5 Easy Ways to Control Your Emotions Wisely

"He who knows the world is intelligent, he who knows himself is enlightened, he who overcomes the world has power, he who overcomes himself has strength." - Lao Tse

Modern people are obsessed with the desire to control everything, without even realizing how impossible this task of external circumstances is. But our inner world is a whole other matter.

In the soul of each of us, there is a wild and uncontrollable particle, something primitive, guided not by logic, but by instincts. This part helps us to be more courageous and to respond more quickly to sudden dangers.

However, there are ways to tame these wild and primitive impulses, which sometimes overwhelm us. The fact that from time to time they appear in our consciousness and for a while taking control of the behavior is quite normal. We are all human beings and we cannot get away from this.

But if these emotions completely absorb us, it is not good. This becomes a problem not only for us but also for others.

Therefore, below are some simple steps that will help you improve your self-control:

1. Self-knowledge strengthens mental control

We all consider ourselves great connoisseurs of human nature. However, this is far from always the same. Each person is a separate and unique personality.

Our behavior can depend heavily on our mood and external circumstances. The psyche of any person is incredibly complex, and therefore many of us are not completely unable to recognize which particular traits of our character and subconscious impulses push us toward certain behaviors and habits.

Remember how often, when someone did something wrong, you later heard from him, "I don't know what was wrong with me - as if it weren't me." But there is not a single gram of truth in this statement. Because this person was exactly what he was and was doing what was characteristic of him - he just didn't understand that.

The better we know ourselves, the more we have self-control - we know how to respond to various situations, that is, we can prepare for it in advance.

2. Stop going through autopilot life

If you travel through life, as if you were flying with an autopilot, then this can hardly be called life. We jump from one occupation to another, from one type of behavior to another, and we don't even know why we do that.

The mind starts the autopilot mode to maintain mental health. We simply cannot see to the last detail everything that happens around us and with us - for that we should give up everything else, and in the end, this will lead to a nervous breakdown.

But we can stop the automatic mode completely at least from time to time, go back to the edge and look around to understand where we are now. Is this the way to be? These breaks make us more aware and, as a result, allow us to gain better self-control.

3. Learn to stop on time

Yes, abrupt impulse resistance can be quite difficult. This is a very difficult task if no one has taught us in childhood how important it is to follow the lines of emotional outbursts. This is especially true for people who have grown up in an atmosphere of violence or excessive emotionality. Therefore, we get used to acting instinctively, without thinking when strong emotions overflow.

If we want to achieve real self-control, we must learn to control these sudden emotions and express them in the way we need them and not in the way they demand them. This is a habit that is quite difficult for us to educate ourselves in - and we have to do it in adulthood.

To control our emotions, we must first make a responsible choice: allow our emotions to influence our thoughts, words, and actions uncontrollably, or find in ourselves enough willpower to stop and wait until the flash goes out.

Then we will be able to coldly assess our situation again. By choosing the second option, you can achieve a lot, especially in the field of social interactions.

4. Learn to accept and overcome irritation

Each of us has had to experience irritation (the feeling that comes to us when someone does not live up to our expectations or when we are constantly trying to achieve something but fail). Sometimes the irritation can be tiny and almost imperceptible, other times it can seem more than life itself.

Love, which turned out to be nothing but friendship, a new position that was promised to us, but obtained by a colleague, bills that came when we ran out of money…

There can be many reasons. We all live in a reality that constantly fills our lives with a thousand and one causes of irritation. This is normal, it is a natural and integral part of anyone's life… But it is up to us how we deal with it.

Learning to accept irritation as it is is an involuntary reaction, but learning to get to the root of it and let your mind "digest" this emotion is not that simple.

But if we do not learn this, we will begin to notice that in many cases the irritation slowly but surely turns into anger. In anger, swallowing our hearts, troubling our minds, and turning life into hell.

It is very easy to become a person that everyone around us considers with a fast and unbalanced temperament and who "explodes" at the slightest opportunity. Don't let irritation push you into such behavior.

5. Get out of your comfort zone

Yes, getting out of our comfort zone can be daunting, but it also offers us simply incredible benefits. And one of them is that this output helps to become more flexible, to adapt better to external circumstances.

And this, in turn, stimulates the development of intelligence - both ordinary and emotional. And therefore, one of the effects of leaving the comfort zone is our greater tolerance for our own emotions.

We are not cars and it is hard to expect us to "work properly" 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. In general, to be honest, this is hard to expect even from cars. And therefore, we simply cannot fully control our minds and emotions all the time - especially when we are under strong external pressure.

Controlling emotions is significantly improved as anxiety decreases, and this is facilitated by how well we have learned to turn the energy behind them into a healthy channel.