4 Lessons on Conquering Fear and Living the Life You Want to Live

“Our biggest fear is not that we don't fit in. Our deepest fear is that we have unparalleled power. Our light, not our darkness that frightens us the most. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be talented, to be beautiful, to be talented and to be beautiful?’ Really, who are you? ”~ Marianne Williamson

After lying on the floor of my apartment for an hour, I went to the mirror, leaned in, and looked into my eyes. This was the moment when I met the truth: I was afraid to stand up and be what I wanted to be in this life.

It was not the fact that I had so many rocks that scared me. It was a belief that I knew too much.

Five years ago, I was working for a bank that required more than I could afford. I remember one day a customer was standing at the edge of my desk, yelling at me, and all I could do was get up from my chair and run away when my first panic attack caught me.

It was during this time that I began my relationship with food. Every evening was the same: I was leaving work, taking Mexicans, coming home, turning on my cell phone in silence, watching Sex Revenge and the City.

I lived peacefully with Carrie and fought her on her journey. It's been a few hours since I felt hooked on something. I don’t have to work hard, try, or add anything; I just saw. This custom introduced me to the year 2008.

On New Year's Eve, I was always looking forward to my New Year's Day, looking down at my pile of clothes. No single shirt or pants fit me. The last thing I wanted to do was celebrate anything as I was wondering how it all got together this one night.

The truth is, I let myself go and measured the most I have ever measured in my entire life.

The next morning, after a long night of questions and disgust, I woke up and started checking my pictures from the previous evening. Something in me wanted to fully acknowledge the truth of my truth; I was lying on the floor in the apartment I was living in, I started to accept how much I had let go, I took everything out.

An hour later, I undressed, went to the bathroom mirror, leaned inside, and announced that I did not know the girl in the mirror. That moment of recognition, or neglect of the issue, was my turning point.

I had been hiding behind clothes, food, Sex and Cityunsunsu for too long, and as painful as it was to face this reality, it was my awakening. This was my life, and there was no other way but to stop hiding after a meal, to deal with my fears, and to move on, cruelly.

This is exactly what I did. I quit my job as a banker, lost 40 pounds in my first year, became a professional trainer, and eventually started my own company to encourage and empower others to move forward with their lives. Be a hero!

Over the next four years, I studied four subjects that gave me the strength to live the life I wanted to live.

1. Moving forward to the end of the road.

That day, I didn’t know much about how I was going to change; I just know why I need to change.

So I started somewhere; I wiped the dust off my face, wiped away my tears, and began to clean my kitchen cabinets. Every day, action by action, I began to walk in a new way, and I felt different. I began to see changes, both physically and mentally, shortly thereafter, and I felt a sense of pride that I had never felt before.

It’s easy to add a path to what you want, but it’s much easier: take one step forward each day.

2. Walk in fear, you hero.

As I embarked on my journey of moving forward in my life, I was happy, empowered, and encouraged by all the good changes that were taking place, but here again came the fear.

What I feared most was having the courage to hold back and be the best version for myself. I thought the woman I wanted to be; he was empowered, confident, modest, powerful, and able to do whatever he set out to do! Suddenly, fear gripped me as I wondered how I could walk into the woman's shoes and pull her.

Fear is a happy thing; it can paralyze or annoy you. If you allow it to paralyze you, you will continue to do what you have been doing and deny the courage you have within you, your light. When you let it bother you, you turn your fears into fuel and use it as a tool to overcome whatever it is that stops you.

It was the day I created my mantra, Fierce Forward, when I came face to face with my biggest fear of the first year: stepping foot in the weight room.

Entering a room full of roaring men who had worked this for years was terrifying, but I did not allow my fears to paralyze me. I started running very fast, bracing myself as I saw myself walking towards the weight room, crossing the line separating my past activities from my future efforts.

I knew I had to face an angry face, and ten minutes later, I was lifting weights among the men I was afraid of. Little did I know then that raising would be my passion and it would be a very empowering activity. Choosing to deal with my fears that day had ten consequences, as the promotion encouraged me to become my own coach.

The more experience I had in dealing with my fears, the greater the battle.

Fear must be passed, not all around. When you go through it, you choose to face your fears and overcome them. That day at the gym, I walked away in a panic!

3. You have the key.

It was one of my favorite movies, Sucker Punch, in which the words, whispered by Sweat Pea, evoke a powerful emotion within me: “Who tied us up? And who holds the key that can free us… You. You have all the weapons you need. Fight now! ”