divorced
Sometimes a good divorce is better than a bad marriage.
Invisibility
Weight. I had never realized how ponderous it could embellish into, until, at the progeny, my father became absent. It drub, as if a non-predicted storm launched to the beaches of my heart. Full force, a missile destroyed the trust I had within my biological father figure.
By Jaida Williams4 years ago in Families
Biography
My name is Marie A. Diaz-Cervo and I was born on the 18th of November, 1965 in Port-au-Prince, Haiti. I am the daughter of Haitian/Cuban sailor Anthony Salomon of Les Cayes and of Ghislene Moise of Benet, Haiti. I am a seamstress. The Salomon descent from Haitian President Lysius Felicite Salomon and The Diaz-Cervo family has a long, established history in New Jersey, dating back to 1996. My father died at the age of 43 in 1972 from pneumonia, which was also the likely result from a cold he caught overseas. I had a happy, normal childhood as an older child, leaving me somewhat spoiled. My mom remarried after ten years. My mom would marry two more times. My mother's last husband was Andre, he became a big part of my life and I maintained close contact with him until his death in 2014. Growing up without my birth father impacted me greatly and left me with issues of abandonment and low self esteem. I got over being timid by being a runway model for different Colleges and Church. My mother left to make a better life for us in USA, her older brother Elias Moise came to USA with a company and they give him the opportunity to get his green card, then after five years in America he became an American Citizen which gave him the advantage to sent for his brothers and sisters to come to USA. Each of them worked hard for five years and became American citizens. My mother worked hard for me to have the best education at the prestigious Gerard Gourge Preparatory School. I migrated to the states at the early age of fifteen with her three sisters Rith Rosario, Marthe, Dany and two brothers and Remps. I continued on to Erasmus Hall High School in Brooklyn, NY then attended Essex County College and St. Peter's College where I graduated in 1991, with an AAS in Arts and science. My working career started as a sales person at Valley Fair then I worked at Food town, Karen’s Curtain, Burger Kings when I was still in High School. After I earned an associate degree in Arts and Science and get my license in Radiology Technology after graduation I worked at Christ Hospital in Jersey City, New Jersey for two years and Union Hospital in Union, New Jersey for seven years. I also worked for Dr. Botwin and Innella for about one year part-time. While working in the operating room at Christ hospital a nurse mentioned to me that my neck was too big and I should go see an Endocrinologist. I found out that I had hyperthyroidism, I understood that was the reasons for my fatigue, sweaty feet, palpitation and mood swing. Soon after I met my ex husband Jose Diaz-Cervo at Union Hospital in the Radiology Department, both of us worked there. Jose and I got married in 1995; I became mother to his two children Daniel 4 1/2 and Kassandra 2 1/2 years old from a previous marriage. Due to complication from my thyroid surgery, I was informing by my doctor that I may not be able to have children. Eventually Jose Diaz-Cervo and I have two children of our own. Prior to that him and I had a partnership with Bushido Karate in East Hanover. As a businesswoman I co-founded DiCervo's Inc/Kingdom Karate World Group LLC. Which expand into several facilities and many black belts? We owned vending routes in New Jersey for about two years then we sold the route to run the Karate school full-time. I established and maintained positive relationships with parents, and students. I helped to established expansion into several locations by recruited as many as 30 new clients per month. I developed and managed working staffs and graduated several black belts. I helped the team to generated sales per month and developed and implemented plans to encourage student participation. I implement and managed the development and maintenance of Summer Camp at the center. I carried out weekly treatment meetings and ensured clients are progressing. I did advertising and social Media outreach on networks such as Facebook, Twitter, etc. I promoted private sales & monthly events. I builded relationships with bloggers & online publishers. I used database management to track social media & marketing progress. I implemented various projects related to merchandising & item processing. A friend of my ex-husband recruited him in a financial business and as his wife I had to get involved somehow to work as a team. We worked hard days and late nights to propel the business. We got promoted to Regional Vice-President in Primerica in 2004. In 2006 life became unbearable for me, my marriage was falling apart, my health deteriorated with hemorrhage. I used my knowledge within the field to develop my skills as a Haitian American author. My first book entitled My Grateful Book from Dorance Publishing is a direct result of my hard work as well as life experiences. Unfortunately I got divorced after thirteen years of marriage and it was not a friendly separation. I share my passion for writing by blogging about certain topics and issues which have an impact on my social life. In my leisure time, some of my activities include fashion, traveling, reading and writing as well as staying fit. I am a social butterfly. To reach my goal I have a set time to start the assignment around a learning environment, therefore the distractions will be minimal. I am committed to managing my time so I can achieve great results. I believe that I can succeed and overcome the obstacles in my life. I used my phone calendar to keep track of scheduled events and it sent me reminders. Radiology technologist while working for Union hospital in 1996, DiCervo’s Karate & kickboxing were established and changed to Kingdom Karate World Group LLC and the rest is history. With hard work and an impeccable work ethic, I quickly propelled DiCervo's Inc into a thriving business. My intimate knowledge of the business community and geography of New Jersey make me one of the most qualified Program Directors. After my divorce and illness from thyroid disorder, I now work as an ABA paraprofessional and substitute teacher for special needs children. My success comes naturally from my creativity, a passion for people and my personality described as a social butterfly. I wear different hats in my life because my life is divided into several categories. I am a creative person and my friend advised me that I work well under pressure. I enjoy the chaos in my life most of the time. I'm comfortable being a mother and I am successful at it. I was well connected in the business community, I instilled confidence in people, and they knew they would always get a straight answer from me. In December 2009 I got divorced from my husband of fourteen years and the corporation. My next journey continues with blogging at Fan box then I became a success coach there. I also work as a substitute teacher and currently continuing my education at University Of Phoenix. Over 6 years ago, I had a catalyst event that transformed my life. Although it took me some time to come to grips with some of the challenges I was faced with at the time, I realized that I love people; and making a positive difference in their lives is where I get my rewards and satisfaction. I've had wonderful opportunities to meet and maintain friendships with some of the most educated and wonderful people. Time and time again, I'm taught that wisdom, understanding, empowerment, commitment and success come from the passion within you and the people in our lives. I wear different hats in my life because my life is divided into several categories. I am a creative person and my friend advised me that I work well under pressure. I enjoy the chaos in my life most of the time. I'm comfortable being a mother, and an ABA therapist and I am successful at it. I will close out this autobiography with the most important thing in my life, my children and my family. I am in a wonderful relationship and we plan on getting married in two years. I cannot have any more children but we can adopt or be foster parents if we like.
By Marie A. Diaz-Cervo4 years ago in Families
Divorce and Law of Emotions: What's the correlation?
So, let me read you a little excerpt from a phenomenal book by Brian Tracy. It says: “The law of emotions states that 100% of your decisions and subsequent actions are based on emotion. You are largely emotional or 90% emotional and 10% logical, as has been assumed. You are completely emotional. Everything you do is based on an emotion of some kind. Your emotions are the energizing forces behind your thoughts. The more intensely you feel something, the greater affect that thought or circumstance will have on your life.
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
Divorce and Enthusiasm: Can those 2 words be put together?
You are getting divorced. Conversation of divorce is happening because something is broken. Something is just no longer working anymore. Someone is just not feeling good about this marriage anymore. Someone is distancing themselves- whether it’s you or both of you, it doesn’t really matter. The bottom line is that something isn’t working. And so, if something is not working, divorce is your golden opportunity to REDESIGN your life as you want it to be. To HONOR yourself. To give yourself what it is you actually want in your life. So, divorce could look like a bad thing because it’s the break up of the family and whatever it is the you knew and everything that you had is no longer going to be there anymore but, if you look on the flip side and you look at all the things that you ARE going to have and all those things are going to be introduced into your life, you should be enthusiastic about that. You should be focused on all those things that you are going to be reinvigorating back into your life, that you are going to be re introducing to the person that you really want to be and the life that you really want to have. So if you’re going through a conversation with your spouse or the other parent, and the conversation is not going so great, where you’re not feeling so great about divorce, I want you to know one thing: besides the fact of being overloaded with emotions , which I know you’re going to be, I want you to take the opportunity and really analyze where you’re at right now and is this really where you want to be because you need to be “enthusiastic” about your post-divorce life in order to make the right decisions right now. If you‘re not enthusiastic about what is going to come and what you are envisioning and what do you want to bring into your life, all your decisions you’re going to make are going to be coming from a very bad place and I guarantee you that you’re likely going to regret many of your decisions. So, if you are not sure what to do, if you’re feeling overwhelmed, confused and worried and anxious, part of which is normal, please join us at Divorce by Rose, a Divorce Community APP that was specifically created to help you: a. Stay anonymous while you are chatting with like-minded parents and b. Connect with like-minded parents that are probably thinking the same thing as you and acting the same way and showing up in their lives in the same way as you
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
Divorce is Like a Puzzle | Thinking About Divorce
Why? Because I want to help you make the decision: “Should I stay married or should I get divorced” from a logical standpoint. I want you to remove the emotions from the equation at the moment and just think logically so that you can make a PROPER decision of what you should do from this point forward.
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
Mothers MUST Become Financially Independent
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY At other times they’re really understanding the truth and validity behind what I’m saying. It is extremely, extremely important for women to become financially independent of the father or the spouse. And let me explain what I mean. If you are going to budget based on moneys that he is going to give you every month, whether that’s child support or alimony, I have to tell you that you’re going to fall into problems. And the reason is because jobs come and go. Money comes and goes. Games are played on a regular basis. And we’ve all heard all the kinds of games that are being played by people who choose not to pay the bills.
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
Divorcing With Maturity Is Sexy
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY Maturity… Divorce…does it even match? does it even go together? It does and it should! To be honest with you, one of the main things that I look for when I’m dating is that I’m looking for a man who divorced with maturity, who does not hate or despise his ex-wife, one who does not try to do anything possible to make his ex-wife or the mother of his children suffer tremendously. And I know many women who think this way and many women who are looking for that mature evolved man. And I know of many men who think the same way and are looking for that mature evolved woman. So often when we’re going through divorce, we throw in all of our emotions and all of our worst fears and all of our worst concerns and we say I don’t want to lose this, I don’t want to lose that, I don’t want to do this and do that and they think of all the negative. But the one thing people forget about is…. hold on a second… once the saga is over with, once it all gets settled, then where am I going to be?
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
Alone for Christmas
I remember thinking that when my kids were all grown and had their own families, that the house would be full on Christmas. I could always imagine my husband and I sitting in the house with the grandkids running around while dinner is being finished. Then we would all eat around a hug table. Then open gifts around the tree.
By Ireland Lorelei 4 years ago in Families
HOW TO GET YOUR DIVORCE FINANCES & BUDGET IN ORDER
Join our Divorce by Rose Community App ANONYMOUSLY: Hi, my name is Ravit Rose and I'm the founder of the Divorce by Rose Community App. In this course, How To Get Your Finances and Budget in Order, you're going to learn how to take the emotions out of the equation when it comes to money and put all your numbers down on a piece of paper. Whether you're contemplating divorce or newly separated and you're wondering to yourself “how am i going to make it to the end of the month”, Am I going to have enough money to buy food at the end of the month”, “How am I going to pay my bills”, “Am I going to be eating out of tuna cans instead of eating my steak dinners that I'm used to”, “How do I ensure that I'm not going to end up broke and broken”?
By Divorce by Rose4 years ago in Families
