Multinational Crisis Part 3

“You’re so stupid!”

“ You’re an idiot to fall for that!”

“You are so naive!”

“ You should be ashamed!”

“How could you?”

“What on earth would make you do that?,”

“You gave them what?”

“You deserve it for being dumb”

“No one can know”

“I gave them so much, what do I do now?”

Sound familiar? Harsh? These are the thoughts of the victims, both men and women, who have been taken, by a scam. There is a huge stigma placed on this kind of crime. The ones who have never succumb to the enticements of a con artist, do not understand this pressure. And the ones who have indeed been victimized, have the weight of the world on the shoulder. This is especially true, if finances were involved, and aggravated if it has depleted needed funds or eliminated all they have worked and saved for years. It’s peer pressure and bullying to the nth degree, only they do it to themselves. There is no one to blame. There are no fingers to point outwards, just at yourself, as you wrack your brain around how to fix the mess you are in.

Most, victims say nothing at all, to anyone. It’s kept hidden to preserve, what little dignity they have left. Women especially, feel this tremendous guilt and shame, especially if they have given away life savings. The self incrimination is overpowering, often, more than they can or will verbalize.

Over the course of the year that I embedded myself in this journey, I came across so many women who had been lured and scammed. Getting them to open up about it was like pulling teeth out of a gator with one hand, while holding a dead chicken in the other. It was a no go. Some however, did give me some details, and others, different details. With these small morsels of their truths, I got the bigger picture. I was seeing what they had gone through with scammers, privy to the tactics they use, and let me tell you, there is no level of empathy large enough for me to offer them. That being said, they are still not talking about it with anyone. There a glossing over effect in play. They admit being scammed and minimize the damage and pain, they were caused, so no one can see how devastated they are about their shame and naiveté.

Men, you are not excluded from naiveté and falling prey to these scams. I also, came into contact with men who had been manipulated and were ashamed. Though their shame is not as deep as the women, I still noted a level of fear discussing details. Most, in fact, all the men I spoke to, shrugged it off, as if it was nothing. It is NOT nothing. Beautiful, women pics are being used to create profiles. They engage, you men, get under your skin, with the fantasy you’ll one day get to see theirs, and then they will give you some drama, where they need your help. They might outright ask for money or gift cards. They will say they will meet you, if you pay for the trip, the gas, the whatever. And you will send it and never hear from them again. Worse still, they will make something up, you will believe and take you down another road for more money next time.

Men, women, the more enraging part of the impersonations, is that once they have what they want, they know how to get to you, and get more. And they always want more and more. If you don’t get taken, or you get jumpy (wise) to them, they close out that account or profile and make up a new one. I had one scammer, having chats with me under several profiles and on different sites. I also had one that even sent his brother, one sent his cousin, and another sent a friend. There is no end to the tactics and creativity they use. Imagine if they used those superpowers for good and not evil. I am seeing images of “we got taken to the cleaners” support groups, in my head.

So let’s discuss how it happens. Men and women both, when bored or lonely, troll the internet for amusement and distraction. They see a post or a reel, and post a comment. Innocent enough. All of a sudden, you have a very attractive person, or maybe a celebrity you secretly swoon over, pop a reply or message you to friend you. For women, its hot man, and for the men it is a woman they believe, more than likely, would never have a chance with. These are all scammers. Yes, I say all.

This is the attitude, one should have, with anyone, online. Keep that guard up and do not take it down. Advice number one.

I’ll tell you why. If a celebrity reaches out to you and tells you, “I saw your profile and you seen amazing”, they tell you how handsome/beautiful your look in your profile pic, they say that your comment interested them in any way, exit the chat and block them. NO, and I mean NO celebrity is online messaging you or anyone else. I am certain of this. Why? Because their management would be insanely angry. They will have been warned early on in their careers, that public engagement is to remain public, not one on one, and not in a private chat situation. The reason for this is simple, legal liability.

Think about it, something is said privately, and one of the parties, has screenshot the words, to splatter on social media, on the celebrity. This is enough reason for them, so they don’t do it. So, listen up women and men! That celebrity or 12 out of 10 hottie, that somehow finds you more interesting than the thousands of hot men and women they come in contact with, on the daily, IS A SCAMMER. I can’t say this enough.

Now, if those were the only classifications of the identities con artists use, it would be easy, but it is just the tip of the titanic iceberg. Out of the two hundred and more imposters that I chatted with, it was the majority, but not limited to only them. The scammer had wizened up and is one step ahead of you.

I had celebrity scammers like Michele Morrone (dozens still follow me), Keanu Reeves (after all, my name says it all and I must be his girlfriend/wife), Ian Somerholder, John Schneider (if you don’t know who he is, look him up), and even Elon Musk, to name a few. Morrone is the hot ticket now, so his persona has tremendous traction, for now. I had military men, with a plethora of ranks trying to woo me, body builders, reality tv stars like Brad Thor, and a slew of other famous and not so famous men.

The identities being used, are in no way limited to people with a public personality. The savvy scammer has now learned that using the famous does not work all the time and now they come as the average every day Joe or Sue. Someone that could be your neighbor. These are conmen that know, you are more likely to talk to, identify with, and not question. They will have normal jobs, do everyday things with friends and family, and leave you thinking, “wow what a nice person”. You will want to become friends with them or more.

I hope, my reader, you are getting the picture here. Do not assume you are chatting with a person merely because they say they are that person. Leave that naiveté at the door.

So how do you know? What can you do? I am about to list the what’s and how’s.

I used to screenshot the conversations and the profile pic and names they used. Each profile has an address. I did it for the purpose of this article, and to have it for any celebs or policing agency that might need it or want it, but that went no where. No one cares, at this point, and if they do, there is no evidence to that fact. So her it is. Copy it and paste it on your wall. Keep in mind it is a small drop in the bucket and every day there is more to watch for.

1. Assume everyone online contacting you is a fake

2. If it’s ca celeb, they will start with compliments, that make you feel good, your profile is amazing , you are beautiful, hot, handsome etc.

3. Celeb- will always ask you how long you have been their fan, what you like most about their work ( this is to see how much you know about the celeb)

4. All scammers will ask your age (if there is a huge gap between you, they will always that age is just a number or that it is the persons that matter)

5.They will ask for you to send them a pic ( this is alway weird, because they know what you look like from your profile, but it is to keep track of which prey you are) (imagine file upon files of conversations, because you are not their one and only)

6. If you have already have a connection with one, they will more than likely ask you if you have eaten (almost every day)

7. It is their custom to wish everyone a happy new month, at the beginning of every month (they do it without thinking), and this is not a common greeting in most of the world

8. Depending on where you are in the country or world, pay attention to when they are and the times they actively engage with you. There is a big time difference. For me in the midwest, it is seven hours, making them active from 10-11 pm to 4-5pm the next day. From 4 to 11, there is usually silence. This is not foolproof. Some will keep unusual hours even for them.

9. If you are engaged and in private chat, you should begin to notice, they pop in and out of the conversation. You notice online, and then not. Sites like telegram show that at the top under the profile name while in chat. Make sure those settings are on for you in all platforms, and if you still don’t see it, tell them to turns theirs on. If they refuse or give an excuse, block them then and there. Scammer. They don’t want you to see when they are on or have been. You are not the only love of their lives.

10. The popping in and out long unusual stretches they take before answering you, is to google appropriate responses. Questions about the celebrity you might ask, that they didn’t know, or about things not common knowledge to a Nigerian favorite foods, what there is to do in the town they are from or grew up in etc., try to ask detailed info on personal issues. They will have to check the oracle (Google) for any public info, because you may already know the answer.

11. When you type out a long explanation for anything about yourself, a life situation, a story or even about your day, if it is of any considerable length, the reply from will be like an essay, repeating every single thing you said and in the same the order you said it. Why? Because that is how a bot replies. The text is copied, put to the bot for a good answer. Keep in mind most of these conmen are adolescents with no life experience, worldly experience or knowledge. That is to your advantage.

12. Watch for the emojis. The bots use them in almost all the responses. In fact, the scammers use them all the time. Roses, hearts, flowers in general.

13. Want to get nitty gritty in a hurry, start taking about sex. Most are intimacy immature and won’t engage well. They are not comfortable discussing intimacy at all. Often responding, they have to go and chat with later.

14. For you grammar adepts, you will notice the use of contractions inappropriately and in the wrong places. Ex., If you ask if they are, say, working, they will answer, "I’m." We know it means I am and so do they, but we don’t use it that way. If you ask your celeb or hottie, Will you be traveling, they answer with I’ll. Even my writing app is tagging its incorrect placement in this sentence. You get the gist. Watch for it.

15. They will never mention driving, most don’t know how or have cars, unless this work for them in very successful

16. When a non celeb tells you about themselves, they have similar stories they give you.

-They are a widow or widower (at any age)

-live abroad, in the armed forces, stationed somewhat there the time difference makes sense

-live out on a rig in the ocean

-have a child or children (for the sympathy and to use to want to help the little ones), in boarding school (they afford that but will still need all of your money to help their trauma)

17. Whichever you deal with, they will fall in love with you within a couple days. If they play the long game, it will take a week or two, but they usually don’t have the patience to wait on working you for money

18. Ask them to call or better yet, tell them you want to call them. They will give you excuses, everyone they can come up with. I’m in a meeting, the kid, is asleep, I’m not on my own phone, I’m using my manager, my business phone, I can’t because my management team won’t let me…..and on and on. You will never be permitted to call them, in most cases.

** please note: that since Ai is up and running, they can use bot relay

tech to make calls and even video calls. It can alter the voice and face of

anyone to match the person you think you are talking to.

19. If you do get them to call and you have them on the phone or if they send you a voice recording, you will hear clicks before they speak and throughout the conversation. The recorded message will not have correct voice inflections and sound artificial. It is not subtle. That is the bot doing its thing. You know what to do then. Hang up. Report. Block.

20. With a video call, or a video recorded message, watch it several times. Watch the mouth as they speak and especially when they say your name, which it will repeatedly, and not like we speak naturally. As in, “hello Alexandra, how are you doing today, Alexandra? I can’t wait to get to know you, Alexandra. I’m glad you are my fan, Alexandra”, complete overuse of your name.

21. In the event that they give you a phone number to call. It will be a phone number that looks legit. Look up the state or country code. No celebrity has a number from podunk Oregon, Pennsylvania, Arkansas, etc., even if they have a U.S. number. ( I have seen England, California, Tennessee, Indiana-you get the picture).

Now let me get into how to nip it in the bud, before you have to disappoint yourself or waste any more of your time.

What I will give you here is to be used, before you type one single word, after they message you the first time. Use it if they comment on your comment, where they ask you to message them privately. Keep in mind that if any or the scammer are reading this they will not fall for this, but try anyway. Most of them will not have the sites I write this for or follow me on any of them. Here goes. When they do any of the above, the first thing you type is :

Afa bad guy what’s the update

or

Dey na

****If they pretend to not understand you or know what you are saying, then reply:

Alaye

That should trigger the same kind of text as above; in their slang Here are some others words to use and their meanings:

-Alaye: The most prominent code word, signaling "I'm a scammer, you're a scammer, let's get to the real targets". 


-Ogun dey kill you: used in anger when a scam fails. 


-May Ogun (a Yoruba deity) kill you: used in anger when a scam fails. 


-Yahoo boy/G-boy: Slang for online scammers. 

Then do nothing. Say nothing, Type nothing else. Wait for it. If there is no response from them, close the chat window and say nothing else. One of two things happens. They don’t respond at all, and if you go looking for the message feed, you’ll see account not found, deleted account, or they will answer with gibberish like sentences you will not quite understand. It looks like english, but doesn’t read like a sentence using words you use.

In either case, report and block. Immediately, no matter how much hope you had. You just saved yourself hundreds of dollars, hours of your time, and your heart.

I cannot strep enough, that no one should be trusted or taken at face value. As Ai improves, so will their credibility with you. They may offer to call or video chat. It will not matter. They have the capability now to impersonate Jesus second coming, at this point. Do not allow them to victimize you.

Look, I know there is loneliness out there, I know many men and women are alone, or bored, or something else, that makes you want to believe. I wish I could believe too. I wish everyone was on the level and honest. But they are not. I am angry for you. I hurt with you and for you. This is why I am writing this series. It is by no means inclusive. They adapt and change their methods every day.

Be cautions and suspicious of everyone. If you believe them, scrutinize them even more. But in the end, they are all working the same con, and trust me, they are conning you.