anxiety
A look at anxiety in its many forms and manifestations; what is the nature of this specific pattern of extreme fear and worry?
Protect Your Peace
In my last post, I spoke about my struggles with depression and how I am on the lighter end of the spectrum as of now. Do you know what it takes to make sure you remain on that end? You can do this by protecting your energies. Actively choose and decide who you will give your energy too and do it diligently because before you know it, you will feel drained and your inner peace will be destroyed. I recently began dating this young man after going on a five year hiatus of not dating and focusing on my career and school. When I met this guy I literally dove head first into this relationship. I said to myself this was it, this is what I want. I showed him my complete and utter devotion and loyalty I had for the relationship and that I didn't take it for granted. Whenever he needed me I was there hand and feet. Boy did he need, but I kept telling myself that if I hold on and show him that I'm in this and I'm not like other women and show him that he can rely on me that he will fill In the gap that he has failed to put his efforts into. Being the vocal individual that I am, I told him how I was feeling and he would give me the I'm sorry and whatever excuse he could fester up. He knew just what to say to keep me holding on... They always do... With anyone rather it's a friend, family member or in my case, a significant other you have to know when to let that person go. I found myself randomly crying and in the most horrible mood. I mean the emotions I was feeling gave depression a run for it's money. This feeling was and still is a mix of rage and sadness with a sprinkle of self worthlessness. I keep wondering what am I doing wrong? Why am I not enough for him? I have no proof of transgressions but I have proof of the lack of respect for me he and what he has for the relationship and I realized that l, that alone was enough. Last week I decided to take a mental health weekend from everyone and it wasn't hard being that a hurricane was coming so it was easy to just disappear in the anticlimactic chaos. During that time alone I was going through so many highs and lows back to back fighting with what was good and what was bad and what I could put up with and what I shouldn't. It got to a point when I was like why am I doing this to myself. By Sunday my eyes were swollen and blood shot, I was emotionally exhausted and decided that this person is really disrupting my peace. No one who claims to love you should have that power or if they do decide to even do so. If anything they should be protecting you and I felt like I was left out to rot and rust. I realize that it wasn't that I was mad at him but that he was breaking my heart, the feelings I was going through was a actual heart break. The last time I ever felt this way was five years ago where I allowed someone to disrupt my peace and that's when I began to experience depression. That's when I didn't allow myself to love or be loved and became selfish and only cared about myself. I don't want to be that person again. I don't want to miss out on any blessings that could come in the form of my potential life partner, my soulmate, my husband. I couldn't allow him to ruin me to the point that I didn't want to give my energy away again. There is nothing wrong with giving your energies away as long as it is for the right people but when it comes to a point that your peace is being defecated on, you have to let go. Just let go.
By Dishanta Lopez5 years ago in Psyche
Are they talking about me?
Assume that every moment people everywhere are talking about you. The whispers and stares that people give are meant for you. This is how people with social anxiety disorder, or social phobia, feel whenever they are vulnerable and exposed to others. It is a terrible ordeal for those who suffer from this because it interrupts and restrains them for functioning properly in their daily lives. This raises a question of how something like this comes about. What are some possible causes of this and how can one overcome this? There are many apparent studies done that used social and physiological factors as possible causes of social phobia.
By Renia Pyles5 years ago in Psyche
Endings
Close to two years ago, I broke my own rule. That rule was to never make ‘couple’ friends. You know what I am talking about, right? You are in a relationship…certain it will be for the long run. Inevitably, the pair of you meet another couple your age. They share similar ideology and are fun to hang out with.
By Suzie Wargo Lockhart5 years ago in Psyche
Untwisting the Knot
I've always loved going to the gym. I love the feeling of my body working and the rush of endorphins it gets from being challenged. Sometimes going to the gym is my only outing, as I'm a student that often studies from home, and it's where my body finally gets its chance to work as my mind rests.
By Cassandra Lawrence6 years ago in Psyche
What it is *actually* like to have anxiety
Let's get real about anxiety disorders... The mental health disorder anxiety is much more complex than the stereotypes portray. That’s the case for most mental illnesses. Having an anxiety disorder doesn’t mean you are just a worrier or are oversensitive. An anxiety disorder often manifests itself in physical ways, not just thoughts. Although the thoughts can be horrible and intrusive.
By Rebecca Clark6 years ago in Psyche
Yesterday’s Anxiety
On one the luckiest days of the year was March 17, 2020 as I was whisked away from my job. We were told to stay home until further notice. Of course I was happy because I didn’t have to get dressed and I felt it was similar to paid time off. Well all money isn’t good money.
By Mecca C Eaves-Glass6 years ago in Psyche
Should I Do This, Or This, Or That?
Living with an inner voice Hello Vocal friends! How are you feeling today? I am proud of you for clicking on this article and making a choice to be here today. I know first hand how difficult it can be dealing with Anxiety every day, morning, evening, and night. I found what best helped me is reading other’s stories, and experience’s living with Anxiety. It helps to make me feel not so alone, not "CrAzY". It’s hard to accept the harsh reality of what we have to go through every day, but just taking a little time out of our day to embrace our anxiety will help us feel free.
By a.secretcode6 years ago in Psyche
