The Narcissist’s Blind Spot: Understanding Their Lack of Empathy

They narcissist can never perceive the depth and severity of hurt they’ve caused you. They will forever trivialize what they’ve done to you.

Something is very wrong with narcissists.

You are not really human to them.

They cannot process your emotional responses. Their idea of what’s human has 10% of your emotions and 9% of your cognition. You are too over the top to be human. You have 1000% more emotions and think 1100% more about their abuses and misdemeanour than they can comprehend anyone would or would want to.

They end up treating you like you have BPD and pathologize your natural spectrum of emotional and cognitive reactions.

Your reactions to their antagonisms, belligerence, unconscionable conduct, unrepentance puzzles them. To them

You are hypersensitive.

You get hurt too easily.

Your emotional reactions to things and situations are too over the top, you are too reactive to trivial things.

You misperceive everything I say as targeting or insulting you.

You take things too personally.

You can’t get over things.

You over it already! Move on!

You get hung up too easily.

You think too much.

You can’t let go.

You can’t just forget about it and move on.

You are unforgiving. Forgive your enemies (senselessly and without rebuke) just as God forgave you (wrong : God doesn’t forgive the unrepentant) (Scripture twisting)

You like to hold onto grudges. You are petty.

You don’t forget past hurt easily. It’s like you like to keep dredging up the past or something.

You are too fragile.

You are weak.

You like to remember past grievances.

What is wrong with you?

Why do you have such extreme emotional reactions to paper cuts?

It’s no big deal!

If those things happened to the narcissist, they wouldn’t be such a crybaby (they think to themselves).

That’s exactly how they all sound. Everyone just needs thicker skin.

There is something fundamentally wrong with the perception of the narcissist.

This fundamental dysfunction of their perception is at the root of their unrepentance, insensitivity, love of ruin, callous indifference, experiencing fun and delight from abusing you, and tendency to repeat the abuse over and over again.

You cannot get it through to them that your hurt is not cool.

They will never understand.

They think it’s cool.

They will always think it’s cool.

They will never understand why you keep thinking abusing you is not cool.

They think there’s something wrong with your perception.

All fun and hilarity stems from someone getting hurt doesn’t it? So what if it happens to be you. Someone always has to be ‘it’. You shouldn’t ruin the fun with your losing it.

Any argument with narcissists regarding your hurt always boils down to this

You : Understand that hurting me is not cool.

Narcissist : Understand that you are not hurt, and that you are a crybaby crying over nothing, and that is why you are what’s not cool. Learn to become more chill.

This is basically how the drama of forever unrepentance will always look like.

Every single time you talk seriously to them, it will always be a revisitation of this talk. Forever.

Suppression. Suppression. Suppression. Suppression. Suppression. Suppression. Suppression. Suppression. Suppression. Suppression.

They think you are not really human. You are a 2D cardboard cutout to them, an appliance, a chew toy that squeaks when chewed, a punching bag that plays a recorded groan, a mannikin with audio recording, a blown up doll with audio recording.

You eventually have no choice but to think they are not really human because they have absolutely no empathy, compassion, or conscience. They will consistently fail at challenges that require perceptions of empathy, compassion, or conscience.

OH, East is East, and West is West, and never the twain shall meet,

A quote from Kipling

They will never treat you as human.

You will eventually awaken to the fact that they are not human.

And then, the scary idea creeps into your head that maybe they cannot treat you as human perhaps because they are not human, maybe they don’t actually know what human is.

That’s sad.

Every narcissist you got close to made you permanently sadder in life.

Towards the end of your life, looking back at your life, you are sadder for every single narcissist you ever knew. Every single one of them was spiritually good for nothing. A regret knowing.

Meanwhile those same narcissists are still plastic smiling or chronic complaining or setting others up for degradation into their old age.