If He Wanted To, He Would

You know that heavy feeling in your chest? The one that whispers, "Why didn't he choose me?"

You gave him your favorite parts. The secret stories you only tell at 2 a.m. The way you saved his texts like treasures. The nights you stayed up worrying if he was okay.

He took them. And then… he didn't give you anything back.

Not the "why."

Not the "I'm sorry."

Not even a real goodbye.

Here's what you need to hear:

1. Love Isn't a Riddle.

If someone loves you, you won't feel confused. You won't check your phone 100 times a day. You won't cry in the shower, wondering, "Was I not enough?"

Love isn't a game of hide-and-seek.

If he wanted to stay, he would've stayed.

2. Silence is an Answer.

You keep waiting for him to explain. To say something. But here's the truth:

His silence is his answer.

When people care, they fight. They call. They show up.

If he didn't? He chose not to.

3. You Can't Love Someone Into Loving You.

You thought if you loved him harder, he'd wake up one day and see you.

But love isn't a magic spell.

You can't pour your heart into someone who's already gone.

4. Closure is a Gift You Give Yourself.

You've been begging for one last talk. One clear reason.

But what if the closure is this:

He didn't choose you.

And that's his loss.

5. Your Heart Isn't a Museum.

You don't have to keep his memories on display.

You don't have to replay his voice in your head.

Put his stuff in a box. Delete his number. Cry. Scream. Then… let the air back in.

6. Someone Else Will Love You the Way You Love.

One day, you'll meet someone who's excited to text you back.

Who holds your pain like it's theirs.

Who stays.

And you'll realize: This is what it was supposed to feel like.

7. Your Heart is a Garden.

Right now, it feels like a storm rolled through. Broken branches. Mud everywhere.

But storms don’t last forever.

Start small. Pull one weed (delete his photos). Plant one seed (text a friend). Water it (eat lunch outside).

You don’t need him to grow something beautiful again.

8. “What If” is a Trap.

What if I’d said something different?

What if he changes his mind?

Stop.

“What if” keeps you stuck in yesterday. Today’s question is: “What now?”

What now?

Wear the dress you saved for “special occasions.”

Dance badly to your favorite song.

Sit in the sun and feel your lungs fill with air.

You’re alive. That’s your answer.

9. Missing Him Doesn’t Mean You Should Go Back.

It’s okay to miss the way he laughed. The way he held your hand.

But missing someone is like craving candy for dinner. It tastes sweet now… but you’ll feel sick later.

Feed your heart something better.

10. You’re Stronger Than You Think.

Remember when you thought you’d never survive middle school? That breakup in college? That job that crushed you?

You’re still here.

This pain? It’s just another chapter. Not the whole story.

11. Let People See You Cracked.

You don’t have to be “fine.”

Tell your sister, “I’m not okay.” Let your coworker bring you coffee. Cry in the grocery store parking lot (we’ve all done it).

Broken things heal faster in the light.

12. One Day, You’ll Forget to Count the Days.

Today, you know exactly how long it’s been since he left.

But one morning, you’ll wake up and realize:

You didn’t check his social media.

You laughed so hard your stomach hurt.

You thought, “I kind of like my life right now.”

And that day? It’ll feel like spring.

P.S. If this made your eyes watery, you're not alone. Drop a ♥️ below so I can say, "I see you."

P.P.S. The world needs you — not the version he couldn’t love. The real you. The messy, hopeful, stubbornly-kind you.

So grab life like it’s a fresh notebook. Write a new story.

Start today.