Getting to know the Narcissist

In the afternoon of 2015 i met this guy let's call him Ben, so charming his manner was really on point, he ask for my number and i played hard to get as i was the prize i enjoy the chase as he whisper in my ears and was like you are mine and only that completely turn me off but i didn't give it much of a thought. the following couple month went great as i wa busy with my studies trying to become a physician, as i was getting ready to go to class, my friend call me her name is Melinda and she says hun you got stop making your life boring because tonight we are going out me an you and some cute boys and i was like nah its ok if is and you but boys naaaa aaaa... she gave in and was like change of plan lets crash my friend party tonight wear something cute. i went and bought an orange dress and some shoes as my closet need help as the time i have is for me and Mr books, so here we go to the party as i walking in guess who i see Ben and i was like lets play it cool. i went and sit on my table, and here ben come hey i think i know you i am like naa i think you are mistaken and whisper the same words to me you are mine and only remember those words, on the other hand my bestfriend she is drooling ohhh this guy is so cute i am like naa girl you need 4 eyes because this dude is so possess, when the party was finishing and he was like seriously i may have come off and i apologize i really want to get to know you can i please have your number. i finally gave it to him yes he was cute but something was off and on about him and i wanted to figure out who he was.

the next day he call me and we talk for like hours this went on for like weeks before we finally went to a proper date. He took me shopping and took me to dinner, i was like this is nice he even remember what i like. things started moving fast like really fast him wanted to know my parents and introduce me to his parents. in about 6 month we were married and i got pregnant right away we welcome our daughter. After a year, things started going south as i wanted to go back to school and finish my studies, he didn't want me to go back to school. Furthermore, i speak to my mother she was able to help and told his mother what is going on no one believe me that this sweet man that is always helping lending hand to people was the one that i was talking about. depression started to kick in, and he wisper the same words he whisper to me when we first met you are mine and only mine. my head started spinning who is this man. when we are in public things are great at home it is like am living with a monster.

the mistreatment continue, one day he didn't know that my sister was around and his true color came out and my sister was in shock how could you be living like that. i started crying everyone think i am lying thank God you were here i could never tell anyone if this is how he behave it is like he is possess. i pack a bag next day and went home with my babies and my mom was crying sorry i couldn't believe what you were saying and sorry that you had to leave though this. so , that is my story living with narcissist he had no empathy whatsoever or remorse of things that he was doing. if you are going thought this get out its an ending cycle that never get better but worse with time. starting over is hard but one step at a time will get you there, what help me the most was trying to understand the situation and analyse it , understanding all the manipulation technique that was being used because when i started to mimic him to what he was doing like the silent treatment, the guiltiness or stoning him that drive him more crazy and i was able to break free from that with my sister by my side.