People who are truly strong inside know how to lower their expectations

Camus wrote, “I don't expect that life can go well, but I hope that when I come across a difficult point in life, I can be its opponent.”

In the adult world, things don't go as well as they should.

The fickleness of people's hearts, the difficulties of life, and the pressures of work are always on the rise.

Instead of having a lot of pain in your heart because of blind expectations, it is better to recognize the reality early and face the truth.

The process of becoming strong is the process of gradually quitting dependence and relying on one's own strength to grow.

Many of you must have experienced a similar change of heart:

In the past, it was always felt that the people around you should be treated and supported as expected.

Whenever upset, as a good friend, it is obliged to listen to their own nagging, do emotional trash can;

Whenever a holiday comes around, as a lover, it is your responsibility to know your preferences early and prepare a surprise;

Whenever there are difficulties, as a family member, it is necessary to give a hand, money and effort to help themselves through the difficult times.

At that time, we think that these are the standards to measure the relationship, to verify the heart.

But we don't know, everyone is in a different position, different angle, the choice will be different, there is no right or wrong.

Expecting too much from any relationship is a disaster.

Treating people with less harshness and more understanding, recognizing one's duty and cherishing one's love is the greatest maturity of a person at a certain age.

In “Allow Yourself to Be Wasted”, it is written that I slowly realized why I was unhappy, because I always expected a result.

This is undoubtedly the root cause of many people's painful troubles:

After running for a few days, I expect to become thin and beautiful;

After reading a few books, I am eager to let myself grow in knowledge and competence;

Entrepreneurship is still in the early stages, it is expected to be full of guests, financial resources;

The project has just landed, expect to progress smoothly, as scheduled closing.

To determine the results-oriented to open the action, this is right. But we tend to forget that uncertainty is the norm in life.

The world is unpredictable and unpredictable.

Always have too high expectations of the outcome, do everything to get the ideal return, destined to have a gap with the reality.

Learning to manage expectations is a necessary practice for everyone.

In 1994, the manuscript of The Dust Settles was finished, and the writer A Lai sent it to a dozen publishers with full confidence.

Unexpectedly, the manuscripts were all returned by the editors as they were.

However, he was not discouraged, but continued to write three to four thousand words a day, reading more than three hours, even more tired and busy will insist.

Four years later, at a pen meeting, an editor asked A Lai what his latest masterpiece was.

A Lai hesitated for a moment and said he had a novel that had been rejected several times.

Later, the original manuscript of the novel was brought back to the publisher by the editor, and everyone read it and agreed that it was a rare masterpiece, and decided to publish it on the same day.

In this way, Dust Settles was finally recognized by the eye after four years of being shelved, and won the Mao Dun Literature Prize in one fell swoop.

Later, when the editor talked to A Lai and asked him how he felt about being returned many times, he replied in a bland but confident manner, “I know its weight and have never despaired.”

Like a saying goes, “Since we can't control the macro environment, we should try the system of mind and body in our own selves.”

Being in the current fast-paced era, many people can't avoid the fear of AI, the pessimism of the workplace environment, and the insecurity of being outclassed by those around them.

But no matter how hard you try to take control of the situation, there will always be things that are beyond your reach;

There will always be accidents that happen when you are caught off guard.

What we can do is not to be obsessed with the result, just grasp the process, and do every little thing that is determined in front of us.

Work hard on the cause and go with the flow on the result.

When you minimize your expectations, only then can you make everything you encounter a surprise.