The New Me

You are a Badass Deck, by Jen Sincero — It’s time to get mighty clear about what makes you happy and what makes you feel the most alive, and then create it instead of pretending you can’t have it.

The cards in this deck were created from a book You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life.

Time to get clear

my dear

about happiness

and being alive rather than a witness

to others instead of making it be you

you have this, you do!

~

Living in today, means happy, joyous and free to be me. Staying on the path is important for today!

Eliminate The Negotiation Process - Our decisions must be watertight, because excuses will seep through any little cracks in our resolve and before we know it, we'll be on our asses. The old you, the one who has not yet decided to kick ass, is in the past. Stay present and do not, even for a second, look backward or entertain any ideas of straying from your decision. Think only of the new you. Jen Sincero

No negotiation is necessary!

For this day only, stay in today, one day at a time, for today, and other sayings/reminders have helped me to live in today. I was always in the past or future at one time and never lived in today.

Today, I can struggle with this when I am close to a regularly scheduled cancer screening. I was diagnosed with cancer in 2012 and had chemotherapy in 2013. I was told the cancer I had was treatable, probably not curable.

A cousin with a similar cancer died of this cancer during the pandemic, when they were treating her lupus and not the cancer.

My concern every appointment then is that they either will find cancer or they will miss it and treat something else. That is not staying in today. Once the appointment time is gone, my bloodwork and scan is complete, I can go back to living in today.

When I am rehashing this prior to an appointment, I am not living in today.

A cancer psychologist who I spoke with for 30 minutes was helpful. He said, "What you resist persists" and "Eat an elephant one bite at a time". So, do not resist, persist! Keep living in today! Deal with tomorrow, tomorrow! Take today, one bite at a time.

When writing, pay attention. Do this and not 100 other things! Focus! Not on the past. I can write about the past, but not stay in the past!

He told me to put all my cancer clothing away and only wear them to the cancer appointment. I have Dr. Suess sweatshirts and fundraiser clothing that refer to cancer and being a survivor. I hang them in a different part of my closet now and that helps.

In writing about my past, I can sometimes be taken back to the experience. I will get back to living in today by taking a break from writing, or by talking about what's for lunch or what my husband is up to.

He may say something like, "Oh, just talking to you!" which is funny and we will laugh and then laugh some more about other things.

What other people think about you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Jen Sincero

I learned when I am pointing at another, three fingers are pointing back at me. It is a good idea to look and see how what I am noticing in the other person is also true for me. It isn't always the exact thing, but I can usually find a connection.

In my culture, pointing is considered rude. I told my husband that so he now points with his whole hand or foot. Still pointing, still rude, but I can't help but laugh. He appears to be making fun of me. That is none of my business and if I don't want to encourage him, I need to stop laughing.

I doubt I will ever stop laughing at him.

When I hear someone say something about me, I think, is it true? Regardless of whether it is something positive or not. If it isn't true, it is more about them and who they are.

Positive "You are beautiful" is one of those comments. I am 70, my beautiful days are long gone. They are beautiful for saying that, and they are talking about inner beauty and I need to accept the compliment no matter what they mean.

Negative, a grandson said, "Grandma, you are a gossiper". Okay, is this true? No. But I have stayed and listened to gossip. I have started to work on that. Is it about him? Yes. He didn't like that I knew about what he had done and that I laughed as his mother was telling it.

Then I think, did I take it further and tell someone else? No, not usually. Was that gossip? Was it true? Still, none of my business most of the time. I don't always remember gossip, does that mean I am not participating? No, gossiping requires an audience, even if you are the only one talking.