Do you call Sex Love?

I've heard many poets and musicians refer to sex as love. I've heard many doctors and scientists call sex other words such as coitus, mating, sperm donations, copulation, intercourse, and some others. Do you call love sex? Or are you like me? I call sex sex, and love love. If you are like me and prefer to keep a term simple and comprehendable, then you may be interested in my list of vices that fall under the sexual conversation. The reason people like me do not call sex "love" is because of our experience in the six sexual vices which include: Danger, Jealousy, Disgust, Guilt, and Remorse. I will attempt to describe these vices with examples of horrible living circumstances that are quite painful to an individual so that the poets and musicians who wish to comprehend why some of us do not like calling love sex feel this way.

1. Danger. Is sex dangerous? How can "love" be dangerous? Love is not supposed to be dangerous, but sex sure can be. Most people would agree (I think) that rape and childbirth is not pleasurable. Most people do not want to put themselves at risk of humiliation. Sex has brought those dangers to people. Those are not the only dangers however. The doctors can give you a long list of sexually transmitted diseases that they've been trying to cure or at least comfort through the ages of human sexual relations. Condoms and birth control medicines were meant to allow humans sexual pleausure without the danger of pregnancy or disease, however they were not good enough to protect a person 100%. So if a person wishes to avoid the pain and humiliation of rape, childbirth, and std's, heeding the warning of Danger in sex is a wise thing to heed.

2. Jealousy. Some people are so in love with Sex that they get addicted or worship it like a god. They play "Doctor" and learn all the biological terms involved in sexual intercourse. What isn't generally discussed in clinical encyclopedias is the overwhelming and passionate emotion called Jealousy, which was covered quite thoroughly in the Judeo-Christian's Bible. If you have felt and known the emotion of Jealousy, you may understand why I consider it a Vice. Marriages have ended, violent acts have been committed, and even wars have been caused by the very painfully felt emotion of Jealousy. If some people can manage their jealousy by ignoring it or denying it, that's fine. Yet History has proven that Jealousy can lead to dangerous circumstances. Ignoring it or yourself while others make a joke out of you, doesn't promote sex as "love" whatsoever.

3. Disgust. Some people want to vomit when they see pornography while others can't comprehend why they feel disgusted seeing "normal biological functioning". I know both sides of this fence so I think I can explain to both sides. The disgust isn't aimed at the bodies in mating action. The disgusted person does not sneer at two squirrels in mating season. A person gets disgusted looking at pornographic images for two main reasons. 1.) That person was a victim of sex. 2.) That person doesn't comprehend why those porn stars don't see the dangers. Disgust is on my list of the 6 Vices of Sex because it is a conflict of interest between sexual participants and those who refrain. In a high school with hormones out of control, abstinent students may be subjected to bullying and peer pressure which is not under my definition of "love".

4. Remorse. Remorse is like repenting whether you consider yourself spiritual or religious or not. It can happen to any human. Animals do not feel remorse. Mr. Squirrel does not "cheat" or commit adultery so Mrs. Squirrel never experiences the pain of that humiliation. Though I have seen Mrs. Pigeon and Mrs. Squirrel look humiliated enough during their mating experiences. As for Mr. and Mrs. Human, adultery seems to cause problems (with or without children to raise) because of the pains and havoc of Jealousy. Once the pain of Jealousy is acknowledged by both parties, remorse eventually sets in. It is not as painful as jealousy in my opinion, but it can lead to depression and sleepless nights; Therefore, I consider it a vice worthy of inclusion on the list of Sex Vices.

5. Guilt. Regardless if sex caused jealousy or not, even consenting adults can meet with the problem of guilt. For example, a married couple goes to a pub for drinks. A spouse walking alone to the bathroom is interrupted by flirtation from an interested stranger. They are equally attracted. Neither spouse is feeling insecure or jealous. However, the other spouse intervenes the attraction because it must be "known" that the spouse is "owned" by the other "spouse" ----- this confrontation of "ownership" rights (with or without jealousy) can and sometimes has caused violent fighting matches. Have you ever seen two Bucks fight for the right to copulate with the Doe? Jealousy has nothing to do with it. But the Buck that doesn't win the fight, if he survives the fight will not enjoy licking his bloody cuts and whimpering about his bruises. Who. is guilty? Jealousy is not there to confirm. They are all guilty and innocent at the same time. On top of the Buck's humiliation at losing the fight, and on top of trying to ignore the pains caused by fighting, the Human version of the Buck may also suffer a spell of "Guilt" simply for being at the bar and feeling attraction to begin with. A rapist may also at some point feel "Guilt" especially if the rapist got raped and finally comprehends why that is a crime. Depending how many crimes or how much Guilt is felt, a human can experience Guilt as a severely traumatizing experience. Remorse is the lighter version of it.

6. Shame. I don't think all humans know this feeling. Chosen ones and Very Religious people may know what Shame feels like. Animals are shameless. They are 100% instinct most of the time therefore the word "shame" has no meaning to them. That is why they don't suffer any legal consequence for running around naked. The closest we humans can get to that legal shamelessness is on the beach in our bikinis. Shame is an uncomfortable emotion, similar to Jealousy. I consider it one of the vices of sex because it is usually taught to us from our parents and our religion and often it is taught with pain reinforcing it. Shame does not (as a vice) only belong to Sex. The emotion of Shame can occur with any "wrong-doing". If someone asks you "What makes you so righteous?" it is most likely because you don't feel "wrong". Righteousness is the inability to feel Shame. All animals are righteous and shameless, but humans with our laws and notions of order, can not escape Shame in any endeavor that has been deemed "right or wrong" by the majority. Sex is always a star in that conversation which is why some consider the topic of Sex "taboo".

Now that I've shown you the list of the six vices of Sex, I challenge you to share your opinions on Sex and these vices and why humans continue to put themselves in such horrible cirmustances. Is Sex really that great? Is sex really worth facing all of these vices?