Why is it so important to heal from NARCISSISTIC TRAUMA?

Why is it so important to understand and heal from narcissistic trauma?

Narcissistic abuse is a form of emotional abuse perpetrated by someone who suffers from narcissism or sociopathy. These individuals tend – whether conscious or unconscious – to use words and language in manipulative ways to damage, alter, or otherwise control others' behaviors.

This negative energy from the trauma is stored in our body tissues (primarily our muscles and fascia) until it can be released.

This energy or stored trauma typically leads to pain and progressively erodes your body's health.

Emotions are the vehicles the body relies on to find balance after trauma.

If you are unable to express these emotions in a safe and connected way, then this trauma gets trapped in the body and will cause great distress and functional impairment, and it will last a long time.

These emotions will get bottled-up inside of you.

It is due to the emotional abuse you are bottling-up because you are embarrassed and feel shameful. These FEELINGS get stuck as trauma in your body. Eighty percent of all diseases and ailments are caused by stuck trauma in the body. Stuck trauma is the root cause.

Quit bottling-up your feelings, emotions, and stuck trauma. Quit feeling shame, guilt, embarrassment. You did the best your could, always. Instilling new beliefs can be life-changing.

Healing is essential so that we can live our best life and become our true-self.

It is perfectly normal to have narcissistic traits. But when trauma gets stuck in the body, our mental and physical health deteriorates.

For example: WHEN THE JOKES ARE REAL.

You may laugh at yourself at the moment.

But when you sit with that joke, it hurts.

That pain is felt in the body and gets STUCK. Your body does not know the difference between a joke and reality.

That is why the environment you live within matters for your health.

An excellent example of this is when someone calls us FAT.

This FEELING is not a pleasant one. This feeling is trapped in our body until we disconfirm it and process it.

Our thoughts are continuously and indefinitely on this joke we heard from our mother or our father or whoever said it.

And that unresolved thought gets STUCK. That TRAUMA gets stored in the body until we process this negative and limiting belief.

Oftentimes, we do not get to process this feeling and is ingrained in our psychological fingerprint.

It becomes part of our blueprint for acting or reacting in every situation.

Our personality is brought to us by TRAUMA.

STUCK trauma. In our body.

Personality means that we have individual differences in characteristic patterns of

THINKING, FEELING, and BEHAVING.

Consistency of personality comes from studies of individual differences in children’s emotional health.

As a survivor of narcissistic trauma, I always had intense dysregulation in my nervous system because I lived a lifetime in the trauma response. I raised five children, ran successful businesses, and did many other things.

All in survival mode and with stuck trauma. I often felt devalued and never good enough.

When we have these feelings of unworthiness we are living with narcissistic trauma stuck in our bodies.

When this happens we will never feel good enough. That is why we need to release our bottled-up emotions, heal and process the stuck trauma and instill new beliefs and know and BELIEVE that we are worthy and already good enough.

And the best way to instill new beliefs is through hypnosis and hypnotherapy treatment.

Please listen to my hypnosis and hypnotherapy meditation youtube video attached to this story.

So, because I was always in the trauma response, I FELT criticized, ridiculed, and belittled frequently. I took everything to heart.

This meant that I was feeding my body and cells negativity from the feelings of not feeling good enough.

This negativity weighed me down. When I turned 40, I got sick with thyroid issues, anemia, fatigue, breast lumps, ovary problems, and much more.

I spent over seven years not knowing what was wrong with me and thinking it was me that was the problem. I literally thought I was dying numerous times. It wasn't me. It was my negative and limiting beliefs and my environment that made me sick.

When our body gets sick it is telling us that we need to quit bottling-up emotions, feelings, and trauma that is stuck inside of us. We need to deal with resistance to change and believe in ourselves.

Each and every one of us deserves and is worthy of love. Self-love is the best love.

Freedom from narcissistic abuse is self-love.

Quit believing you are not good enough. Please remember if you are a people pleaser and you are living with narcissistic trauma you will never feel good enough.

Please release that pain and suffering that you have bottled-up.

I had so many issues from the trauma that was stored in my body. The trauma from feeling unappreciated, from demeaning words that I reacted to trying to defend myself. All of those times I wish I had known more about my GREY ROCK SHIELD. The shield to protect me from the feelings of unworthiness. The SHIELD to keep me safe from demeaning words from others.

If you haven’t listened to DAY 1’s meditation please do so. You'll learn about GREY ROCK SHIELD and you'll be glad you did.

Day 1 Meditation from 30-Day Break The Bottle Challenge @traumainformedbottomsup - Burn Narcissistic Trauma- is attached to this vocal story. Please listen to this meditation regularly to instill new beliefs. Sometimes it takes as much as three to four weeks to instill new positive beliefs.

Because I was living in survival and reactive mode from the perceived internal abuse I was always ANGRY at myself.

This anger over time makes a person sick, bitter, hateful. This is what I was becoming.

I was always irritated because I did not feel supported. From the continuous gaslighting I was suffering from I was confused all the time.

This confusion led to many health issues and sufferings.

And Narcissistic trauma even causes brain damage and I had that too.

My learning and healing journey has helped so much.

Please join me on my self-guided 30 - Day Break The Bottle Challenge so I can continue my healing journey with you as I journal my way through the challenge.

Journaling is such a good release and therapy. Please join me and write your heart's desires. Writing is a beautiful therapy. You are letting out stuck trauma. It will help you.

Cry if you have to. Crying is also a wonderful therapy to release toxins from trauma trapped in the body.

In 2019, I became healthier after my separation. I cried for three months, and after that, I was a new person.

Holding on to a toxic relationship is extreme poison to our bodies and cells.

Some more attributes that I was suffering from due to narcissistic trauma, well there were many.

I felt numb, DISASSOCIATED. I didn’t know what I wanted in life because I was scared to make a decision and I also wasn’t allowed to because of the power and control tactics that were being used in my environment.

I became disconnected, isolated. I was distracted, distant. Self-sabotage was how I presented myself after suffering from this narcissistic trauma.

You see when you live in a narcissistic environment and you don’t have a GREY ROCK SHIELD to protect you then your body drinks the poison from jokes, criticisms, and belittlements.

Your subconscious mind sees, hears, and believes everything you feed it. So if you do not process your thoughts and bottle them up, you get sick. These thoughts get stuck inside of you.

You will NEVER feel good enough in this environment.

There are so many protector attributes that your body uses to protect you from narcissistic trauma.

A person suffering from narcissistic trauma may be a catastophizer. They may be shy. They may be avoidant, depressed, anxious. They may be in pain.

They may even have suicidal thoughts because of all the feelings associated with unworthiness and not-enoughness and the feelings of not being loved or not feeling important.

A person with stuck trauma may live with shame and guilt or they be a constant worrier. They may be a perfectionist because of all the times in childhood they got hollered at and they have an intense fear of disappointing others.

They may be their own worst enemy because of how self-critical they are and act out in self-hate and inner-critic. Self-sabotage.

A person suffering from narcissistic trauma may also be a high achiever because they have always felt pressured to perform out of fear of repercussions from emotional abuse.

A child from this type of environment experiences every tone and every negative vibration from others in their environments.

A person may also feel indifferent, withdrawn, and feel numb. These are also feelings associated with the trauma that is stuck in the body.

Feeling bored, helpless, inadequate, incompetent, ineffective, invisible, anxious, unheard, needy, people-pleasing, low self-esteem, are all protector attributes that a person may exhibit from suffering from narcissistic trauma. It is always about body safety so if a person’s body does not feel safe then they will retract and relapse to whatever makes their body feel safe.

If the person’s body doesn’t feel safe they need to regulate their nervous system to feel this safety and that is why all of these protector attributes happen. To keep the body safe. Your body safety matters.

OCD, indecisiveness, caregiver, pessimistic, panic, procrastination, eating disorders, addictions, and even self-harm are body protector attributes to save yourself and recover from narcissistic trauma stored in the body.

All of these protector attributes were created by your body to feel safe in your environment.

It is always about body safety.

Please quit bottling up and heal from narcissistic trauma through instilling new beliefs today.

I believe you. I see you. I hear you.

You are enough.

You are worthy.

You are loveable.

You are important.

Keep telling yourself all that.

AND you deserve to live your best life.

And quit bottling-up.

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