Let’s Talk About Anger

Anger is part of us. It's a normal emotion that is part of our life, but it's often hard to control the decisions we make at that moment ... we better not make them.

Anger occurs in any of us when something does not suit us: problems at work, with children, in relationships. Although we were taught to control our anger from an early age, this is a normal and necessary emotion.

It goes beyond normal when it affects those around us or even us. Some people are born and are more irritable, others are on the opposite side. This behavior has been around since childhood and is easy to notice.

Some calming solutions

• take a deep breath and count to 10 times;
• leave where you are, go to a quiet one;
• say to yourself: "relax teepee";
• think of a relaxing image, such as a beach with fine sand and blue water;
• listen to your favorite music;
• open the window and take a deep breath.

As you can see, the solutions are not the most complicated. All you have to do is think of an emotion that is the opposite of anger or if you don't think of imposing one on yourself. So instead of consuming caffeinated products, choose an aromatic tea, or instead of sitting in front of the TV on Sunday afternoon, take a walk in the park, and so on.

I have a friend who is always annoyed by everything because it doesn't happen to her what she wants to happen to her. Sometimes it tends to become violent, it knocks on the car door, throws the phone on the table, about what it has at hand.

But he does not realize that violence is not a solution and that he should rather go to counseling. She's too proud and doesn't admit it, but she risks hurting someone. He needs to take action.

The costs

Anger can affect you for hours or even days if you don't know how to control it and let it control you. If you let such a negative emotion affect you, it means that you have become a victim of it.

Experts teach us to express it, not to keep it in us because it affects us mentally and can lead to heart problems. On the other hand, experts also tell us that expressing anger only complicates things and exaggerates the situations that led to this emotion.

In addition to the above solutions, there is another option: do not get angry. So:

• acknowledge that you cannot change the world and that not all your arguments are correct;
• you can't change people - they also have the right to have their ideas and behaviors.

It also happened to me the other day to make someone angry just because he didn't do something I expected him to do. In my head, I would have liked to read my thoughts and act according to my thoughts, but it did not happen, and I became very nervous.

Of course, we argued and didn't talk to each other all night. Then in the morning, when I woke up, I thought about everything and who was wrong, and I realized that I can't expect anyone to do what I want them to do.

We are generally frustrated because we do not get what we want, and this leads to a loss of control. And the fact that we get angry at that moment makes us believe that this is how we will get what we want, which is false.

We don't solve anything if we get angry with a person or a situation, and we make the best decisions anyway when we are calm, not "nervous". We often get angry because we think that fate has not been right with us and that others have received more from life: success, beauty, fame, and last but not least money.

But how do we get over that feeling? To be truly happy we must accept the reality and the fact that things are not always right.

You can learn to be happy with what you have received from nature - without this being equal to what others have. Many poor people are happier than rich people, for example.

So, don't get angry anymore:

• forget about equality between people, because everyone is different, some have more, others less;
• loves unconditionally;
• think that all negative emotions are barriers to happiness;
• accept life as it is.

Aggressive behavior can damage relationships with people around you and every moment of nervousness means losing as much happiness.