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13 Relationship Tips That Will Instantly Improve Your Love Life

Love Life Improvements

By Ashlee MoorePublished 4 years ago 3 min read

Love can be the easiest thing in the world. It can take you to cloud 9 and make all of existence feel like a dream. Love can also be hard. It’s something you have to actively work on. Of course, there are a few ways you can instantly improve your love life.

1. Spice Up Your Playtime

This is particularly relevant for couples who’ve been together for a while. It’s much too easy to let your sex life become routine. Incorporating spicy games into your bedroom activities is a great way to show your partner you’re turned on by them.

2. Have Sex Frequently

Sex is a natural expression of your passion for one another. As you get older and life demands more of you, it can be difficult to prioritize pleasure, but that’s exactly what you should be doing. Whenever and wherever you can, set the mood and enjoy a little alone time.

3. Listen and Communicate

Active listening and open communication are pillars of any relationship. While it would be lovely if mind-reading was an option, it isn’t, so you’ll have to create a judgment-free zone where you can both express yourselves. This includes any bedroom fantasies you may both have.

4. Know Yourself

Communicating your feelings, needs, and desires is impossible if you don’t take the time to understand them yourself first. What gets your blood pumping? Explore your interests, and don’t be afraid to push on your comfort levels with the help of your partner.

5. Tone Down Your Inner Critic

We all have flaws or things we don’t love about ourselves. But, when you’re in an intimate situation with your partner, try to drive out those negative thoughts and enjoy the variety of sensations. Remember that your significant other is probably lost in the moment too, and they’re just happy to be there with you.

6. Invest in Some New Toys

Don’t be afraid to invite some friends to the party! From vibrators to harnesses, sex toys can take your sessions (with or without your partner) to the next level. Choose a few together so both your needs are met.

7. Spend Quality Time Together

The keyword here is quality. Don’t settle for Netflix on the couch. Turn off the TV, and be present with each other. Whether that means going on a nature hike, visiting a museum, or playing some adult games, you decide.

8. Be Dependable

Nothing is sexier than a trustworthy person who allows you to truly let your guard down. Before the clothes come off, your partner needs to know that they can rely on you and trust that you’ll be in their corner.

9. Life Isn’t a Movie

Rom-coms and adult films are great but don’t forget that they’re only movies and that the sensual scenes are not necessarily based on real feelings. Real love can be messy, and it takes serious effort from both parties. Similarly, real sex is magical, but it can also be awkward and funny as you two explore one another.

10. Forgive and Move On

You don’t have to forgive (that’s another conversation), but if you do, you need to move on. That’s what forgiveness is all about. If you bring up the bad deed at every opportunity, maybe you haven’t really let it go.

11. Everyone Has Baggage

Remember that your partner is carrying baggage that you might not be able to see. Old scars may not hurt anymore, but they still leave a mark. Understand where your partner is coming from, and be patient with them. Chances are, you’re carrying baggage too that requires patience on their part.

12. Take Some Space

It’s easy to spend all of your free time with your partner, so much so that you end up taking their presence for granted. Having some time apart from each other can make the time you have together feel invaluable.

13. Live in the Now

Don’t spend too much time thinking about those early dates or sex that didn’t go exactly as planned. Similarly, don’t worry too much about what the future holds. Live in the moment, and experience your love as it happens in real-time. Once the moment passes, you can’t get it back.

Maintaining a healthy emotional and sexual relationship is possible. You just have to be willing to open yourself up to new experiences and remember to always respect one another. Have fun with it, and your love life will be amazing.

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About the Creator

Ashlee Moore

Ashlee Moore is an illustrator, writer, and editor from Portland, OR. Her passion for creating content that's both sex positive and LGBTQIA+-centric drives the majority of her visual and literary storytelling.

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