Why can't psychological problems and salvation of marriage be understood and solved with ordinary people's rationality?

Regardless of whether it is a psychological problem or a resolute divorce stage when the marriage is reached, it is difficult to solve the problem with rational ordinary methods.

Just like many psychological problems, they are often not understood by people. It may be a common thing for ordinary people. How can they not be clear to people with psychological problems? No matter what you say, they will still suffer from that. Emotional or cognitive distress, you will be puzzled or even angry. Because most people who have a psychological problem internalize the problem into a deeply receptive negative feeling or negative emotion. This power is equivalent to the power of the subconscious. It is more powerful than what you think is correct and should be done rationally. It is more than 30,000 times higher, so you cannot use rational preaching to solve their psychological problems. You need professional and experienced psychological counselors to use scientific methods to solve their problems step by step.

The same is true for marriage restoration. When the other party is about to resolutely fight for a divorce, he has already dealt with all the seemingly trivial quarrels between you. After accumulating many such incidents over a long period of time, it has gradually changed from quantitative to qualitative, and has been internalized into your personality Negative, not just thinking that you can’t deal with surface incidents anymore, but thinking that you are such a bad person and that it’s not right for you! It feels uncomfortable even to see you. At this time, you can't solve your marital crisis with rational, correct, and how to choose and handle your previous relationship.

Another example: a person who has turned (lost) in an unfamiliar metropolis or a large forest, and a person who has not turned his way told him to go in that direction to the south, and he can go home, although this It is correct for a person to walk in the direction of the guide, but he always feels awkward and wrong before he has changed his direction. He always feels that he should not be south, but he feels that he is walking in another direction (for example, he feels that he is walking north... …). At this time, in the cognition of the true feeling of the lost person, it is not to go south (the right direction) but to go north. If you tell him the true and correct direction, it will not make him feel the true and correct direction. . At this time, only when the passer-by takes him to the right direction for a period of time, and when he suddenly adjusts his sense of direction at a certain time or place, he can truly feel that it is really going south.

Similarly, a person who is determined to make a divorce, his inner feeling is that divorce is the right direction. He wants to think about the happiness of his life, so he is determined to divorce you, because he feels that if he doesn't divorce you, you can't change it for the rest of your life. It's the same way of getting along, and it's too painful for a lifetime. At this time, you have to change his inner feelings and feelings of resolute divorce. You cannot communicate and persuade him in a rational way. You cannot use the so-called rational, correct, and reasonable language such as guarantees and seeking mediators. solved. Only by finding a competent marriage restoration consulting expert to carry out all-round growth changes, and dragging the other party's "around" step by step with the scientific and systematic restoration process for a period of time, can we hope to return the negative feelings and feelings of the other party to you again. Only when you have a new and positive feeling and feeling towards you can you finally achieve the goal of redemption! Therefore, all difficult recovery takes time, and the time required varies according to the depth of the victim's injury. It may take two to three months, four to five months, or even more than half a year before there is hope to slowly recover. The other party "circumnavigates" back to the correct direction of reason (healing).