Always a Bridesmaid and Not Too Soon a Bride, What Are Your Feelings?

Always the bridesmaid… and not too soon the bride ?! Your girlfriends, former schoolmates, college classmates, acquaintances you haven't heard of in a long time - they all seem to have decided to take the big step and be brides, while there is no wedding for you on the horizon? Do you hear about an engagement and have you reached the point where you can't even sincerely rejoice in the future bride?

When it happens that more acquaintances make the step towards marriage, while you do not yet have such plans (or your partner does not have such plans), you end up feeling extremely uncomfortable pressure. You end up wondering why you are "left behind", why the happy moment is not coming into your life…

And the questions or pressures of the family ("when do you sit at home?") Or the innocent questions of friends ("they, don't you take a wife? ") doesn't help you at all

Always a bridesmaid - when you don't have a partner at the moment:

Hearing right and left about girls getting engaged while you don't have a stable relationship yet can be extremely irritating. How come so many girls who are far from perfect women (on the contrary!) Find their happiness and a partner who loves them, while you are not lucky enough to find a suitable partner?

First of all, try to stop comparing yourself with envy to the others: "why is she lucky - I'm more beautiful/smart/funny/understanding". Each "lays his bed," as they say. And just because you're still single doesn't mean that men didn't want you - it means you knew you weren't in the wrong relationship or without a future!

It's like everyone is living their dream - aren't you happy? When you feel that you are "always a bridesmaid, never a bride", you tend to idealize the couples around you, who seem to be floating on the clouds, while you are left alone on earth… But realize that the reality is not like that: Maybe your girlfriends or colleagues are the first to get engaged, but that doesn't mean their life is pink candy, while yours is gray!

They have problems just like you. It is useless to envy them and it puts you in a negative state. When you start obsessing over the question "why can't I do it, why can't I find a stable partner?", You become so frustrated and overwhelmed by this desire that you forget what matters: to live your life on that you have it, to enjoy it even if you don't have a partner and to wait for your moment thinking.

Don't give in to pressure. The most important thing, when you start to always feel like a bridesmaid, is to avoid being carried away by the tide, to let yourself be dominated by the inner pressures ("why don't I") and the external ones ("you when you take the next step") and not to start a relationship with the first man you meet and to reach the altar just to do this too! Not having a relationship and wedding matters - doing it with the right person. So don't give in to pressure and don't agree to stay with someone who doesn't make you happy.

Always the bridesmaid - when the partner is in no hurry:

Having a serious relationship for some time involves the thought of marriage and marriage. But sometimes it seems that only you are the one who wants a wedding, your partner has no intention at the moment, as far as you can see, to offer you a ring!

And if this is combined with wonderful news from everywhere announcing engagements of acquaintances, one drop is missing until an explosion of big days!

Do not compare your relationship with other relationships. No sense in telling you now - I don't wanna ruin the surprise. a mistake. Do you feel loved in your relationship? Do you generally feel happy with your partner? Do you trust him? Do you sometimes talk about your future? Does your partner tell you that he wants this future with you?

Then there is no point in creating problems where they do not exist! If you love and trust the relationship, the engagement will come in time - but more important is the relationship itself. Do you think that just because she is a bride, another is happier in her relationship than you are? Learn to enjoy what you have and let things evolve from time to time.

Don't press your partner! In a hurry: try not to put pressure on your partner! "Subtle" allusions about what ring and what kind of wedding you would like could be okay, as long as you've talked about it before and your partner isn't the kind of person who runs away from the word "wedding".

But avoid pressure at all costs in the form of questions "when are you going to give me a ring?" or remarks "I'm beginning to think we'll never have a wedding"! The more stressed your partner is, the more stressed he will be and will not want to take the big step!

The man wants to feel that it is his choice when he takes this step - so if he feels pressure, he will do the opposite! And remember: some men feel pressured just by hearing the word "wedding"…