Christmas is Not Always “Beer and Skittles”

If you find the holiday season challenging, you’re not alone.

I have never been a big fan of Christmas. I have always found it a bit pretentious. It is a time for kids, really. I have not had kids in my life, so the "children's influence" around this time of year doesn’t occur.

I also find that the true spirit of Christmas has been lost. It has become more of a commercial event than a Christian celebration of the birth of Christ. Of course, for non-Christian folks, they do not have that as a reason.

Holidays are often seen as joyful times for celebration and togetherness. But for many, they can also stir up tough thoughts and feelings. Don’t get me wrong. (I wish everyone a very happy and safe holiday season; it just doesn't work for me. Too many bad memories of Christmases past, I’m afraid.

Don’t get me wrong. I wish everyone a very happy and safe holiday season; it just doesn't work for me.

I am told it's okay to feel lonely, angry, anxious, stressed, sad, or something else entirely. Acknowledge your emotions. Remember, your well-being matters. That sounds great. But for those who feel lonely or struggle with depression, this time can be tough.

For those with mental health issues, the holidays just amplify things. There is the financial strain of buying presents, often fueled by unrealistic expectations. Packed schedules where it seems everyone must catch up before Christmas.

How many times have you heard, “We must catch up before Christmas”? It’s like the world will explode after the holidays!

Data shows that stress increases for 1 in 5 people. Over-spending and strains on relationships in the pursuit of the perfect holiday take their toll at this time of year.

But spare a thought for those in the community who suffer from loneliness and depression. They avoid all the hype of holiday fever, but it is there. It haunts them. People who find it hard to socialise are drawn into crowds but still feel socially isolated.

About 64% of people with mental health issues feel worse during the holidays.

In Austria, 1 in 4 people feel lonely. I bet it's the same or even worse in other countries. One in three Australians feels they don't belong to a group or have friends. Nearly 55% say they feel lonely and lack companionship at times.

Contrary to the belief of many, suicide rates tend to be lower over Christmas. Maybe it is because of increased family activity or just a sense that it is another day like any other. New Year’s Day is different. Some data suggest that suicide rates increase by as much as 33% on New Year's Day.

I am not a psychologist. This spike in self-harm and suicide might be linked to the New Year. People often make resolutions during this time. Self-harm and suicidal thoughts may be connected to memories or feelings of hopelessness about the future.

I was personally affected by two suicide attempts that happened last week. It brought the reality home for me. Not everyone views Christmas as “all beers and Skittles.” For some, it’s tough due to their circumstances. I’ve spent the last few holidays in isolation, so I get it.

Loneliness is a terrible thing. If you know someone spending Christmas alone, reach out. Share the true spirit of the season and see how they’re doing. Invite them over for a small and non-assuming drink or hot chocolate and cookies.

The holiday season can be a terrible reminder to some people about their loneliness, and that can lead to desperation.

You might just save their life!

Till next time,

Calvin