Alone and Happy: 10 Steps for the Harmony of Yourself

Being alone at any age can be a challenge in a world that seems to focus on love and finding a partner for life. Everyone seems to want to encourage you in this search for the perfect match.

There is quite a bit of understanding on the part of others about those who consciously choose to spend time alone.

There is even the idea that it is a failure or that something is wrong with a person who is alone. Which can only be ridiculous, especially when more and more people realized that their relationship had not passed the time and ended up living alone.

Here are 10 tricks to make the most of your time:

1. Relax

Your loneliness will not last a lifetime. Well, it may take a while, but that's pretty rare. The most uninspired thing you can do is panic and think that if you don't find someone as soon as possible, your life is over.

Despair is by far the worst energy you can bring into a relationship with yourself or another person. It blinds you to all danger signals and makes you accept any compromise.

So relax. Enjoy this time when you are alone and start getting to know each other. Think about it - if you don't feel good about yourself, why would someone else feel good about you? This can be a real challenge for someone who is still looking for someone's company just to find out that it's not the right thing to do and that they don't like themselves at all.

Having a relationship with yourself is just like having a relationship with someone else. You have to give all your support, you have to be caring, understanding and you have to learn to listen and communicate with yourself and your inner self.

Sometimes the only way you can listen to yourself is to force yourself to have a period with yourself.

2. Take care of yourself

If you come home and sit in bed or an armchair in a catatonic state, forget it! It is not a recipe for success either for a relationship with you or for another person.

Even if it's a worse time and you just want to stay and not think about anything, it's not good, because it will grow and take over everything. Use this time when you are alone to treat all the addictions you have and to heal your inner wounds. If you can't do it alone, no one can do it for you.

3. Accept yourself and give yourself credit

Feeling good alone does not happen overnight, especially if you are in "recovery" after a relationship. There will be times when you will feel invisible, that no one will ever love you again, that you will waste your life, that life will pass you by ... and all the negative thoughts about it.

The best thing you can do is go out for a date. Learn to rejoice. The better you feel with yourself, the better you will feel in a relationship. Some people have trouble meeting their own needs. I mean, there are those people who would cook a delicious meal for someone else, but when they are alone, bread with jam and instant soup is enough.

Make the effort to cook for yourself too! Cook something new every week, every day. You deserve!

4. Learn something new

This is a perfect time in your life when you can go to some courses to learn something new, take an online course, or completely change your career. Realize your passions and learn those things. There is no one to stop you but yourself.

You still don't know what you like and what your passions are? She spends more time alone. You will figure it out. Give yourself a chance to listen to your inner voice. This process can take a long time, so be patient with yourself.

5. Meet new people

We are not talking about romantic relationships, but only about enlarging your circle of acquaintances. If you are out of a good relationship you will still need to have people around you to talk to. Friendship is supreme. What would we do without friends?

We would be alone. Do you have no friends? Aren't you friendly? Do you make an effort to talk to new people? Maybe you need a little help to overcome your shyness. Take responsibility for what you are or what you don't attract in your life and do whatever it takes to make true friends.

6. Do sports

It's a great way to get to know each other better. Start by reconnecting with your body. It's the only one you have in this life and we usually take more care of the car than our body. When you are alone it is the perfect time to get in shape and the endorphins released through sport keep you excited.

7. Rediscover your creativity

Even if you don't think you're a creative person, you are, believe me! We all can create something wonderful. You may have forgotten for a while what you are capable of creating, but if you spend more time with yourself you will remember and rediscover your creative side.

It's a perfect time to play when no one sees you! To reveal the colored pencils, the brushes, the glue, the ideas you forgot, all the creative arsenal and get your head around it!

8. Focus on your thoughts

In case you missed the latest news, know that it is universally accepted that our thoughts influence our reality. What do you think about the most? What catches your eye?

It will not be difficult for you to find out, just look at the life you have and you will see what your thoughts are. Use the time you are alone to put your thoughts in order. Monitor them, delete them and rewrite them, give yourself 30 days to change your negative thoughts.

9. Be grateful for what you already have

Every night before bed, think about the things you are grateful for in your life. Anything small can help you become grateful. If you want, you can start a diary in which to write all these things and see how the list grows every day.

This attitude will lead to more and more things for which you will be grateful. This is probably the most important lesson - to find happiness in what already exists in your life.

10. Get out of your comfort zone

Every week make plans to do something new, to go to a place you have never been. Don't wait for Fat Frumos to come and do the things you want. Do them now! In addition, you are more likely to meet the man you dream of if you live your life to the fullest.

Even if you don't particularly want to meet someone, you will fully enjoy what life has to offer.

Being alone is a good thing that can reveal a lot of creativity and possibilities for personal development. In this space of yours, you can grow and learn to love yourself as an individual.

You can become a person who will not be dependent on another person, who will not desperately seek pleasure, comfort, and satisfaction in the energy of another person.

You can learn to find contentment in yourself and with yourself only if you are alone, calm, calculated, and at peace with the person you love. You!