Feminism Has Lost Her Identity

Ladies and Gentlemen....welcome to my unpopular opinion.... again.

I remember learning about the women's rights movement in school. I remember not understanding how the world had come to the conclusion that women were not equal to men, and why women had to fight for the right to work in the first place.

I was born in the middle of a transitioning era I think. Sure, by the '90's women had earned the right to work but there were still many, many industries out there that viewed women as only 'secretaries' or 'nurses' and that's all a woman should be.

My mother was one of the first women in the lines to get into the trucking industry. She started cross country, and sometimes, during the summer, I got to with her - coast to coast. She would sing into the CB at night in truck stops and sing me and all the boys to sleep. Her CB handle was Blue-Eyed Angel-Haired Mama.

Later she became one of the first women in the agriculture trucking industry to become one of the leading night-time dispatchers, and safety instructors for Panella Trucking. I grew up watching my mother gracefully handle cat-calls, men who made animal noises at her, and sexual advances that quite frankly could get a little scary.

But she handled herself with grace and strength, and eventually, she was the most respected (and I was the dispatch lots most protected and spoiled princess - one of my "Tio's," who drove for my mom for over 12 years bought me my first car) dispatchers within the company.

I remember what she and my grandmother both taught me.

"With men, there are a lot of ways to get your way, but none of those ways involve him growing to respect you. If you want a man to respect you, you be the strongest, most graceful, most powerful woman you've ever met. They only respect strength, and women who they cannot view as a 'damsel.' Men are incapable of respecting a woman who 'needs' a man. You have to be a woman who does not resort to the usual tactics a woman uses, should you need a man's respect." - My Grandmother

I don't particularly think there is one explanation as to why men have a hard time respecting women as equals. It could be because their genetics are engraved to be the 'warriors' and 'protectors', so it's their chemistry that creates a complicated perspective in the modern world.

Maybe for some of them, it's the way they were raised, with fathers and grandfathers who were raised to view women as weaker. Or maybe some of them were just never taught respect.

It's true, that some men are... sheer filth wrapped in pig feces.

There always have been disgusting men who should have their hands cut off for many justifiable reasons. And the truth of the matter is that there probably always will be.

The fact that women were ever considered lesser is a stain on the male gender for all of eternity. Because let's be real... men couldn't have survived without women. They can't continue the species without women - unless science gets really fucked up like it is in Hollywood and they just start growing humans in weird hydrotubes.

But in today's world...Feminism just isn't what it used to be.

Let's define from the dictionary what Feminism is...SUPPOSED to be.

fem·​i·​nism ˈfe-mə-ˌni-zəm. : belief in and advocacy of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes expressed especially through organized activity on behalf of women's rights and interests.

Back in the day of my great aunts and grandmothers... Feminism was rallies and parades. Signs and calling for equality. Back then, it looked like strong women who wanted more freedom and independence, so that their daughters didn't have to be married off to assholes for stability.

So that they could leave their abusive husbands if they wanted. Or maybe she had an endocrine imbalance the doctors knew nothing about, so she didn't have kids so she wanted to work. Or maybe she just didn't WANT kids and she wanted a career instead.

They wanted the right to be paid the same amount of money as the man who worked right alongside her in the factory. Rights to healthcare without their husband's permission.

In the modern world, Feminism should be women fighting for our rights to our bodies still - as good old Cheeto Lord Trump went ahead and lined up the firing squad on our rights as women to medical treatment that we may need - especially if we are pregnant and in some places - the right to NOT get pregnant at all.

Let me show you what MANY women think the definition of Feminism is:

the inability or refusal to recognize the rights, needs, dignity, or value of people of one sex or gender. More widely, the devaluation of various traits of character or intelligence as ‘typical’ of one or other gender.

Wait wait, wait Hope. No, no. That's the definition of Sexism! That's not what feminism is!

EXACTLY! That's exactly my point, my friends. As someone who believes in equality for BOTH genders, which is what Feminism should be about - EQUALITY for our rights- feminism has become a blurred reality of filth and trauma, and those of us who stand up for actual feminism are being lost in a crowd of very verbose women who are equally as toxic as the men who look down on us.

Yeah... I said it.

The sad, horrible reality is that most female 'feminists' are just really rude sexists who don't give a damn about equal rights - so long as they never miss a chance to 'man-bash.'

And when one of these female sexists 'join the party' on my side when I'm having a debate with a man, I quickly become embarrassed and humiliated and tell the guy: 'Never mind. You're right.' It's a 'friends like these, who needs enemies?' type of situation.

There are feminists out there who will tear down other women in a heartbeat if they defend a man against unreasonable accusations and toxic arguments over social media. There are feminists who will use obtuse arguments, all for the sake of painting ALL men as creatures of monstrosity.

For many feminists, there is no point, except to talk about how men are trash and they look down on women and treat them like objects.

And that may be true, for many, many, many men. But I have seen these female sexists tear down men who are advocating for us too. "You're a man, you shouldn't even have an opinion..."

"Yeah, but he's on our side and is saying we should have rights to our body...

"His penis makes him irrelevant!"

It appalls me, that there are women out there acting like rabid bitches, hating men, and indicating that men are beneath us.

Feminism was about equality for women - not about demanding men bend down and act like servants.

I for one, call these feminists out. Which may make it seem at times like I am not a feminist. But I AM a feminist.

I want to fight for my daughter's right to the type of birth control they want.

I want to advocate that abortions are sometimes medically necessary - and sometimes yes, they are just needed because accidents happen and birth control fails, and so does pregnancy by rape, and women should have a CHOICE about our bodies and what happens to it.

We should get paid just as much as a man for a job - especially if we are more proficient and better at it than others in the job. Then we should get paid our worth and value.

And we certainly are NOT just objects and toys for a man to do whatever he wants with.

But EQUALITY is the major part of feminism's definition that many women have forgotten.

More often than not... when I see someone claiming to be a feminist, I'm only reading sexist bigotry that is JUST as bad as men looking down on women.

I have seen women devalue all men, refer to them as nothing more than animals, and say that ALL men should be made to submit in a slave or servant-like way.

And I am wondering how any of these women thing that this is feminism, and not just disgusting sexism and judgment that is just as bad as what they are 'advocating' against.

Battling sexism with sexism is...counterproductive and ignorant and is NOT Feminism.

The comment I most often hold back and bite my tongue on is this:

"If you do not want men to treat you like you're trash... stop acting like trash."

Feminist's goals, in the beginning, were to gain the RESPECT of men and to be treated as equal members of society. It's a war we are still fighting to this day. But women have lost their way.

And if you are foaming at the mouth like a rabid raccoon, demanding that men are all trash and should be subservient to women, that men should have their members cut off at birth so they 'grow up to respect women,' you don't seriously expect them to start respecting you, do you? Do you really think spewing hatred is going to make ANYONE respect you? Except for other people filled with the same type of hatred agreeing with you, the future looks bleak.

How can you demand men not be misogynistic when you... are acting just like the men you are talking about?

If you are a female sexist- that's okay. Just stop claiming to be a feminist.

You are allowed your reasons to hate men. You can have your opinion. If you really feel like men are the lowest of the lowest species and they should allow you to walk on their back with stilettos then that's absolutely your prerogative and even though it's a shitty perspective, you are entitled to it.

But please stop saying you are a feminist.

Because you're not. You're just a sexist. And you are NOT doing those of us who are fighting for what feminism REALLY stands for ANY favors. In fact, I daresay, you are HURTING our cause.

Because it's STILL a man's world even though they do a good job giving the illusion that it's not. And when women lash out, snarling and foaming like animals without vaccinations... you're only making us look like the unreasonable savage animals they make us out to be.

You are giving them examples as to why we can't be trusted to be logical.

Feminism is about gender equality... at least it used to be.

Now, thanks to WOMEN, it's just a substandard man-bashing lifestyle that has no true purpose except to spread more sexism and hatred.

And that doesn't bode well for women's rights in the future.

I am sure I'm going to get attacked now by a lot of fake feminists. But... just know that I have mentally prepared myself for that, ladies. You don't have to like me, and you don't have to like that I am right.

Time is precious, thank you so much for taking some to read my article. I hope you enjoyed it and it proved useful in some way!

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