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On becoming in our modern times.
We live in tight shoes, tight mindsets, tight budgets. Always attempting to squeeze ourselves into something that doesn’t quite sit right. We morph and change and mould ourselves into who we ‘should’ be. Then, we become fretful and anxious, always worrying about maintaining this incongruous disposition. Pervasive self-deprecation seems to be the new trend, and if you are not continuously seeking to redefine and improve yourself, you are ostracised. From healing childhood trauma, becoming more confident, to changing addictive behaviour, the health & wellness industry is utterly capitalising on our deeply discontented modern lives & lack of truly compassionate leaders. Selective inclusivity rules, and we are encouraged to love & honour all that we are, unless of course that involves ‘bad’ and ‘negative’ traits, which must be cleansed from our system to allow us to be whole again.
By Azana Mackali-Cerasi4 years ago in Psyche
Anxiety: My Wife's Most Narcissistic Relationship
How would you feel if you found out your spouse was in another relationship? How would you feel if the one with which they were in a relationship could pop up at any time, no matter the day, no matter the time, no matter what you two are doing?
By Randell Gresham4 years ago in Psyche
I am not a victim
I am not a victim. Read that again and say it out loud. I am NOT a victim! If you’re like me you hesitated before you said it, if you even said it at all. The truth is there is a coward within me, that prior to saying those words, wants to argue the facts. But I’ve been abused. Ive been rejected. Ive been abandoned. The list gets longer. I have been beaten up. I have been damaged. I have been raped. As the minutes pass you will convince yourself that, no, I am a victim. This guy doesn’t understand all I’ve been through. He cannot comprehend the depth of the pain I’ve endured. And each time we convince ourselves, of that horrible lie, that we in fact are a victim, we become the victim again. And again. And again. Ask yourself this question. If you are the victim, then who is the victor? Every time we speak that lie or think that lie or convince ourselves that we are the victim, we essentially stand and clap for the bully, the abuser, the rapist, the thief. You see, nothing enables or empowers a bully or an abuser more than knowing that their abuse has had a lasting negative influence on your life. It’s in their nature. To be relevant, to be acknowledged, even if it’s in a negative light. Like the high school kid who adds notches on his belt to memorialize each sexual conquest, an abusive person wants to remain memorialized in your life. They want you to have trust issues. They want you to be afraid to love and to not feel worthy of love. They want you to be afraid of the dark or get anxiety from a text or call from them. They narcissistically lust the idea of never being ignored or forgotten. They want you to feel damaged and think that no one could love you. They want you to remain their victim for the rest of your life. And of course, you will. Unless you change your mind. Unless you change your thinking. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE THEIR VICTIM! But there is something the bully doesn’t like. Something that the bully fears immensely. Something that the abuser never wants to see. They never want to see one of their victims get up from the dirt, dust themselves off, and keep fighting. Nothing makes a bully more afraid and nothing can suck all the heart out of their chest like a “victim” who doesn’t just lie down and comply and die. I am not a victim. Everything that conspired to destroy me did not succeed in destroying me but succeeded in giving me a more focused purpose. It succeeded in revealing the victor inside of me. It succeeded in making me stronger and wiser and more empathetic and less afraid, because now I know, I conquered it once, and I will conquer it again. So thank you to all the abusers and bullies and cheaters and control freaks and liars and manipulators and narcissists who beat me down, rejected me, abandoned me, brutalized me and tried to destroy any good I had in me or believed about myself. Thank you, Because you brought out the beast in me. You showed me that I can get through this and you helped me see that there is no quit in me. My daddy left me when I was little, but I am not a victim. I was physically and sexually abused, but I am not a victim. I was served divorce papers on my anniversary and had my kids taken away from me but I am not a victim. I was gossiped about and slandered and lies were spread about me but I am not victim! I am not a victim! I am not a victim! I am a victor. I am an even more empathetic warrior. I AM NOT A VICTIM. You have no more control over me or how I think. I am done enabling you and empowering you to keep me down, hold me back and locked inside your prison of fear and anxiety and shame. I am not a victim, I am a CHAMPION, and this dark, cold world will feel the wrath of my warm laughter and fear my smile and run from my love and trust and hope. So thank you, to all you cowards, you narcissists, you abusers and bullies. Because of you, I am so much stronger than I ever was before. You beat me down, you ground me to ashes. But here I am roaring in the face of all your adversity. I am not your victim, I am a Champion! So who are you?
By Michael Nash4 years ago in Psyche
Stop Waiting for Everything to go Back to Normal. Top Story - November 2021.
You’ve probably heard it before, or maybe you’re the one saying it. “When will things go back to normal?” Everyone wants to go back to a time before the pandemic, when they were comfortable in the life they were living, but it doesn’t look like that’s going to happen.
By Nicholas McKenna4 years ago in Psyche
Humiliation and Addiction -Joe’s Story
I talked to Joe on the phone. He first tells me that he has no experience in addiction. Then he starts to tell me about his best friend and his brother who did have trouble with addictions. Joe grew up as the youngest child and he did not do things that involved substances, he was afraid of everything. As he got older, he become very outgoing in his community, he liked to help people. He did not realize his brother had an addiction until he become an adult.
By Gabriella Korosi4 years ago in Psyche
