Your attitude in the face of suffering, hiding the road ahead

Why do people live in pain? Is it dissatisfaction with the current life, or fear of the unknown, or is it the past to stay think about it, life's suffering, perhaps more from their own, think too much, can not afford to lose, can not let go, they are torturing themselves.

However, continuing to suffer will not help, it is better to set your mind right and live well every day.

Many times, not suffering torment you, but you are tossing yourself.

1, thinking too much, is asking for trouble

The "Cai Kan Tan" mentioned: "life is too idle, then don't think of stealing life."

A person is too idle, it is easy to think wildly, nothing to find things, look for trouble.

The point is, especially like to think about it at night, think too much and think how their life is so bitter, what bad luck is encountered by their own, worry about how to live the next life ...... happened, is now experiencing, has not happened, think about this and that, make yourself cry, but can not change the current situation, but to The future is fearful.

You know you can't change anything by thinking about it, but you're still bent on indulging yourself, which is ultimately an excuse to escape from reality.

Instead of thinking about it all day long, it is better to spend time improving yourself, not only to make yourself better but also so that you do not have extra time to think about it.

Some people are easily touched by a man's "I feed you", but I do not know that after being touched is passive, not their own money lost the right to spend the dominant, the man's mouth to say it sounds good, the heart will more or less feel that you are spending his money will have to listen to his words.

And a person who stays at home for a long time more or less will become less confident, easy to be suspicious, suspicious of this, suspicious of that.

Once the sudden change is not handled well, it is easy to make the relationship between husband and wife which was equal lose balance.

Rely on others, rather than rely on themselves. A person's sense of security, mostly from their own, only their own becomes good enough to have the confidence to face the challenges of the unknown.

Continue to think too much, but in their torture, rather than find something for themselves to do, to try to make themselves better.

2, can not afford to lose, can only stay in the trough

A person, a lifetime, more or less will have suffered several or dozens of setbacks.

In front of the setback, some people are more and more courageous and become the final winner, some people lose again and again, and are finally completely unable to stand up.

Although most people know that "losing is inevitable", but really dare to face the loss but very few inevitably will be delusional and hope that they can always win.

But the more you are afraid of something, the easier it is to appear, and the more you are afraid to lose, the easier it is to lose.

Can't afford to lose, often becomes a person's Achilles' heel, so that they can only stop at their familiar range, not dare to easily try to step into the unknown.

Many people learn to paint halfway, but those who persist in painting and develop their interest into a career are very few, because most people can't stand the frustration of "not painting well, being returned, not earning money" at the beginning, and under the negation, again and again, they have doubts about themselves and choose to give up when they feel they are not suitable to continue to persist.

The only way to see the final result is to have the courage to keep going.

Failure is the mother of success, and only after experiencing failure do you know how to improve yourself and move towards success.

Failure to try a few times is undoubtedly the behavior of the weak, giving up on their own, the possible hope, rather than letting themselves live in the trough, rather than trying to try to start over, down-to-earth step by step.

People live a life, losing is not terrible, what is terrible is losing, and the possibility of winning.

3, can not let go, is in self-torture

Some things, not really can not pass, but they do not let themselves go.

I thought I could entangle a result, but continue to entangle is to torture themselves, so that they become unlike themselves.

When a relationship has problems, one party breaks up, and the other party refused to let go, it will certainly be a mess.

But the feelings are not the same as once, continuing to entangle will only make each other uncomfortable.

It is not a mess to not separate, nor is it easy to salvage if you want to salvage, continuing to entangle will only make you more uncomfortable and wear out the good that you once had.

Long pain is better than short pain, mutual torture, rather than completely put down.

The person living to look forward, nothing is too much, now can not let go, which does not mean that later, time will wear away everything.

The fact is that you can't get rid of the regrets, or the suffering that you can't get over, continue to be entangled in the difficulties of your own, let yourself live a better life, is the best counter to the past.

As if a relationship, it is clear that the other party cheated, but you have to struggle to entangle, think they are torturing each other more is torturing themselves, rather than decisively put down, start their own new life, as long as you live better than him, that is the best revenge on him.

So, let's let go of the past, to let yourself start over and live a better self.