My therapist is in love with me! I think...

Hello, hello,

If you use tiktok you probably came across the story of the woman that acused her ex-therapist of being manipulative, abusive and unprofessional in dealing with the crush she had on him. If you haven't watched the 19 videos she made about the subject but still want to be part of this momento on the internet don't worry. I've watched every video and I came here to tell you all about it. Let's start!

Who is Kendra?

Kendra, is our main character. She is an adult women with ADHD that is also a life coach to other adults with ADHD. Four years ago she decided to get back on meeds for her ADHD, so after a quick google search she found the therapist. She tells us that in the first session, via zoom (this is an important detail, keep it in mind) she noticed the the therapist was an attractive man close to her age and that was the fuel that started everything.

Before diving deeper in the story I want to make some disclaimers: Kendra accidently revelead the therapist name, but because she says that her goal is to spread awareness about therapist abuse she won't take down the video. She also claims that a name isn't enough to doxx someone or make it private information. Long story short, when you had a pakistani name plus a profession plus the city where you live in that actually makes it pretty easy to doxx. I won't say his name and if you came across it please refrain to spread it. I will give my opinions during this article, but mainly I'm trying to tell a story and spread information, please take your own conclusions.

The first red flags

Like I said before, Kendra painted her therapist to be a manipulatuve master mind, and to prove to us that she tells us the first red flags. A therapist job is to talk about meds and the correct dosage that you need, after some sessions he asks her about appetite, bowel moviments and urine to check if the meds are having some side effects. He also asks her about self harm and if she is having any thoughts because it's a special interest of his. Another red flag that she claims happened is his reaction when she asked if she could call him by his first name. He agress.

There's more?

Kendra's crush starts developing, she tries to book more session with him (they meet once a month for 30 minutes) that he doesn't agree is necessary; sends him emails telling him how gratefull she is that she found him (he doesn't answer those emails). She also tell us that one of his way to make her want him more is by acting cool in one session and the other one cheerfull, and by not answering those emails that I talked about. He would "compliment" her appareance but in a way that wouldn't be dangerous for him (he told her that he noticed that she was wearing glasses, or that she was more dressed up)

During all this Kendra's friends also say to her that one day her therapist is going to say to her that they can't see each other anymore because he is so atractted to her (she tells him this and he has no reaction). She starts dating a guy and they start having problems in the bedroom. Kendra talks to her psychologist about it and recommends that she talks with her therapyst about it (some meds can affect the libido). And she sure does, she starts that session by saying that she has a crush on him (she claims he smiled) and then goes off about her intimate life.

More sessions pass, she says that he is playing a hon and cold game with her to keep her interest and to gaslight her. Kendra then breaks up with her boyfriend and starts seeing this guys that is also a therapist. That guy is in love with a client of his and tells Kendra about his sexual fantasies with client. On the next therapy session Kendra tells her therapist about that guy and is thoughts. Her therapist looks uncomfortable with the story she is telling, and Kendra tells us that the reason he was uncomfortable is because he also was having the same thoughts as that guy so it was like she was holding a mirror to his more dark deepest fantasies.

Closing the distance

Like I told you, all this sessions happended over Zoom. One day Kendra asks her therapist why he is on an office if all his clients are through Zoom, and he tells her that he likes it that way better.

Kendra then discovers that he also takes pacients in person. He lied to her! Why? Well, because he couldn't take seeing her in person because he was so attracted to her of course. She books a in person session and when she seehs him innthe hallway she runs to hug him. He just gives her some pats in the back (a gesture made to keep is plan to manipulate her and keep her wanting more of course). In one of the session she says "we have a special relationship" and he corrects her and says "we have a professional relationship" (there he goes being manipulative by putting boundaries.

The dream

Near the end of this 4 years Kendra had a dream where her and her therapist hooked up. She tells him and he look shoocked and uncomfortable with the situation. According to her, it was because it was like she downloaded one of his fantasies and was putting it on display. In the end of that session he walks her to the foyer and asks if he will see her next month, something he never did. And there's the end of the "relationship".

"She claims"

Kendra isn't a reliable narrator. That's way I don't believe her when she tells us about some reactions that the therapist had. She showed us an email that her old psychologist sent her after Kendra decided to abruptly end her process with her asking if she could book one more session. Because she didn't know that Kendra last session will be that one she didn't have the usual questions or exercises prepared and she would like to end it all with closure. Kendra says she was begging to have her back and it was weird. If she could read a totally profissional email and arrive to the conclusion that it was begging imagine what other far fetched conclusions she had.

She also named her Chat GPT Henry and another AI Claude and she asks them for advise on the situation. Right now she is doing livestreams talking with those AIs to show that she is right.

Thoughts?

What are your thoughts on the situation? Have you watched anything about the situation?

If you want to read more of my work check out: How to earn money the easy way or Singers sue comedian and became the joke.

See ya,

JP