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An Open Letter to the Boy Who Decided to Opt-Out of Being a Father
I don’t hate you for walking out on my child, I’m not even mad you decided to leave. You made a choice I would have NEVER expected from you, but I can also say I'm not surprised. You never stuck around when times got hard. I just never thought you'd leave your child in the process. But it’s nights like these that the resentment hits me. The nights when my son is sick and after a long night at work, I’m still up til the early hours of the morning because he’s so uncomfortable he can’t sleep. The nights where I can’t seem to get him settled down because having a cold— everything in his little body just aches and feels terrible. The nights where I fall asleep for 5 minutes thinking he’s finally ok enough to get some rest, only to be woken moments after dozing off. It's the days where I am worried all day at work, with my child in the back of my mind. Calling every break I get to see if there's any improvement. You don’t even care to check up or ask if he’s ok. You have absolutely NO idea when he's even sick, or getting an immunization, or needing daily (expensive) probiotics. You know nothing about his health, nor do you care. He's been to the hospital twice, do you have any idea as to why? Of course you don't. Don't even get me started on the financial aspect of this. Co pays, pharmacy costs, otc medicine—that’s all on me because fuck a job when you’re put on child support right? Instead of supporting and financially helping, which is the least you could do—you quit your job and claim you cannot find another. But that's a story for another time.
By Mar Ta7 years ago in Families
The Single Mom
I had a plan. Finish school, get married, and have kids. God had something else up his sleeves. Never did I expect to become a mom at age 21, let alone becoming a single mom. When I took the home pregnancy test and I saw that this time this test was positive, I was shocked. Full of emotions (I have had other pregnancy scares in the past with my best friend), I told my best friend/father of my child I was pregnant over a text message, since he wasn't answering his phone. I felt alone because I knew what his reaction was going to be. During this time, he and I were going through some things to where we were not in a healthy place. I truly thought it was going to be me and my child forever in the beginning. He didn't want anything to do with our baby when I found out. It took months for him to come around. He may have been there my whole pregnancy, but he caused me a lot of stress. I had many nights where I cried myself to sleep. I would find myself walking into work with red eyes because he was making me cry. Never was it easy. I was hurting a lot and he seem like he didn't care about my feelings or about the stress he was putting on to our baby.
By Devin Mitchell7 years ago in Families
Single Parent Life
So many times do we see posts about such and such parent isn't here. However, no one really seems to acknowledge the things they do for their own children in a positive light or how much they go through without breaking. Yes, I know you cook and clean. You also serve as chauffeur teacher, counselor, monster hunter, personal shopper, coach, and so much more. So to all of you out there, you are strong and you can do this. I don't care about the reason you are single parent. I care that you know you are not alone. So to show just how capable you are, I'm going to share my story.
By Elizabeth Weilenman7 years ago in Families
Stop Saying "Single Mom"
I hate the term “single mother,” even though I guess I am one. I think saying “single mother” denotes weakness, a victim. That’s not me. I am a single woman with children, a divorced woman with children. I am a strong woman, like I’ve always been. My marital status doesn’t change that. I realize what I’m saying may be controversial to many, but quit playing the victim, even if you are one, become a victor.
By LittleFish BigPond7 years ago in Families
5 Things Not Say to a Single Mum
We could be in the 21st century and still single mums (I'm British if you find how I spell mum weird, get used it ha!) get a lot of flak. First, the media is our sown enemy, with no positive single mum representations. The descriptions of single mums are always the same; over worked, under-appreciated and unloved. While, ALL mothers whether happily married, living with a partner or single have felt some if not all these at some point in motherhood.
By Barbie Wambui7 years ago in Families
The Truth About Single Mothers
What comes to mind when one hears the term “single Mother?” The word ‘difficulty’ is a given, and you may also consider words like ‘strength’ or ‘persistence’, and you would be correct. With the title, there is apparently a certain air of respect and honor attached, although many are using it completely wrong.
By Angela Brigance-Vance7 years ago in Families
Going Alone
I’m a single mom, have been for most of my adult life, at this point and I wouldn’t change it for a minute. Is it tough? Hell yes it’s hard, I work two jobs to be able to pay all my bills and keep my son fed. Not to mention, he’s an eating machine, it doesn’t matter how much food I buy, it never seems to be enough. I’ve tried dating sites to find love and really, they’ve all let me down. After so many failed attempts, I’ve made the decision to do this all on my own.
By Lacey Duffy8 years ago in Families
Third Time's the Charm
Far be it from me to buy into the concept of summer flings bred by pop culture such as Grease and Dear John, especially with my history in love. There is just something about warmer temperatures and longer days that make love easier. Everyone has experienced this phenomenon at some point in their lives. The third time is the charm, so they say and hoping it holds true in my story.
By Angela Brigance-Vance8 years ago in Families
I Am Not a Stigma
Dear Stranger, My child is not your burden. I am a single 23-year-old mom, but my life is not over. I see the looks you give me when you ask if I'm married, the pity you give because you think I am asking for it. I promise you I am not. I am a single mom, this was not my plan, but in no way is it a mistake.
By Harley Rose8 years ago in Families
Raising a Child as a Single Parent
Remember that time when you found out you were pregnant and everything was great, you were so excited and couldn't believe it. You told everyone, and your family was so happy! You took pictures of your belly and posted all the pictures on Facebook. Everyone said how happy you guys looked together. You've been with your boyfriend for over a year, you thought you were going to get married, you thought everything was going to last forever. Remember the time being pregnant and he was by your side through the entire pregnancy, morning sickness, mood swings, singing to your baby while it was in your belly. Then that moment where you knew you were in labor. Where every three minutes you feel it. Him rushing you to the hospital as fast as he can.
By Ashley8 years ago in Families
Struggles of a Stay-at-Home Mom
Being a stay-at-home mom is, in my opinion, one of the hardest jobs out there. You get no breaks, no pay, you're physically exhausted most of the time, and it's always the same thing on repeat everyday. But you have those glimpses of your child's smile that pushes you forward everyday.
By Lori Ann8 years ago in Families
Livin' That #SingleMomLife - Out on Your Own
Motherhood: the most fulfilling, though challenging, job a woman could ever dream of having. A dream that also takes a lot of grace.
By Rheana Roose8 years ago in Families