We cannot force people to love us or be faithful to us. People change and evolve; for better or worse. Either the attractions or feelings towards one another are still there or they just aren't for whatever reason, regardless of how we try to whip our minds around it.
Grandparent's love is not unlike a dog or a pet; you could do no wrong. Hence Parent-Kid 'Tude adjustments begin immediately once excessively spoiling Grandpas' leave visiting the nest. There is only one level of true love like this with unfiltered loyalty; unchanged forever more.
The whole-hearted concept of unconditional love that we find in Grandparents and even our faithful family dog.
How do we cope when this love leaves our lives? Do we hold on to it through cherished memories or short stories featuring favorite times; do we seek it in other familiar places? What actions do we, or should we take to feel that love again?
Human couples go through many stages. That's why communication is the top priority within relationships. The "Wonder what he's thinking ~ Wonder what she's thinking," is often an inherent ploy within relationships: Kind of a dodge ball 'Walking on Eggshells' routine to inadvertently get to the bottom of issues.
If someone you've Long~Loved, but you are now not necessarily In-Love with, chooses to betray - disrespect or mistreat us - the very best thing we can do is walk away. Leaving someone we love is never easy, often being the reason for sticking around to bite your tongue and endure your small battles; it could be worse. But cultivating the appreciation of our self-worth is the greatest gift of all.
Jay Kantor, Chatsworth, California
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Sage advice Jay! Thank you for sharing your wonderful reflections with us! ☺️
I love your thought experiments Jay... they feel completely organic and natural 🙂
Very sage advice Jay, and while it's such an obvious answer to say "That's why communication is the top priority within relationships. ", it's also so very true! Something I need to get better at for sure🙌🏾
For me the question becomes, "How can I extend that unconditional love to others?" Of course, I also have absolutely no sense of self-worth, so there's that.
Communication is so critical isn’t it? My husband is learning to be patient as I learn how to communicate
Lovely sentiment and good job
Very good!😊💗💕
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I love the thought process behind this Jay, it's easy to follow and tracks well! As well as concisely written! Nicely done!!
Well-wrought, Jay! Of the seven types of love, as the Greeks described it, our current system is uniquely suited to deny Pragma any and every chance of thriving. I'd almost say it was by design...
I think we grieve the loss in whatever way is meaningful for us, and then yes, we move on.
Such a well executed piece on unconditional love, love for another, and the importance of self love. I really enjoyed this one, Jay.
This is brill Jay - and I agree, you have to love your own self-worth. Sometimes I think that's hard to do though. ... Also agree about grandparents - my mum and dad let my nephews get away with murder!!! They're so much more easy going with them than with me and my bruv growing up! Hope you're doing ok in LA?
Experience telling its truth. Lovely sentiment j ❤️
j- Movie Great Memories sung by Bing Crosby - High Society's 'True Love.' - e
simple and true. nice write Jay
JJ, Love the sketch as always. Insightful and very true x CC and the paws x
Another beautiful piece. Grandparents love ❤️ are truly wonderful. I tend to write and reminisce on my love ones who have moved on
Bravo on this, Jay!
Absolute truth!!! Fantastic closing!!!❤️❤️💕 Loved your line, "That's why communication is the top priority within relationships."
Yes, walking away wouldn't be easy but it would be worth it
Great piece, Jay. A lot more serious than your usual stuff. A whole lot of Kantor wisdom here. I especially loved this line: "But cultivating the appreciation of our self-worth is the greatest gift of all." Loving ourselves and respecting our needs is the most important thing of all. I can only imagine what it must be like to feel like you're stuck in a relationship. I know others who feel that way and feel for them. Another great piece, JBud!
Very true and well argued, Jay. My only observation is that it would surely help if we carry self-worth into our most important relationships in the first place. To understand one's worth is to admit from the beginning the worth of the friend, partner, lover etc. But self-worth, like so many hard things can be difficult to learn and fully embrace. Neither my wife nor I brought self-worth into our relationship together. We were both too emotionally crippled for that. Quite honestly, our relationship only survived the turmoil that resulted because the two of us were too damn stubborn to say goodbye. Not sure that there is a lesson here for anyone, probably not, only that I am glad that we made it and are still together. And now we are the grandparents spoiling the hell out of grandchildren!
👏👏👏 Couldn't have said it better... Like a well-versed preacher, your wisdom is all over this page, J-bud. Well, done. You get a gold star and dibs on the swing set during recess. ⭐
JB - Nice reflections on the complexities of relationships, both conditional and unconditional. Love the sketch, and, of course, your conclusion is absolutely true - Kathy