6 Ways To Make Your Marriage Exciting Again

It’s easy to get caught up in your work life, and start neglecting the people closest to you. It gets even trickier after you have kids. It’s normal for a marriage to become less intense over time, but that doesn’t mean it has to be dull or boring. So if you’re ready to make some changes with your partner, the good news is that the process can be simple, inexpensive and most importantly, rewarding.

Get Spontaneous

The easiest way to bring back the excitement is by being open to sudden plans. This is the time for you to let go of all your work and family stress. Saying ‘yes’ to things will help you share different experiences with your partner and help you find out more about each other.

Getting out of your comfort zone can be difficult and making plans might seem like a good thing, but sometimes it isn’t. Planning every single moment can be tiring and a huge chore. Break away from the planning by agreeing to less risky or daunting plans to start, and then you can work your way up to freeing your calendar of those mundane activities. This will also help you establish a deeper level of trust with your partner. You can also surprise them at work with a visit, or send a gift to show that you’re thinking of them.

Ask Each Other Out

Just because you’re married doesn’t mean that you should stop taking each other out on dates. Going on a date is an easy but important way for you to keep the romance alive. Once you’ve added weekly dates to your routine, you can start getting creative about date ideas.

You can also make a jar together full of different types of date ideas for indoor and outdoor settings. If you get off work early one day, call your partner and ask them to get ready for a surprise date. Be spontaneous, be curious, and never stop dating.

Pick Up New Hobbies

Finding and sharing hobbies can be a great way to spend time together. Candle making is a popular choice for romantic partners, since it lets them create something together while having fun. If you like the candles you make together, you could even place them all around your house. Keeping reminders of fun memories together also helps couples feel reassured about their relationship.

Many couples also opt for dancing classes together like tango. As a sensual dance, tango ramps up the heat between two people and allows them to find harmony together. Even if you struggle at dancing, you’ll probably end up laughing with your partner because of silly missteps. The important thing is to just have fun.

Rev The Sex Engine

How active and intense is your sex life? If it’s been a while since you took it off snooze, start making it a priority. This is the part of your relationship that can offer a lot of exciting possibilities, so start exploring. Start making sex a more frequent topic in your conversations and discuss sexual fantasies together. Be vocal about your sexual needs and encourage your partner to do the same.

If you’re looking for creative ideas you can check threads on reddit or read sex books. You can also take sex quizzes together to make this process even more fun and interesting.

If you’re experiencing mental or emotional blockades in your sex life, you can try consulting a sex therapist. Remember, your ideas and efforts are for making your own relationship more fun. What works for other people might not for you, and vice versa, so try not to feel stressed or pressured if something doesn’t suit you. Be open to trying new things but be honest about how you feel, too.

Invest In Sensual Products

You can also increase the intensity and the attraction between you and your partner by using sensual products around each other. If you take on a lot of stress and find it challenging to get into the mood, you could try a massage oil or an arousal cream. Focusing on sensual well-being can enhance your sex life and help you to feel more confident about yourself.

If you want to tease your male partner to the point that they can’t resist you any longer, you can try out pheromone oils and products. But try not to mix pheromone-based cosmetics with your perfume. Spray your perfume beside the sensual product to make sure that it's effective.

Spoil Your Partner

Focus on how you make your partner feel about themselves as an individual and as your partner. Make special treats for them - surprise them with their favorite dessert or make their favorite meal. You don’t always need grand gestures to make your significant other feel special. Massaging their feet when they get back home after a long day, or volunteering to do their chores are simple ways to make your partner feel loved.

If you notice that they’ve been complaining about their skin or hair, do a skin and hair care routine with them to show that you are listening and you want to help.

You’ve Got This

Realizing that you want to improve your relationship with your spouse is a great sign that you’re headed in the right direction. You can build the right dynamic by having open communication, spending time together and focusing on each other’s needs. Always be open to switching up your routine and explore trying new activities and hobbies together to turn that spark into a roaring flame.

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