Lisa Lopez
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#RecoveringPerfectionist! I’m a beautiful intelligent hilarious phenomenal woman who believes beauty is possible at any age. I’m a professional in my 40s & feel more beautiful than ever, but obviously as a human, I’m deeply flawed.
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Freedom? A natural human right for ALL….
Freedom? A natural human right for ALL…. The word freedom is defined as “the power or right to act, think or speak as one wants without hindrance or restraint.” This also leads to the idea concerning freedom of choice for different things throughout life. Notice that the definition of the word has “power” in it, hence this is what leads to unfortunate causes in the lack of freedom, choice of different things in life and being able to be an authentic individual. Freedom comes with a very high price tag at times, especially when it comes to life or death. Those who have power to give freedom to others have an immense responsibility to be ethical, kind, giving, and also empathetic to the lives of every human being who wants freedom, seeks freedom or already has freedom in their own right. I often ask why do people abuse the power that they might have when it comes to issues of freedom? Unfortunately, the abuse of power stems from the egotistical arrogance and greed of some individuals that can lead to the crushing weight of war. What happens to the innocent individuals who suffer and have their freedoms taken from them because of those who abuse their power? Often times they might lose their lives in the most unfair way. My heart breaks to think of so many innocent women, children, and families who have been displaced from their homes without wanting to be simply because of the disgustingly horrific and egotistical power of one person or a small group of individuals. Freedom rings in the minds of all humanity I’m sure, but again those who wield the majority of the power in the world because they have billions of dollars or extreme political influence do not always do what’s best for others because of a selfishness and once again, greed for power. Life can be a vicious cycle of joy, pain, happiness, suffering, back to joy for a while, then back to sadness, depression, exhaustion, then a little bit of joy once again. I ask myself daily, is this freedom? I honestly do not know. But it seems as though the longer we live, the more our freedoms are tested everywhere we go, no matter where we are in the world. I simply and honestly hope and wish for the forces of the universe to come upon those horrific individuals who crush the freedoms of innocent individuals and they are held accountable for the atrocities that they cause because everyone deserves to have some freedom in their life which reflects joy and happiness. Freedom is definitely a privilege, although it is important for people around the world to realize that freedom absolutely does not mean hurting other human beings ever in any way, whether it be emotionally, physically or psychologically. The Liberty Bell of freedom must be taught and exemplified in young, middle-aged and older individuals throughout life in order for there to be more widespread joy for basic human freedoms in life. Freedom should come “free” to all in the world but unfortunately it isn’t always “free” - ironically freedom often times comes with a huge price tag.
By Lisa Lopez4 years ago in The Swamp
You’re Too Nice
You’re too nice! Uggg the stigma of perfectionism. Have you ever been told, “you’re too nice” and gotten angry about it? That statement was said to me over and over again since I was a child and I remember hearing it from the time I was about six years old, then into young adulthood, then in my 20s and into my 30s as well and I just got absolutely so sick of hearing it that made me intensely, voraciously, stupidly angry! You might be asking yourself, “Why? Why would that make you angry? Isn’t that such a wonderful thing about a person?” Well, it’s supposed to be a wonderful thing when someone tells you that you’re too nice, although for me (for years) it only meant that people were taking advantage of me and walking all over me and just basically trampling all over who I am and what I am about, which is an absolutely awful feeling. It has taken me years to overcome feelings in which that statement made me feel worthless as a person. It’s amazing how three simple words can make one individual feel so sad and horrible about oneself. Words ARE POWERFUL. This also brings me to the ridiculous myth about how A LOT of people believe “nice guys/girls finish last” and I feel that is just absolute BS, because the strength of a person comes from kindness, niceness, and being an overall good human being to yourself and others consistently. I have done a lot of personal work to come to the understanding that being “nice” is truly, most definitely an absolute strength, not only for myself but others in my life. I would LOVE to hear stories from others who share my opinions about “niceness” because I am a W.I.P. which is a “Work In Progress” everyday! Recently I heard someone say something very powerful that resonates with my soul which is pushing me to make some changes that will catapult me to a different level in life and I feel deeply passionate this is true - “It’s nice to be important, but it’s more important to be nice!” 49 years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope in a journey of happiness, sadness, disappointments; oh SO MANY disappointments, love, loss, anger, anxiety. The roller coaster of life always takes me back to “NICE” - and I will stay nice because it’s my super power. Why is it MY super power? NICE is my super power because of the fact that being the opposite of nice in life doesn’t get the desired results that I want in life. For example, being rude, being a jerk, or just being down right mean to others only causes fear, sadness, and anxiety so why would anyone want those feelings in their life? But unfortunately, I’ve encountered multiple people in my life who have those awful feelings every day and it is disturbing and disheartening. Fear is temporary and niceness is a skill that will kill fear! Dead in its tracks. There are those who like to lead with fear because they believe it can control others to their advantage and again, I reiterate the point that it’s nice to be important but it’s MORE IMPORTANT TO BE NICE! I grew up with a lot of fear and yelling, which causes immense and intense anxiety. But in a world that wants speed, intense accuracy and perfection, it becomes so disgustingly and immensely difficult to be nice all of the time. The reality is that in our human-ness we cannot be nice and happy 100% of the time 24/7 but we must strive for the niceness because that’s what brings inner peace for the mind, body and soul. Unfortunately at times, the world is not nice and tough situations in life can beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. Well, I will not let the ugliness of the world beat me down because I am nice. Once again, I stress the point that being NICE is at the core of goodness in life and it is ultimately my super power for life. Have a nice day!
By Lisa Lopez4 years ago in Motivation
