You Were Never Asking for Too Much

The Lie You Were Told

Maybe they didn’t say it out loud.
Maybe it came in the silence. The ignored texts. The shifting tone. The way they changed the subject when you opened up.

You started to wonder:
“Am I too much?”
“Do I expect too much?”
“Should I be quieter, cooler, easier to love?”

And slowly, the voice that once believed in you—the one that dreamed, that hoped, that knew your worth—began to shrink.

Until you weren’t sure what was real anymore.


Let’s Get One Thing Straight

You were never asking for too much.
You were asking the wrong people.

There is a world of difference.

It’s easy to start doubting yourself when people consistently fail to show up. When they disappoint you, breadcrumb you, ghost you, or treat your heart like an afterthought.
But their inability to meet you where you are does not mean you're asking for the impossible.

It just means they weren’t capable—or willing—to give it.


Basic Respect Isn’t a Luxury

You are allowed to want someone who listens.
Someone who texts back.
Someone who shows up on time, keeps promises, makes you feel safe.

That is not asking for too much. That is baseline human decency.

And yet, so many people have been taught to settle. To accept the bare minimum and call it love. To label crumbs as a feast. To tolerate confusion and call it chemistry.

But you know what clarity looks like?
It looks like effort.
It looks like consistency.
It looks like feeling calm, not anxious.

You deserve that. You always did.


The Wounds That Made You Tolerate Less

Let’s talk about where this all begins.

Most of us weren’t taught how to receive love—we were taught how to earn it.

We learned to be “good,” to please, to adapt. Some of us became the fixer. The quiet one. The one who held it all together.

So when someone makes us feel invisible, we don’t walk away. We try harder. We bend. We blame ourselves.

But listen carefully:
You do not have to prove your worth.
You do not have to work for love that’s real.

The love you deserve won’t make you chase it.


Healing Means Rewriting the Narrative

Healing isn’t just about moving on. It’s about rewiring what you believe you’re worthy of.

It’s looking at the younger version of you—the one who tolerated the bare minimum, who stayed too long, who blamed herself—and saying:

“You were trying. You didn’t know better. But now you do.”

Now you know what peace feels like. Now you know what effort looks like. Now you know what’s no longer acceptable.

And you will never again shrink to fit into someone else’s limited capacity to love.



Not Everyone Can Love You Well

That’s a hard truth, but it’s a freeing one.

Not everyone has the emotional tools.
Not everyone has done the healing.
Not everyone knows how to hold space for someone like you—someone deep, caring, intuitive, alive.

Some people will try, and still fall short. Some won’t try at all.

Let them go.

Their inability to love you well says nothing about your worth. It only reflects their readiness. Their wounds. Their limits.

You cannot change them. But you can choose you.


What You Deserve

You deserve:

Someone who calls when they say they will.

Someone who doesn't make you question your value.

Someone who knows how rare your soul is and treats it like gold.

Someone who feels like home—not a battlefield.

Someone who chooses you. Freely. Consistently. Wholeheartedly.


And yes, that someone can also be you.

Because the first and most important relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself.


Start With You

Before you ask anyone else to show up for you, ask yourself:

Do I show up for me?

Do I keep promises to myself?

Do I speak to myself with love and patience?

Do I give myself rest, joy, forgiveness?


It starts there.

Because when you start treating yourself like someone worth loving, the world around you shifts. You stop chasing love and start attracting it. You stop tolerating crumbs and start expecting wholeness.

And the people who once felt “almost enough” won’t even tempt you anymore.


It’s Not Too Late

You haven’t missed your chance. You haven’t messed it up.

You’re not too broken, too emotional, too late.

You’re learning.
You’re waking up.
You’re stepping into your power after years of doubting it.

That’s a miracle. Don’t downplay it.

It takes immense courage to unlearn the lies you were told and to start believing again—in yourself, in love, in the possibility of more.

You’re already doing it. Every time you choose peace over chaos. Truth over pretending. Wholeness over half-love.

You’re becoming who you were always meant to be.

Final Thoughts: Your Standards Are Sacred

Don’t lower your standards to meet someone at their level. Raise your boundaries and see who’s willing to rise.

You are allowed to be soft and strong. Loving and discerning. Open and wise.

Your capacity to love deeply is not a flaw—it’s a gift.
Don’t waste it on people who aren’t ready.
Don’t shrink it to fit into boxes that were never meant for you.

You are not too much.

You were just waiting for someone who could meet you fully.

Start by being that someone—for yourself.

The rest will follow.