The Aging Narcissist: How Their Behavior Gets Worse with Time

The aging narcissist becomes more and more narcissistic as they age. Becoming elderly is a normal part of the developmental stage of life for most people, but not for the narcissistic. They may have always been somewhat narcissistic, but it becomes worse as they age. Especially when the midlife crisis catches up to them. This is where you will see them trying to hold on to what is left of their youthful years. Dressing younger, getting plastic surgery in an effort to look young, going to the gym to alter their body, or buying a sport or luxury vehicle to impress or attract younger victims. Some will even divorce their lifetime spouse only to get involved with or to remarry a younger victim, because this feeds into their need for narcissistic supply. Even as they age, they still want and need to have their ego constantly stroked.

When their looks, money, and malicious mouth of manipulation no longer works, as it once did, aging then takes rips into their low self-esteem. This is when depression and desperation set in, however this does not mean that they will change, self-reflect, humble themselves, apologize, and be a better person. A narcissist doesn’t stop their narcissistic behavior because of aging. The meanness, selfishness, and entitlement only intensify and drives everyone around them away from them leaving them in a lonely space. The tables will turn when narcissists find themselves in the same position, they try so hard to put their victims in. Life takes a different turn when nobody is buying into their lies, manipulation, and no one is feeling sorry for them. Everyone is refusing to be their doormat or emotional punching bag.

What happens:

If they have children or if the spouse or partner hasn’t left them and is still sticking around for the sake of loyalty, will pay the price for the narcissist stage of aging. The narcissist will take out their frustration, and anger onto the person closet to them just as they did when they were younger though the abuse is even more egregious. This causing the victim to leave or depending on the age most adult children or spouses of narcissistic abuse will abandon the narcissist, which is one of their greatest fears. Some grow old or sick, and this is when they desperately seek anyone to take them in and take care of them which includes prior victims they once abused, used, misled, and manipulated.

When they have burned their bridges with everyone, and (no one not a soul) will deal with them is when they find themselves completely alone, lonely, and hopeless. This is when the narcissist is most at risk for suicidal ideation or behavior. This is when they end up literally homeless living in their car if they have a car or on the streets, indigent. This is when they end up transferred into a nursing home where no one comes to visit. This is when they’re awarded to the state and placed into an institution or grimy senior complex around other narcissists, undesirables, and the unwanted. This is when they end up being admitted into a psychiatric ward or in a hospital on their deathbed at the mercy of nurses/doctors with no visitors including family members coming to visit them. Their expiration date is constantly tapping on their shoulder as they lay without knowing when their last day, hour, minute, or second will be on this earth. They’re rendered powerless, incapacitated, and nothing more than dead weight that will no longer grace this earth. Very very sad, but very very very true…