The development law of "sexual psychology" | The frequency of male "sexual fantasies" is higher than that of females, regardless of age
The development law of "sexual psychology"
When asked about the characteristics of future long-term lovers they prefer, both men and women agreed on the importance of certain characteristics, such as a sense of humor and kindness, but differed in the priority of other characteristics (Buss , 1989; Buss, Shackelford, Kirkpatrick, & Larsen, 2001).
Women prioritize the income potential and social status of long-term partners, while men prioritize attractiveness and youthfulness. It is not difficult to understand why in life, women tend to value whether the other party has a house and a car, while men like to look good, which also leads to women who tend to spend a lot of energy to enhance their sexual attractiveness.
The development law of "sexual psychology" | The frequency of male "sexual fantasies" is higher than that of females, regardless of age
The evolutionary view suggests that whether women are satisfied with their sexual partners may depend on the level of commitment of these partners. Being given sexual value by a relatively irresponsible partner may violate women’s desire to avoid short-term sexual relationships, and may therefore be negatively correlated with relationship satisfaction. Conversely, being sexually valued by a highly loyal partner may have a positive effect on women’s relationship satisfaction, because it shows them that they have successfully attracted a long-term partner.
For example, a study of 109 newlyweds in the United States supports these predictions. The husband’s sexual values are significantly positively correlated with the wife’s marital satisfaction (Meltzer, Mcnulty & Maner, 2016). It can be seen that for women to choose a spouse, whether the other half is reliable and whether they have long-term responsibility is also very important, which will directly affect women's feelings about the relationship.
Although both sexes are involved in long-term and short-term relationships, men are more interested in short-term sexual contact than women, and are more likely than women to have sex with people other than their loyal romantic partners (Buss & Schmitt, 1993).
The development law of "sexual psychology" | The frequency of male "sexual fantasies" is higher than that of females, regardless of age
When asked about the ideal number of sexual partners in different time intervals, men have more ideal partners than women. When asked how likely they are to have sex with a person after knowing them for a period of time, men are more likely than women to indicate that they will have sex with that person.
Men not only desire more sexual partners and more short-term mating opportunities than women, but also desire to have sex with a person after knowing them for a shorter period of time.
This may also be related to evolutionary psychology, because humans have the original drive to reproduce. As males, their childbearing costs are relatively low, so they have more tendency to reproduce their own offspring. The tendency to give more protection to one's offspring will choose relationship partners more carefully, which also confirms the gender difference in mate choice preferences.
The development law of "sexual psychology" | The frequency of male "sexual fantasies" is higher than that of females, regardless of age
American Psychological Research: There are significant gender differences in "sexual fantasies"
American psychologist Beutel (2008) surveyed 307 California State University or college students (182 women, 125 men) through paper-pencil questionnaires, and investigated the nature and frequency of male and female sexual fantasies. This questionnaire is inspired by modern evolutionary theory and aims to investigate gender differences in sexual fantasies. There are significant gender differences in visual image, touch, context, personalization, emotion, partner diversity, partner response, fantasist response, internal and external focus, etc. (Ellis & Symons, 1990).
It was found that compared with women, men showed a higher frequency of sexual fantasies, reported more imaginary sexual partners, and replaced one imaginary partner with another in a fantasies more frequently. And, as a method of researching sexual psychology, individuals reporting their own "sexual fantasies" can provide a more accurate psychological measurement of sexuality, because they involve private thoughts rather than reported behaviors, and are not limited by reality. Even the age limit.
The development law of "sexual psychology" | The frequency of male "sexual fantasies" is higher than that of females, regardless of age
Beutel also reported an inverse relationship between age and sexual desire, which means that sexual desire generally declines with age.
Specifically, DeLamater and Moorman recorded the frequency of different sexual behaviors in a large sample of elderly people, and found that although the older the age, the lower the frequency of sexual behavior, but both older men and older women reported having partner sex. And masturbation, and the decline in the demand for sex life of elderly men is relatively slow, and the overall demand is higher than that of women.
In other respects, there are gender differences, including that men value appearance more than women, and whether the other party has good cooking skills and the ability to manage housework. This shows that the attractiveness of long-term partners is still important for men's later years. Women value good financial prospects, ambition and hard work more than men.
The development law of "sexual psychology" | The frequency of male "sexual fantasies" is higher than that of females, regardless of age
In addition, when choosing a relationship partner, women also value the emotional stability and maturity of the partner. This may be because older women associate emotional stability with earning potential more closely than younger women, or because older women believe that emotional stability indicates that their partners have the ability to provide them with adequate care in their later years. This shows that regardless of age, the sexual psychological differences between men and women are similar and have always existed.
In general, there are gender differences in "sexual psychology", and the significant differences in sexual life between men and women often affect the harmony of married life and the quality of marriage. Understanding these differences can help us understand each other better and enhance our relationship.
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