Why does it still hurt even though I know it’s over?

It's over, but the pain isn't

You tell yourself it's time. You count the red flags, rewind the highlights, list all the reasons why it shouldn't have worked out. You let it go—or at least you think you did.

But as the days go by, something still stings. A song, a smell, a slip of tongue. It hits you out of the blue, softly but sharply. What's the worst part? You can't explain it. It's not that you want them back. It just... it hurts.

That's what endings are really about. They rarely happen all at once. The breakup is just one part of it. The rest unravels slowly—through words unsaid, hopes unfulfilled, and memories that creep in like ghosts.

Grieving the "almosts"

We grieve not only for others, but for ourselves with them. We grieve for the futures we imagined. The conversations we never had. The closure we never got.

Because there's no visible scar, we convince ourselves it shouldn't hurt this much. But pain doesn't require permission. It's there. Quietly, uninvited, and real.

Letting go is not a decision, it’s a process. Sometimes it’s not the love that ends that hurts the most… it’s the love that remains in our hearts after they’re gone.

Healing is not linear

Some days you’ll feel free. Some days you’ll feel vulnerable. That doesn’t mean you’re broken—it means you’re still human. You’re healing in waves.

Don’t rush. Don’t

Maybe you won’t have all the answers. Maybe they’ll never apologize. But healing isn’t about them, it’s about you. Rebuilding. Regaining control. Relearning what it means to be safe inside.

🕊️ Thank you for reading.

If this post resonated with you, remember that you’re not alone. Sometimes it’s a quiet act of courage to just get through each day. And that’s enough. 💙