town because the guy is great, and we are so comfortable in that area we are now looking for the new games to be built.

Back to the point. What are you not doing that you want to do but you haven't done because of some dumb but reason? You are the only one in your way. If you feel others are in your way you may need to talk to them and see why you think that they are a challenge to your own thoughts and wants.

I love the song, "Change your Mind" by Sister Hazel because it simply puts in perspective that all you need to do is make a choice to be different, better, or smarter. It's all about what you chose and how you go here.

Do me a favor and don't disappoint me. If there is something that you have wanted to do but kept getting in your own way about (obviously nothing harmful or dangerous) stop, think, and make a choice. I lived a pretty crazy not thought-out life, and I am still here to brag about it and I don't regret any of it!

What will you regret not trying?