Writing didn’t save me—Until I let it be messy

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Let’s be honest: most people assume that writing is supposed to be polished, inspiring, and—at the very least—productive. It should flow effortlessly, leave readers breathless, and ideally rack up a healthy number of likes.

But for me, it wasn’t any of those things. Not at first.

It was raining the day it hit me. Not a dramatic storm, just the kind of rain that soaks in slowly—like doubt. The kind that makes everything feel a little heavier than it is. I was sitting by the window, surrounded by half-finished drafts, a cold cup of coffee, and an even colder sense of self-doubt.

I kept wondering:

How do you write something real when you don’t even feel like a real person right now?

That’s when I realized I was asking the wrong question.

Writing doesn’t begin with clarity.

It doesn’t start with brilliance, structure, or some grand insight into the human condition.

It begins with honesty.

French philosopher Michel de Montaigne once wrote that essays are a way of discovering who we are. We don’t write because we have the answers. We write because we don’t. That idea stuck with me. It gave me permission to stop performing and start listening—to myself.

Because for years, I wrote for results: traffic, clicks, applause. My worth as a writer was tied to the reactions of others. And yet, those “successful” pieces always felt hollow once the initial high wore off.

But the moment I started writing for truth instead of outcome, everything changed.

I started putting words on the page that didn’t try to be anything but honest. Raw. Incomplete. Sometimes they made sense. Sometimes they didn’t. But they were mine. And in some odd, beautiful way, they felt like a mirror held up to a part of myself I didn’t know how to name yet.

Why Personal Essays Matter (Even If You’re Not “Profound”)

Let’s clear something up: you don’t need a life-altering backstory to write something meaningful. You don’t need to survive a volcano, win a Nobel Prize, or have an “Eat, Pray, Love” year-long awakening in a foreign country.

You also don’t need:

• A PhD in mindfulness

• A perfectly structured plot

• A poetic metaphor about rain (oops)

You just need:

• A moment that mattered to you

• The courage to ask yourself hard questions

• And a willingness to write through the discomfort

Personal essays aren’t about showing off how wise or put-together you are. They’re not about offering polished life lessons wrapped in bow-tied conclusions. They connect best when we stop performing and start revealing.

When you sit down to write from a place of uncertainty, it might feel like you’re lost—but that’s often where the most honest stories begin.

What Helped Me Start (and Might Help You)

Here are a few things I had to learn (the hard way):

1. Your first draft is supposed to be messy. That’s not failure—it’s progress. In fact, if your first draft isn’t a bit embarrassing, you’re probably not digging deep enough.

2. People don’t remember polish. They remember truth. The moment that made you cry, or laugh awkwardly, or question something you always believed—that’s what stays with readers.

3. The smaller your story feels, the more universal it might be. Big doesn’t always mean better. “The day I forgot how to be kind to myself” is often more powerful than a memoir of global travels.

4. You’re allowed to doubt yourself and still write anyway. Doubt doesn’t mean stop. Doubt means you’re close to something real.

Here’s a writing prompt that helped me write my first real essay:

“The day I realized I couldn’t keep pretending…”

Set a timer for 20 minutes. Don’t overthink it. Don’t try to impress. Don’t worry about grammar or clarity. Just write like no one’s going to read it—but like you need to say it.

Final Thought

You don’t need to be certain to begin.

You don’t even need to be good.

You just need to be willing to show up with the version of yourself that’s real today. That version—raw, confused, hopeful—is more than enough.

And sometimes, it’s the very thing someone else needs to read to feel a little less alone.

So go ahead. Start. The rain can wait.