panic attacks
Sudden periods of intense fear. But remember, you're not alone.
Trying to get back to full-time work whilst recovering from depression
There is a particular kind of silence that follows depression; it’s the absence left behind when your old life no longer fits and the new one hasn’t quite formed yet. That’s why I often compare depression with the state of metamorphosis.
By Susan Fourtané 5 days ago in Psyche
The Psychology of Losing Interest in Life
I didn't notice when I stopped caring. It wasn't a decision, wasn't a moment. It was a gradual dimming, like someone slowly turning down the lights in a room so incrementally that you don't realize you're sitting in darkness until you can barely see anymore.
By Ameer Moavia8 days ago in Psyche
Decision Fatigue and the Hidden Cost of Constant Choice. AI-Generated.
Modern life is defined by choice. From the moment we wake up, we are faced with decisions: what to wear, what to eat, which messages to answer first, how to structure the day, what to buy, what to avoid. While choice is often framed as a form of freedom, psychology reveals a more complicated reality. Too many decisions, even small and seemingly harmless ones, can exhaust the mind. This phenomenon is known as decision fatigue, a subcategory of cognitive psychology that explores how repeated decision-making depletes mental energy and affects judgment, impulse control, and emotional regulation.
By Kyle Butler8 days ago in Psyche
The Psychology of Living in Your Head
I was at dinner with friends when I realized I had no idea what anyone had been talking about for the last fifteen minutes. They were laughing, animated, fully present in the moment. Meanwhile, I was three conversations deep in my own head—replaying something awkward I'd said two hours ago, planning tomorrow's presentation, and simultaneously worrying about whether I'd come across as distant by not contributing enough to this very conversation I wasn't actually having. My best friend touched my arm. "You okay? You seem a million miles away." She had no idea. I wasn't a million miles away. I was right there at the table, but I was also simultaneously existing in seventeen different mental dimensions, none of which were the present moment. "Sorry," I mumbled. "Just tired." But I wasn't tired. I was just living in my head again. Like always. The Inner World That Never Sleeps For as long as I can remember, my mental life has been louder, more vivid, and more consuming than my actual life. While my body moves through the world—working, eating, talking—my mind is elsewhere, running a constant stream of thoughts, scenarios, conversations, and narratives that never stop. I live in a perpetual state of analysis. Every interaction gets dissected afterward. Every decision gets examined from forty-seven angles. Every feeling gets intellectualized, categorized, and filed away for future rumination. My therapist calls it "being in your head." I call it my default state of existence. Other people seem to just be—they go to the gym and think about the gym. They watch movies and experience the story. They have conversations and stay in those conversations. I go to the gym and plan my entire week. I watch movies and critique the dialogue while simultaneously thinking about my own life's narrative arc. I have conversations while having three other conversations with myself about the conversation I'm supposed to be having. It's exhausting. But it's also the only way I know how to exist. The Architects of Overthinking I wasn't born this way. Or maybe I was, but life certainly reinforced it. Growing up, my household was unpredictable. Not chaotic in an obvious way, but emotionally volatile. I learned early that survival meant prediction—if I could think through every possible scenario, anticipate every reaction, analyze every mood shift, I could stay safe. My mind became my refuge and my fortress. When the outside world felt uncertain, I could retreat inward, where I had complete control. I could replay conversations until I found the "right" response. I could plan futures in meticulous detail. I could create entire worlds that made sense in ways reality never did. School rewarded this tendency. Teachers praised my thoughtfulness, my ability to see multiple perspectives, my rich inner life. "She's an old soul," they'd say. "Very introspective." What they didn't see was that I wasn't choosing introspection. I was trapped in it. The Prison of Possibility Living in your head means living in infinite possibility—and infinite paralysis. Every decision becomes monumental because I can see every potential outcome. Choosing a restaurant requires weighing seventeen variables. Sending a simple email takes an hour because I'm analyzing every word choice, every possible interpretation, every way it could be misunderstood. My partner once joked that I could turn "Should we get pizza tonight?" into an existential crisis. He wasn't wrong. But it's not funny when you're the one drowning in it. When your brain treats every choice like a choose-your-own-adventure book with infinite pages. When you're so busy thinking about living that you forget to actually live. I've missed so much because I was too busy processing it. Sunsets I didn't see because I was ruminating. Conversations I didn't hear because I was rehearsing what I'd say next. Moments of joy that passed me by because I was already analyzing them, trying to capture and preserve them instead of simply experiencing them.
By Ameer Moavia8 days ago in Psyche
Situational Depression: Causes, Symptoms, Recovery, and How to Heal After Life’s Challenges
Life does not always go as planned. Unexpected events such as academic failure, job loss, relationship breakdowns, or family conflicts can deeply affect emotional stability.
By Daily Motivation9 days ago in Psyche
The Emotional Exhaustion of Always Being Alert
I woke up at 3 a.m., heart racing, body drenched in sweat. There was no nightmare. No sound had startled me awake. My brain had simply decided, as it did most nights, that sleep was a luxury I couldn't afford. I lay there in the dark, listening to my partner breathe peacefully beside me, and felt a familiar wave of exhaustion wash over me. Not the kind that sleep could fix. The kind that lived in my bones, that made every day feel like I was walking through water, that came from spending every waking moment on high alert for dangers that rarely came. I was twenty-nine years old, and I was so tired of being tired. The Weight of Invisible Armor Most people don't understand what it's like to live in a body that never feels safe. They don't know what it's like to walk into a coffee shop and immediately catalog all the exits. To sit in meetings only half-listening because you're too busy reading everyone's micro-expressions for signs of anger or disappointment. To come home after a normal day and feel like you've run a marathon because your nervous system has been in fight-or-flight mode for eight straight hours. I couldn't remember the last time I'd felt truly relaxed. Even on vacation—especially on vacation—I was scanning for problems, planning for disasters, preparing for things to go wrong. My friends would laugh at the beach while I mentally reviewed our emergency contacts and the location of the nearest hospital. "You worry too much," they'd say, not unkindly. But it wasn't worry. Worry is a choice. This was a compulsion, a biological imperative, a survival mechanism that had forgotten to turn off long after the danger had passed. Learning to Live in Threat Mode I didn't always live like this. Or maybe I did, and I just didn't notice until it started breaking me. Growing up, my home was unpredictable. Not violent in the traditional sense, but volatile. My father's moods were weather systems I learned to forecast—a certain tone of voice meant a storm was coming, a particular kind of silence meant I should disappear into my room. My mother's anxiety was contagious, her catastrophic thinking a constant background hum that taught me the world was dangerous and disaster lurked around every corner. I became hypervigilant out of necessity. The girl who could sense tension before it erupted. The child who perfected the art of reading rooms and adjusting herself accordingly. The teenager who never fully relaxed because relaxing meant being caught off guard. It kept me safe then. But now? Now it was killing me slowly, one anxious moment at a time. The Thousand Tiny Calculations People don't see the work that hypervigilance requires. They don't see the constant calculations running in the background of my mind: Is my boss's email shorter than usual? Did I do something wrong? Why did my friend take three hours to respond? Are they mad at me? My partner seems quiet. Is this the beginning of the end? Every interaction becomes a puzzle to solve, every silence a threat to decode. I'm exhausted before lunch because I've already survived a dozen imagined catastrophes that never happened. At the grocery store, I'm planning escape routes. At dinner parties, I'm monitoring everyone's alcohol intake in case someone gets aggressive. During normal conversations, I'm three steps ahead, anticipating conflict and preparing my defense. My therapist calls it hyperarousal. My body calls it normal. The rest of the world calls it anxiety. They're all right. The Body That Remembers The cruelest part of hypervigilance is that it lives in your body, not just your mind. I could intellectually understand that I was safe, that my current life bore no resemblance to my childhood, that most people weren't threats. But my nervous system didn't get the memo. My heart still raced when someone raised their voice—even in excitement. My stomach still dropped when I heard footsteps approaching quickly. My shoulders still tensed when I heard keys in the door, even though it was just my partner coming home from work. Trauma had taught my body that survival meant constant vigilance. And bodies, it turns out, are slow learners when it comes to unlearning fear. I tried everything to calm down. Meditation made me more anxious—sitting still only gave my brain more time to catastrophize. Exercise helped, but only temporarily. Alcohol worked until it didn't, until one glass became three became a problem I didn't want to admit. What I needed wasn't relaxation techniques. What I needed was to convince my nervous system that it was finally, truly safe. The Breaking Point My wake-up call came on an ordinary Tuesday afternoon. I was driving home from work, and suddenly I couldn't breathe. My vision tunneled. My hands went numb. I pulled over, certain I was having a heart attack. At the emergency room, after hours of tests, the doctor gave me the diagnosis I'd been avoiding: panic attack. Severe anxiety. Chronic stress. "Your body is in a constant state of crisis," she explained gently. "You're running on adrenaline and cortisol all the time. Eventually, something has to give." I nodded, unable to speak around the lump in my throat. Because she was right. Something had given. My body, after years of being ignored, had finally screamed loud enough to get my attention.
By Ameer Moavia9 days ago in Psyche
Why the Mind Never Feels at Rest
I'm sitting on a beach in Hawaii, watching the most beautiful sunset I've ever seen. This should be perfect. I took time off work specifically for this—to rest, to recharge, to finally relax after months of grinding through deadlines and stress. The ocean stretches endlessly before me, waves rhythmically breaking on shore, the sky painted in impossible shades of orange and pink. I should feel peaceful. Instead, my mind is cataloging everything I need to do when I get back. Mentally drafting emails. Replaying a conversation from last week. Planning tomorrow's itinerary. Worrying about whether I responded to that text. Wondering if I'm relaxing correctly or if I should be doing something more productive with this sunset. I can't just be here. My body is in paradise, but my mind is everywhere else—past, future, hypothetical scenarios, endless mental checklists. Even in this perfect moment, I'm not present. I'm not resting. I haven't been truly at rest in years. The Engine That Won't Stop I used to think I was just busy. That if I could just finish this project, just get through this week, just accomplish these things on my list, then I could rest. But there was always another project. Another week. Another list. Rest remained perpetually one accomplishment away, always just beyond reach. By my mid-thirties, I'd achieved most of what I'd been working toward. Good career. Stable relationship. Financial security. The external stressors that supposedly prevented rest had been largely eliminated. And yet, my mind never stopped. It just found new things to worry about, new problems to solve, new scenarios to analyze. Lying in bed at night. Sitting in traffic. Taking a shower. Eating a meal. Every moment became occupied by thought—planning, analyzing, worrying, remembering, anticipating. My mind had become incapable of simply being without doing. I couldn't watch a movie without also scrolling my phone. Couldn't have a conversation without part of my brain planning what to say next. Couldn't take a walk without listening to a podcast. Every moment had to be filled, optimized, productive. The idea of doing nothing—truly nothing—terrified me. Because when I tried, when I forced myself to just sit with no input, no distraction, no mental task, the silence lasted about thirty seconds before my brain started generating new content to fill it. The Myth of Relaxation "You need to relax," everyone kept telling me. My doctor, my partner, my friends. As if relaxation were something I could simply decide to do, like changing channels. I tried everything. Meditation apps that I'd start and then immediately get distracted from. Yoga classes where I'd spend the entire time thinking about my to-do list. "Relaxing" baths where I'd bring my phone and answer emails. Vacations where I'd return more exhausted than when I left because I'd spent the entire time mentally at work. The harder I tried to relax, the more stressed I became about my inability to relax. I'd read articles about the importance of rest and feel guilty that I couldn't achieve it. I'd watch my partner nap peacefully on a Sunday afternoon and feel envious and broken—what was wrong with me that I couldn't turn off my mind like that? Even sleep—the most basic form of rest—had become labor. I'd lie awake for hours, my brain churning through problems, rehearsing conversations, planning futures, reviewing pasts. When I finally did sleep, I'd dream about work, about deadlines, about all the things my waking mind was obsessed with. There was no off switch. No pause button. No way to exit the constant mental motion that had become my default state. The Roots of Restlessness In therapy, I started excavating where this came from. Why rest felt impossible. Why stillness felt dangerous. The answer stretched back to childhood. I grew up in a household where productivity was virtue and idleness was sin. "If you have time to relax, you have time to do something useful," my father would say. Love felt conditional on achievement. Approval came through accomplishment. I learned early: your worth is measured by your output. Rest is selfish. Stillness is lazy. Productivity equals value. I also learned that being busy meant being safe. As long as I was occupied, focused on tasks, solving problems, I didn't have to feel uncomfortable emotions. Anxiety, sadness, loneliness, existential dread—all of it could be outrun through constant mental motion. My restless mind wasn't a malfunction. It was a highly effective coping mechanism I'd developed decades ago and never learned to turn off. The Cost of Constant Motion By the time I hit forty, the cost of my restless mind had become undeniable. Chronic fatigue that no amount of sleep could fix. A persistent tension headache that lived at the base of my skull. Digestive issues my doctor attributed to stress. A resting heart rate that was consistently elevated, as if my body was perpetually preparing for a threat that never materialized. My relationships suffered. I couldn't be fully present with anyone because part of my mind was always elsewhere. My partner would be telling me something important, and I'd realize I hadn't heard a word because I'd been mentally composing a work email. I'd lost the ability to enjoy things. Beautiful moments, achievements, pleasures—they all got immediately processed and filed away rather than savored. I'd accomplish something I'd worked toward for months and instead of celebrating, I'd immediately focus on the next goal. Most devastatingly, I'd lost access to myself. I had no idea what I actually thought or felt about anything because I never stopped long enough to check in. I was so busy doing that I'd forgotten how to just be. The Breaking Point The collapse came during what should have been a routine Saturday afternoon. I had nothing scheduled, no obligations, no deadlines. My partner was out with friends. I had the entire day to myself to do whatever I wanted. Freedom. Space. Time. I stood in the middle of my living room, paralyzed. My mind immediately started generating tasks: clean the house, run errands, catch up on emails, exercise, meal prep, organize the closet. Endless options, all productive, all useful. But underneath the mental chatter, I felt something else—a desperate, bone-deep exhaustion. Not physical tiredness. Soul tiredness. A profound weariness with the endless doing, the constant motion, the relentless mental activity. I didn't want to be productive. I didn't want to accomplish anything. I wanted to rest. Really rest. I wanted my mind to be quiet for just five minutes. But I didn't know how. I sat on the couch, determined to do nothing. Within two minutes, I was reaching for my phone. I forced myself to put it down. Thirty seconds later, I was mentally planning the week ahead. I tried to stop. My brain immediately jumped to analyzing why I couldn't stop thinking. And then, unexpectedly, I started crying. Deep, wrenching sobs that came from a place I'd been ignoring for decades. I was so tired. So profoundly, completely exhausted. And I didn't know how to stop. Understanding the Restless Mind My therapist helped me understand what was happening. "Your nervous system is stuck in sympathetic activation," she explained. "Fight or flight mode. Your body thinks you're constantly under threat, so it keeps you hypervigilant, always scanning, always preparing, never resting." She introduced me to the concept of "chronic stress activation"—when your nervous system gets locked in survival mode and forgets how to return to the relaxed, restorative state humans need to heal and recharge. My restless mind wasn't just psychological. It was physiological. My body had been flooded with stress hormones for so long that it had forgotten what safety felt like. Rest registered as danger because stillness meant I wasn't preparing, defending, accomplishing—and my nervous system had learned that constant vigilance was survival. "You can't think your way into rest," she said. "Your mind is the problem. You have to go through the body." The Long Road to Stillness Learning to let my mind rest was nothing like I expected. It wasn't about thinking different thoughts or developing better mental habits. It was about teaching my nervous system that it was safe to stop. I started with physical practices. Gentle yoga that focused on breath rather than achievement. Progressive muscle relaxation where I'd systematically tense and release every muscle group, giving my body permission to let go. Long walks where I deliberately left my phone at home and practiced noticing sensations—the feeling of my feet on the ground, the temperature of the air, the sounds around me. The first few times, my mind screamed in protest. This was wasted time. I should be doing something productive. I should be solving problems, planning, optimizing. But gradually, slowly, my nervous system started to remember that rest was possible. That stillness wasn't death. That I could stop moving and the world wouldn't collapse. I learned to create what my therapist called "micro-rests"—brief moments throughout the day where I'd deliberately stop the mental motion. Sixty seconds of just breathing. Thirty seconds of staring out the window without thinking. A full minute of just feeling my body in the chair. These felt ridiculously simple. They were also incredibly hard. But they started creating tiny pockets of quiet in the constant noise. The Practice of Presence I started meditating, though not the way I'd tried before. No apps with soothing voices telling me what to do. Just me, sitting, breathing, watching my thoughts without engaging with them. The first sessions were chaos. My mind generated endless content—worries, plans, memories, judgments. I'd get caught in thought-streams and suddenly realize ten minutes had passed and I hadn't been present for any of it. But my therapist said that was the practice. Not achieving mental silence, but noticing when you've left the present moment and gently returning. Over and over. Thousands of times. That's the work. Gradually, imperceptibly, something shifted. The spaces between thoughts became slightly longer. The grip of mental content loosened slightly. I started experiencing brief moments—just seconds at first—of genuine stillness. Not forced, not achieved through effort, but naturally arising when I stopped trying so hard. Those moments were revelatory. I'd forgotten that quiet was possible. That the mind could actually rest. That there was a state of being that wasn't constant doing. The Discoveries in Stillness As my mind learned to rest, I started discovering what had been hiding underneath all that mental noise. Emotions I'd been outrunning for years. Grief about losses I'd never processed. Anger I'd never expressed. Joy I'd never fully felt because I'd been too busy to notice it. A profound loneliness that no amount of productivity could fill. My restless mind had been protecting me from feeling things I didn't think I could handle. As long as I stayed busy, stayed in my head, stayed in constant motion, I didn't have to confront the uncomfortable truths about my life, my relationships, my choices. Stillness meant feeling. And feeling was terrifying. But it was also liberating. As I started letting myself feel instead of constantly think, as I created space for emotions instead of drowning them in mental activity, something unexpected happened: I started actually resting. Not because I'd achieved some perfect state of mental silence, but because I'd stopped fighting so hard. I'd made peace with the fact that my mind would always generate content, but I didn't have to engage with every thought. I could let them pass like clouds while I remained still underneath. The Ongoing Practice Three years into this work, rest is still a practice, not a permanent state. I still have days when my mind races relentlessly. I still catch myself filling every moment with activity, still find stillness uncomfortable. But now I have tools. I can recognize when my nervous system is activated and know how to down-regulate. I can notice when my mind is in constant motion and choose—sometimes—to stop feeding it. I can create space for genuine rest instead of just distraction disguised as relaxation. I've learned that rest isn't the same as doing nothing. It's not about being lazy or unproductive. It's about giving your nervous system permission to feel safe enough to stop preparing, defending, achieving. It's about trusting that you're okay, right now, without having to do anything or be anywhere or accomplish anything. That trust doesn't come naturally to someone who learned early that worth equals productivity. But it's learnable. Slowly. Imperfectly. With practice. The Permission We Need If your mind never feels at rest, if you can't remember the last time you felt truly still, if even your attempts to relax feel like another task to accomplish—you're not broken. You're not failing at rest. You've just been in survival mode for so long that your nervous system forgot what safety feels like. Your mind learned to stay hypervigilant because at some point, that vigilance protected you. But you're not in that situation anymore, and your body just hasn't gotten the memo yet. Rest isn't something you achieve through effort. It's something you allow through surrender. It's the opposite of everything our culture teaches us about productivity and optimization and constant improvement. Your mind doesn't need to be quiet to rest. It just needs permission to stop working so hard. To stop scanning for threats, solving problems, planning futures. To simply be, without agenda or achievement. You deserve rest. Not as a reward for productivity. Not after you've accomplished enough. But simply because you're a human being, and rest is a fundamental human need. Your worth isn't measured by your mental activity. You're allowed to be still. A mind that never rests isn't a sign of ambition or intelligence or dedication—it's a nervous system stuck in survival mode, convinced that stopping means danger. You weren't built for constant motion. You were built for rhythm: action and rest, thinking and stillness, doing and being. The exhaustion you feel isn't from working too hard—it's from never truly stopping. Rest isn't weakness. It's not wasted time. It's the foundation of everything else. Your mind will never feel at peace through more thinking, more doing, more achieving. It will only find rest when you finally give it permission to stop trying.
By Ameer Moavia10 days ago in Psyche
The Ghosts That Wait: Understanding Why Old Wounds Bleed in New Moments
It was just a Tuesday. Nothing special, nothing traumatic. I was standing in line at my usual coffee shop, scrolling through emails, half-present in the mundane rhythm of my morning routine. And then I heard it—a man's laugh from somewhere behind me. Deep, familiar, with that particular cadence that made my chest tighten. My hands started shaking. My breathing became shallow. Tears burned behind my eyes for no reason I could immediately name. The laugh wasn't his. The man wasn't him. My ex-fiancé lived three thousand miles away and we hadn't spoken in five years. I'd done the therapy. I'd done the healing work. I'd moved on, fallen in love again, built a beautiful life. So why was I standing in a coffee shop at nine in the morning, fighting the urge to run, feeling like I was drowning in pain I thought I'd left behind? The Myth of Linear Healing We're told that healing is a journey with a clear destination. You process the trauma, you do the work, you move forward, and eventually, you arrive at "healed." Past tense. Complete. Done. Nobody tells you that healing isn't a straight line—it's a spiral. You circle back to the same wounds at different altitudes, seeing them from new perspectives, feeling them with different intensities. You can be genuinely okay for months or years, and then something small—a song, a scent, a stranger's laugh—rips the scab off a wound you didn't even know was still there. After the coffee shop incident, I went home and canceled my meetings. I spent the day curled up on my couch, crying about a relationship that ended half a decade ago, feeling stupid and weak and confused. "I thought I was over this," I told my therapist later that week. "Why is this happening now?" She smiled with the gentle patience of someone who'd heard this question a thousand times. "You are over it. But your nervous system has a longer memory than your conscious mind. It's trying to protect you from something it thinks might happen again." The Body's Archive Our bodies are remarkable archivists. They catalog every moment of fear, every instance of heartbreak, every second of helplessness we've ever experienced. Not to punish us, but to protect us. This is what trauma specialists call implicit memory—emotional and sensory information stored below conscious awareness. When you experience something painful, your brain doesn't just file it away with a neat label and a timestamp. It creates an entire sensory network of associations: sounds, smells, times of day, tones of voice, patterns of behavior. Years later, when something in your present environment matches something from that network—even loosely—your body sounds the alarm before your conscious mind even registers the connection. That laugh in the coffee shop? My nervous system recognized it as a threat signature from my past. It didn't matter that my conscious mind knew I was safe. My body remembered betrayal, and it was trying to protect me from experiencing it again. The Triggers We Don't See Coming The cruelest thing about resurfacing pain is its unpredictability. You brace yourself for the obvious triggers—anniversaries, familiar places, certain songs. But then you're blindsided by things you never saw coming. A friend's wedding sent me into a spiral of grief about my father's death, even though he'd been gone for seven years. The smell of cigarette smoke in a parking lot transported me instantly to my childhood, to feelings of fear and uncertainty I thought I'd processed. A colleague's dismissive tone in a meeting triggered shame from bullying I experienced in middle school, decades ago. Each time, I'd feel ambushed. Each time, I'd question whether I'd actually healed at all or if I'd just been fooling myself. But I was learning something crucial: the pain resurfacing doesn't mean the healing didn't happen. It means there are layers. Healing isn't about erasing the past—it's about changing your relationship with it.
By Ameer Moavia11 days ago in Psyche
The Weight of Words Never Spoken: What Happens When We Bury Our Emotions Alive
For years, I smiled through the pain, convinced that silence was strength. It wasn't until my body started screaming what my mouth refused to say that I learned the true cost of swallowing my truth. The panic attack hit me in the middle of a Tuesday morning meeting. One moment I was nodding along to quarterly projections, and the next, my chest tightened like someone had wrapped steel cables around my ribcage. My hands trembled. The room spun. I couldn't breathe. Twenty faces stared at me as I mumbled an excuse and stumbled out, convinced I was dying. The ER doctor's words still echo in my mind: "Physically, you're fine. But your body is trying to tell you something." I wanted to laugh. My body had been screaming at me for years. I just hadn't been listening. The Art of Pretending I learned early that emotions were inconvenient. Crying made people uncomfortable. Anger made me difficult. Sadness was selfish when others had it worse. So I became an expert at the smile that didn't reach my eyes, the "I'm fine" that meant anything but. When my father left without saying goodbye, I swallowed my abandonment and wore a brave face for my mother. When my best friend betrayed my trust, I pushed down the hurt and pretended it didn't matter. When my boss belittled me in front of colleagues, I buried my humiliation under layers of professional composure. I told myself I was being strong. Mature. Rising above it all. What I was actually doing was building a pressure cooker inside my chest, adding more heat every time I chose silence over honesty, more tension every time I said "it's okay" when it absolutely wasn't. When the Body Keeps Score The human body is remarkably honest. It will express what the mouth refuses to say. My suppressed emotions didn't disappear—they just found other ways to speak. The chronic headaches that no medication could touch. The insomnia that left me staring at the ceiling at 3 AM, mind racing with thoughts I wouldn't let myself think during daylight. The digestive issues that doctors couldn't explain. The inexplicable fatigue that made even simple tasks feel mountainous. I visited specialist after specialist, searching for a physical explanation for what was actually an emotional rebellion. My body had become a museum of unexpressed feelings, each symptom a exhibit of something I'd refused to process. The panic attacks became more frequent. My immune system weakened. I'd catch every cold, every flu, as if my body was too exhausted from managing my emotional lockdown to defend against anything else. The Breaking Point The Tuesday morning panic attack was my breaking point, but it wasn't the beginning. It was just the moment I could no longer ignore what had been building for decades. That night, alone in my apartment, I finally let myself feel. Not just the fear from the panic attack, but everything I'd been storing in the vault of my chest. The grief. The rage. The disappointment. The loneliness. The hurt.
By Ameer Moavia11 days ago in Psyche
The Night I Understood Football
I didn’t go to the game expecting hope. It was a cold November Thursday. My brother had just lost his job. My nephew hadn’t spoken in days after a school incident. The world felt heavy, and the last thing I wanted was to watch a mismatch—our hometown team facing a dynasty that hadn’t lost in months.
By KAMRAN AHMAD11 days ago in Psyche
Why Somatic Healing Techniques Trump Traditional Self Help
When the body feels and becomes safe - that is when pain and trauma starts to transmute. Talk therapy, combined with listing down the pros and cons of aiding in decision making, no matter the magnitude, is all well and good; yet such self-help and healing techniques do not reach the somatic and sticky bits, right up to the fascia. In no way, shape or form are these techniques being discounted and brushed aside; however for deep healing from caretaking, people pleasing, co-dependencies and addictions (all in the name of unresolved trauma - whether acquired through childhood and/or adulthood); being stuck in the head is a significant disservice to you, and to all of us. (Yes, we are all connected at the end of the day, even if you live in the Northern Hemisphere).
By Justine Crowley20 days ago in Psyche
