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Sometimes a good divorce is better than a bad marriage.
What Kind of Divorce Coach Do You Need?
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY. So many people ask me this question: What kind of coach do I need? Well, I always say: you need multiple coaches. They say “what … no… but I only have one issue…” And I say: you may have one issue today but you’re going to have many more coming. Why is that?
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
Dads Are Making Divorce Mistakes
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY: One of the biggest problems with divorce is that men and dads are trying to divorce alone. They’re trying to figure it out on their own. Divorce is not something that you can just YouTube about and just figure it out on your own. It’s not something where the answer will just miraculously come to you.
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
How Much Will Your Divorce Cost You?
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY. And if you think to yourself: I’m going to spend $5,000 or $10,000, and I’m going to stop, I can tell you that it’s probably not going to happen unless you adopt the right strategies from the very beginning. And what are those strategies? Well, if you’re going out into your divorce with this thought that “you’re right and the judge is going to do exactly what you think that they’re going to do and that you’re only going to go once to court and that’s it, it’s going to be over, it’s going to be done with”, I’ll tell you you’re wrong because once you go into court, one time, you’re opening up Pandora’s box and you just don’t know when you’re going to be coming OUT of that situation. So, what can you do instead? Well, you can learn to “respond” versus “react” to situations.
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
When Divorcing, do you only need a therapist & lawyer?
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY They think that the first two people they need to hire from the get-go is a lawyer and a therapist. I have to disagree that those are the ONLY two professionals that you need to go to. Why? Because you’re going to fall into a whole load of unknowns. You’re walking into an unknown territory and I can tell you from personal experience that those are not the only two professionals that you need. There are many other professionals from various different industries who can help answer your questions better than a lawyer or a therapist. And I’m not saying a lawyer and a therapist is bad, nothing against them whatsoever.
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
Divorce Is Like The Lost And Found
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY Is divorce always dreadful? Or could it be a golden opportunity? Do you feel you have LOST a part of yourself? Would you like to REIGNITE that part of you? You have a critical choice to make: you either focus on finding the treasure or, keeping the garbage. Will you get out of “yesterday”? Are you laser focused on your end goal- on what it is that you TRULY want in your life? …. Divorce is like the lost and found. If I say this to you, does it resonate with you? … I used to be somebody when I got married. I was a particular person. I liked doing certain things, I had certain hobbies, I had certain interests and I was a certain kind of character. Now, years later after being married, I’m a totally different person. Sometimes I look in the mirror and I don’t even recognize myself. I don’t even know who I am anymore….
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
I was NOT Prepared for My Divorce | Dealing with Divorce
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY: I honestly had no idea what was going on. The only thing I remember simply is that when I got separated, I honestly thought it was just, he goes his way, I go my way, we don’t fit well as a married couple so, let’s just go on with our lives. Little did I know that I was so naïve. Little did I know that I did not understand what was about to come my way. I had no idea that my whole life was going to turn upside down. I had no idea that the stress would be so overwhelming that I ended up sick every single year for six years in a row.
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
How It All Started
My favorite niece tells tall tales, funny, amusing, uplifting lies. She has a way of spinning ordinary events into engaging yarns, finding fascination and humor in the things adults do, as only a fifteen year old could, poking us in the eye, her long black bangs shielding her questioning blue eyes. The only problem is that when she gets to what feels like the middle of the story, she abruptly stops, smiling, assessing our reaction. Occasionally at these gatherings where she's telling four or five quick stories in a row, someone will ask her, well, what happened next, but more often than not, when the last story is over, we will move on to a different topic. Natalie, I whisper to her, every good story has a beginning, middle and an end. Beginning, middle, end, I'll repeat. Typically she will grin, shrug and engage in another on-going conversation. On other occasions, among muffled laughter, she will make an excuse: that WAS the end, Uncle Sam; you don't KNOW how things end, silly; whatever, Uncle Smartie. But one time she turned sullen and said, "Sometimes you can't tell when things end."
By Conrad Ilesia4 years ago in Families
True Divorce Story: Little Sally's pair of Shoes and Grilled Cheesed Sandwich cost $5,000!
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY So, I left Sally’s pink shoes at the father’s house and the father refuses to give me back the shoes. So, I argue back and forth and say, “give me back the shoes- I bought them”. And he says, “no, not giving you back Sally’s pink shoes”. So, I go to my lawyer and I say “he won’t give me back the shoes and I want the shoes back, I bought them, I paid them. Here’s the receipt and I want them back”.
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
No one is Protected From Divorce | Divorce Planning
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY There’s no way these dramas and stories are going to happen to them…. There’s no way that these situations are going to happen because the X doesn’t have money. The X doesn’t have that power… The X doesn’t have the ability or the capacity to do that… The ex is a nice person- he or she would never do anything like that. And I’ll tell you something, if you think that you can PREDICT what your ex or soon to be ex is going to be like, you are DELUSIONAL. You cannot predict what your soon to be ex is going to turn into just as much as you cannot predict that they’re always going to say and do what they say they’re going to do. Things change, life changes, situations change, people come and go into their lives: new girlfriends, new boyfriends, new husbands, new wives, new circumstances arise. You cannot predict. And this is why all I always say you must at the very, very beginning, even BEFORE you talk about getting divorced, you must carefully and logically plan your divorce.
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
A Helpful Guide on Alimony and How it is Awarded
It's a common belief that alimony is a guaranteed result of a divorce settlement. But in reality, the court orders alimony only when it finds that the spouse seeking alimony is indeed financially needy and needs spousal support. It could be because he or she spent time looking after children but didn't work, as a stay-at-home mom, or is ill and thus incapacitated to find another job. Even if your partner earns more than you do (or vice versa), it won't necessarily result in getting alimony.
By Robert Smith4 years ago in Families
This Divorce Response : "I'll try" Makes Me Cringe!
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY I'm honestly convinced that I should have studied psychology before I got divorced. And the reason is that I think my life would have been easier. I think I would have understood things better. I would have gone through less trial and errors. And life would have been more peaceful post-divorce. And the one main area that I will never forget and certainly still lingers around a little bit is, when I was married, my ex used to always say, when I ask him to do something or anything like that, his answer was always, "I'll try" or "It should be OK" or "I don't see why not, but I'm not quite sure".
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
This Divorce Response : "I'll try" Makes Me Cringe!
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY: Divorce comes with many annoyances. I’m honestly convinced that I should have studied psychology before I got divorced. And the reason is that I think my life would have been easier. I think I would have understood things better. I would have gone through less trial and errors. And life would have been more peaceful post-divorce. And the one main area that I will never forget and certainly still lingers around a little bit is, when I was married, my ex used to always say, when I ask him to do something or anything like that, his answer was always, “I’ll try” or “It should be OK” or “I don’t see why not, but I’m not quite sure”.
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
