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I Chose The Wrong Dom and 24/7 House. Here's What Happened.
(Free background photo from canva.com) Back in 2018, I was new to polyamory and BDSM as a lifestyle, not having fully experienced either in their entirety. Being the black sheep of the family, the rebellious kind who liked to know that she was intrinsically different from everyone else, I was drawn to these alternative lifestyles quite naturally. I then met a very handsome older man who stole my heart.
By Lorah Catherine6 years ago in Filthy
BDSM negotiations
So this is one topic everyone in BDSM needs to know about. We will get into everything you need to know. What is a negotiation? It's where you talk about everything pertaining to the scene or relationship. This is the time to lay everything out on the table. It's a time to make sure that the two of you are on the same page. In a dynamic or relationship it's usually an ongoing conversation and one you can revisit over and over again.
By Lena Bailey6 years ago in Filthy
is pornography cheating
This is a slightly more involved question then it used to be a few years ago. Its not just videos in plain packaging and top shelf magazines. You can access pretty much anything you like via your phone or computer, legal or otherwise. The choice is massive and basically for free unless you want to pay for "premium content".
By ASHLEY SMITH6 years ago in Filthy
Making Love.
In honour of the month of love I think it’s only befitting I write about love but since I’m a little tired of the subject on relationships let’s focus on the aspect of making love. Sex is my favourite topic to talk about. I can make any normal conversation dirty. That's how you learn about sex and people. I find it educational. I have no shame when it comes to this topic and will discuss anything, anywhere and I don’t care who is listening. People might find me inappropriate at times discussing it so openly, anywhere and with anyone around, such as on the bus with an old lady sitting close by or in the office with the mangers not too far away, but I find it bizarre we don’t talk more openly and freely about the one thing that is constantly on our minds.
By Elena Saoirse6 years ago in Filthy
4 Reasons Why Sexual Desire Changes In Men
Men. Society views you as always ready for sex. There are books about it, tv-series that showcase it – and let’s not get started on how pornographic films portray your libido (and erectile capacity!). If I could only tell people one thing about sexual desire in men and people with penises, it would likely be this: it isn’t a constant. And there are a lot of reasons why sexual desire changes.
By Leigh Norén6 years ago in Filthy
Dirty Talk
Dirty talk has always made me feel awkwardly shy, which is totally out of character for me to be shy about anything. Awkward, on the other hand, well let’s just say I don’t need to flirt, I seduce with my awkwardness. But back to my point, I believe the main reason dirty talk is foreign to me is because I don’t curse in my day-to-day speech.
By Gypsy Deeva6 years ago in Filthy
How To Love
What's a relationship without intimacy? Truth is nothing. The relationship/marriage would never make it without intimacy being present. There are 5 types of intimacy: Emotional, Physical, Sexual, Spiritual and Intellectual. Most of us just simply see intimacy as two units emotional and physical. Learning now there's 5 different types I'm sure you never put that into perspective. So if we really think about any of these types being absent in a relationship can you understand why it wouldn't last or you could stay together and be "stuck" is also a choice many couples deal with. They choose to live that way that is so unhealthy for yourselves and those around you seeking out a ridiculous lie! Being an intimacy coach this is what I see all to much in my clients whether their sexless, "stuck", their too broken. I hear every excuse in the book but the one I'm really there to teach and coach about. Fighting for your relationship be reclaiming your love life and seeing that you truly deserve happiness. My clients rather stay miserable and live that way then engage in a way that could fix the problem if some effort and dedication went into the actual relationship itself. Regaining that spark back is hard I get it but also letting it go is not somehow going to fix anything either. With time the problems and resentment just builds to new level of no return or you have the participants not wanting to even try and consider saving it. It's the last option they have in mind until they come and see me. Reigning intimacy isn't easy but here are just a few examples:
By Kara Kanai6 years ago in Filthy
Sex Tips: Your Partner's Needs
Gossiping among all forms of women, everyone hears the same complaint. "My husband doesn't do what I like," or "My wife insists we do something to spice up the bedroom," and the beat goes on. Men and women complain that they don't do enough to liven up the bedroom.
By Heather Wilkins6 years ago in Filthy
BDSM Mentors and Protectors
So I wanted to write this post for those who were curious about what these people did and if they need one or both. I also wanted to write this for my mentee to teach them what I should (and could) do for them. I will be putting in what I know and what others around me know into this post. So let's get started — there's a lot to cover.
By Lena Bailey6 years ago in Filthy
How To Really Turn The Sex Up A Notch In Your Relationship
When you get into a relationship, the most important thing is sex. One should know that sex is not just physical in a relationship, it is a mental and emotional connection as well. If you are disturbed because of any issue in your family or at your workplace, you won’t be able to turn on that easily. Because your mind is somewhere else and you are in a completely different state of mind. To have a notch in your relationship, sex doesn’t require only toys and sexy clothes, it takes some extra effort from you and your partner.
By Adriana Smith6 years ago in Filthy
