The Main Reasons Why Passion Disappears

In any long-term couple, the passion disappears at some point or at least diminishes in considerable intensity! It's not a tragedy, it's not the end of the line - although sometimes you may be melancholy remembering your beginnings - it's a normal evolution of the relationship. It is impossible - as far as we know - for two people to experience after 2–3 years of relationship the same attractions, emotions, sensations, spontaneity as after only 2–3 weeks!

Do you sometimes remember with some regret how you were in the beginning? Are you saying that maybe it's not good, that it's a bad sign that the passion disappears between you two? Do you remember how you used to wait every day to see him/her, to kiss him/her, to touch him/her, to smell him/her, to have him/her just for you?

Before you realized that the passion was slowly disappearing, all you needed was a public bath to throw yourself into each other's arms? When you go somewhere, are you desperately looking for any possible place where you might not be caught? When you go on vacation, was it enough to find a deserted beach, a secluded clearing, any place - no matter how nonconformist - to want to have passionate sex even then?

The beginnings - until you have a year of relationship - are always beautiful and full of mystery, sensuality, and passion! But as you evolve, the mystery dissolves, the sensuality transforms, the passion disappears…

You may regret this, but you have to accept it and continue your relationship because when those crazy emotions change from the beginning, they appear in exchange for true, real, and lasting feelings of love, affection, and attachment! Instead of regretting the madness of the beginning, enjoy what you have now: a real relationship with a real person! Reality is never like in movies…

Thus, it is normal that the passion disappears and there are at least three essential reasons why this moment is reached during a relationship. A first reason: if you have strengthened your relationship and now form a solid couple, then surely you have formed an equally solid circle of friends who will always surround you in your free time!

In the beginning, you each had your friends and you may prefer that the time spent together be just between the two of you! You two prefer to go on short vacations because you didn't want a third, fourth, fifth person to ruin your privacy!

Perfect conditions for your free will, to express your desires, desires, and passion! But now probably every weekend you stay with the group of mutual friends that have formed in the meantime, every holiday you go in a group… Some people prefer to spend their honeymoon with close friends… Which is extremely nice and fun, but the passion disappears… because it has no conditions to be freely expressed!

How do you two get away and have sex on the beach, when you are watched at every step by good friends who want to have a beer? How to give free rein to your sensations and desires when you know that your good friends are in the next room? Therefore, no matter how many friends and close friends a couple has, they need to ensure their privacy from time to time!

Another reason why the passion disappears: the fact that you started living together! This is an important and very beneficial step for the relationship, but there are shorter or longer periods in which it seems that sex is less common even than when you are not sitting together every day!

How is this explained? Simple: now you both know that tomorrow you will be and the day after tomorrow and so on together, so do not rush to enjoy each other's presence and enjoy the time spent together, because from now on you are sure that tomorrow is a day…

So, if one day one of you is too tired, another day one of you has a headache, another day you receive a visit, do not get irritated, but postpone sexual intercourse for tomorrow - when you feel better, you're going to postpone it again tomorrow and so on…

The last main reason why the passion disappears: the overwhelming and exciting sensations offered by the novelty of the relationship between you are long gone! We can no longer talk about novelty and mystery between you, who have come to know each other so well and who have tried almost everything you wanted in terms of sex!

The irresistible attraction present in the case of many fresh couples is reinforced by the sensations given by this novelty of the situation, as well as in the case of extraordinary sexual experiences! But it is normal for the moment to come when nothing - or almost nothing - seems new and exciting to you…

What to do when the passion disappears? First of all, you both have to accept that you have evolved, that your relationship has grown and that you have grown as a person and you have to enjoy this fact, not mourn him as a good friend who has disappeared!

The sensations may have disappeared from the beginning, but they have been replaced by more important feelings for a real couple relationship: love, attachment, respect, and adaptation! Many deplore the moment when the routine appears in the couple, but even that routine that they can run away from offers you the things that every person needs sooner or later: affectivity, communication, emotional comfort!

Secondly, when you feel that the passion is disappearing, try to vary and spice up your sex life from time to time and pay attention to ensure moments of intimacy for the two of you! You will not find sex seasoning tips here, there are more articles about this on the site!

In the end, as long as there is love and attraction between partners, the fact that the passion disappears is only the effect of following the natural course of the evolution of a relationship!